Hi, my friend and I have been together for four years. I never doubted him, I didn't follow him or restrict him from contacting other people. He's not usually the kind of guy who's addicted to social media and his mobile phone, sometimes he doesn't touch his phone for days. I unwittingly somehow noticed that he has been constantly with his phone for a few days now, does not drop it from his sight, carries his charger everywhere with him, and does not leave it in places where I can see it. I suspected I hadn't seen his phone in a few days. I began to doubt it because when I asked him what he was doing during the day or how they spent with friends, he would answer me like he was guilty and he blamed me for questioning a lot, etc. And I started to get involved in his behavior bit by bit. I know his attitude, so I doubted it. I suspected it, and maybe it wasn't right, but when he fell asleep I checked his phone and saw a chat with someone else. It's his job, but the chat wasn't just about business, and I even thought he was flirting with her. I'm a woman, and I know when a man flirts with a woman. I would never exaggerate. I told him I saw the chat and we had a fight, he accused me of following him and so on. I can't react any other way when I see that he's trying to flirt with another woman. He said he wouldn't cheat on me because we live together and he loves me and he wouldn't do that. But he also said he wouldn't end his contacts with this woman because it was work-related. Now that he's hearing with her on business, I get really annoyed. I'm starting to think, and I'm just getting angry. So, my question is what to do. Am I confused or is it normal on my part.
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gfisgone1998 answered · June 07, 2020
You got him in your stride. Don't let him blame you for his mistakes. Just don't. He takes it off, and that's obvious. Let them cuddle each other.
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couplefromhell555666 answered · June 07, 2020
Tell this bag of lies to get out of your life because it makes you a monkey and puts horns on you, but you keep getting mad at yourself. Success!
Garo
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strong_z answered · June 07, 2020
If he's hiding, he's lying and he's feeling guilty, then he's got something to do with it. You saw the truth and his reaction after you confronted him with the truth, the ball is in your hands. It's up to you to decide whether you have a future together or not.
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bellelemerr answered · June 07, 2020
,,... I can't react any other way when I see that he's trying to flirt with another woman...,
Of course there's another way. You could make it clear as elderly and sensible people. Ask him if he's in love with this woman, depending on his answers, and your feelings you decide to stay with him or not. You have no right to tell him what to do and what to think. If you're not ok with something, you're just leaving, i guess that's not your guy. It's simple, there's no need for dramas, no guilty, everyone's looking for the best for themselves.
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indian24_hot_boy_on_cam_now answered · June 07, 2020
Is the woman beautiful? If it's not, don't worry. If he is, let him flirt a little bit to make him feel like a man. You know, a beauty of power doesn't work, so don't push him so you don't have to fight if you care about him. But make sure he doesn't cheat you anyway.
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yuliadushaya answered · June 07, 2020
The problem for people like you is that you react too restrainedly in situations like this.
To hold control in your hands, you have to show that such stories do not pass.
You see a chat- you get up and get out of here in a second. You're sitting there, and you're going to listen to him make you feel guilty about going into "personal space."
Besides, cheeky... he'd talk to her because they worked together... I've changed so much work, never has it ever been necessary for a colleague to be my friend on a social network...
Colleagues write e-mails when there's something to be done!
Yours isn't going to end well, you know. >
It's Bratan.
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kylie283828 answered · June 08, 2020
"I've changed so much work, never has it ever been necessary for a colleague to be my friend on a social network... "
That's because you're an antisocial temerut who loves his patriarchy a lot, because he can impose what he likes...
Who's going to want to be your friend?
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rch311 answered · June 08, 2020
It may not have been a physical breakup, but something's hiding from you. Maybe he likes her. Be observant, but don't make a scene. Sooner or later, the truth shines through.
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tarzeny answered · June 09, 2020
By tolerating something like this, you're just showing him how much you don't respect yourself. Why? He's not the last man, he's nothing. In his eyes, you're the woman who accepts such tricks, who's too naïve and in love with him to leave. The woman who's going to scream will be angry, but she'il get through, and she'il still stay. He doesn't think you're strong enough to leave. Demek can still do, and you'il still have to endure.
The very fact that he's going to keep writing to her, breaking everything, doesn't speak well either. It's a complete nerve. When it's so expensive for him to be with her cuddling.
Brattan's right. Besides, what do a man and woman have to say to each other in off-hours? Especially normal man and woman? If it's business, a few lines are enough to understand. Otherwise, it's weird. Are they talking about tv shows? Yours just takes it off, or even has a connection with her. She acted like a normal, self-respecting woman and left the man with her colleague.
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molly_doolly answered · June 10, 2020
My ex was writing business, and it turned out to be a two-year parallel relationship. And how cheeky you were when you found out... I'm chasing him, he's not going to go. Your man reacted very badly, keep your eyes open to making a fool of you. I hope it turns out to be something harmless.
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one99five answered · June 10, 2020
If there's nothing wrong with this one, why is he lying and hiding his phone and chatting? So there's something wrong and fake. On top of that, it's a fool- that you wrote because they worked together is a complete mess. He doesn't look for the guilt in himself, he doesn't love you and he doesn't respect you when he's flirting with someone else, he's lying to you, and he's got the nerve to blame you and keep going with this one. I guess he's not going to stop, he's going to keep lying and he's going to lie, maybe with someone else. There's nothing more to explain to him, dump him and take the garbage out of your life!
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neboner9 answered · June 10, 2020
The brazen bastard looks you in the eye and lies to you, beat his ass and don't deal with idiots and shit anymore
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jrockit8489 answered · June 11, 2020
To number 4,
... he's going to sit down and answer honestly... What's the point of a conversation when it's just lies? If he's hiding his phone and he's got his back thoughts, then he's knitting his basket and he's never going to admit anything. The truth always comes out at the end. Here the question is, will the girl be patient to see how far he will go, or will he beat his kick without delay? It's a matter of psyche, sensitivity, etc.
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elimilligun answered · June 11, 2020
Thank you for your advice. The night we had a fight, I wanted to leave, and I took my bag and left, but he wouldn't let me go.! Now I check his phone regularly, I don't know if it's right... There's nothing wrong with that. since then, they've written to each other 2-3 times on business... but I still doubt he's deleted chats. They've heard from them a few times, too. I don't want to be extreme... and be jealous for no reason, but I'm still human.
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nick_48 answered · June 11, 2020
Author, he didn't let you go because there's no one else to put up with this. If this co-student has her brains, she'il leave the man alone. At least you'il know. Have one in mind.