Hello, share! We have known the man in question for several years, but in recent months he has begun to seek more serious contact with me. I liked him when we met, but he had a girlfriend, and there were so many pretty girls fluttering around him that I decided to forget about him at all. This year he started writing to me, we went out a few times, he admitted that he liked me for a long time and would like us to be together. I didn't take him seriously because he has a reputation as a great womanizer, but his treatment of me is impeccable. I decided to give him a chance, although I keep some distance in my feelings, because he is quite suspicious of me ... And here is the banal story: A few days ago I was with them, he was taking a bath and his phone lit up. I inertia make sure no one calls and takes it to the bathroom if it's important, but it was a message from a girl: "How are you, handsome <3 "As much as I'm ashamed, curiosity prevails. I open it and scroll up - some hearts, some kind words and ligatures. Two weeks ago we had a fierce fight, and I had said that I didn't want to see him anymore and We didn't talk to each other for a few days. During this period he wrote to her to see each other, to come to them, why she was so cold not to wait for him after work and all sorts of things. , things get a little calmer, but in his messenger I look mainly at messages with some girls at the age of 16, and he is my age - 25. He constantly adds girls he doesn't know in his friends and I don't know what to think anymore. He is just wonderful with me - caring, he writes to me regularly, he misses me, he makes plans, he has been looking for a girl like me for years, because he's tired of nymphs, etc. But after reading it, it all hangs in the air ... I'm not surprised, I'm rather angry that he's lying to me and I don't understand why he's trying so hard to win me over while looking some others. Also, when he wrote to that one, I had told him not to look for me anymore. Maybe he thought that everything between us was over and he was looking for comfort, because after our quarrel he did not stop explaining to me how unhappy he was, how he dreamed of me, how I crushed his love. It's hard for me to know what he wants and if it makes sense to deal with him. What do you think? Maybe he thought that everything between us was over and he was looking for comfort, because after our quarrel he did not stop explaining to me how unhappy he was, how he dreamed of me, how I crushed his love. It's hard for me to know what he wants and if it makes sense to deal with him. What do you think? Maybe he thought that everything between us was over and he was looking for comfort, because after our quarrel he did not stop explaining to me how unhappy he was, how he dreamed of me, how I crushed his love. It's hard for me to know what he wants and if it makes sense to deal with him. What do you think?
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Бий му шута преди да си се влюбила и да започнеш да оправдаваш поведението му и да лъжеш себе си. Вече си започнала - търсел бил утеха. Аз като търся утеха, ще искам да остана сама, а не да изтаковам половината град. Сама казваш, че е женкар, той явно ти го е показал. Какво повече? Грижовното поведение е най-вероятно само някакъв фарс. Когато срещнеш твоя човек, ще осъзнаеш разликите между истинската грижа, тревога и внимание. Повечето като него искат да имат една "официална". Избират улегнало, сериозно и умно момиче, което с гордост показват. Тя трябва да е и добра и чувствителна, за да могат да я манипулират с измислени сълзи и "счупени любови" и тя се да им прощава и да си стои при тях. Но в същото време той зарибява по-младичките, наивни и лесновлюбчиви девойки. Да ти кажа ли какво им говори: "Тя моята е толкова студена, мисля да я оставя, но тя плаче като опитам" и дрън, дрън. Погледни нещата трезво - не си малка.
look at people's deeds, not their words. in words, everyone can say that you are unique, unique, that you are the meaning and guiding light of his life. it may flatter you, but far more important is what the person does. your man takes off chicks left and right, he doesn't even hide much. what does he want? to have a safe girlfriend while he takes off the girls, because they won't always tie him up. beat his jester and don't think about it at all. F44
So what's so much to think about? All your life you want to torment yourself with who you are writing to, why, do they see each other behind your back. And what's the point of being with him in this situation?
Every man is looking for a woman who can manipulate, he is looking for the one who will always be there and will always accept him. Your man takes care of you, gives you pleasure because you are comfortable, but he does not stop stroking your ego with others, because when you dump him there must be someone safe. Drop it quickly and find someone who will appreciate you.
Well, it's more than clear he's lying to you. Why do you deceive yourself and believe his words? This one is just a man who is not serious and will never be serious in his life. Remember the words that this one will have at least 5 marriages behind it.
How careless of him to leave his phone in the room where you are while he bathes. You can drink a glass of cold water and thank God or whatever is up there, because there are people who hide (quite successfully) and you can't catch them for months. You're out of luck. No wonder. A man who suffers, another woman does not look, let alone anything more. Get out while it's time.
I was in exactly the same situation as you 3 years ago. Of course, not all cases are the same, but yours reminded me of mine, literally 160%. Just don't be naive and expect everything from such a person. I will also share with me what happened to me: We had met in different places before, but he was busy then. We met later, our first meeting was magical, he was very kind, he asked me how I was, he took care of me until the second month, when he started playing tricks. He made a crazy scandal of me because I use Facebook and Skype and that I write to my friends and acquaintances, he teased me about this topic and then he took over my personal space from everywhere. Then I saw that he was no more innocent at all and that he was actually the one who wrote nonsense to 15-16 year old girls and flirted with them quite seriously. While I was gone, he wrote to all sorts of schoolgirls and even got to bolder chats and webcams. There was constant denial and anger on his part when I confronted him, explaining to me that if he was with me then he was with me and that he always wanted a good girl like me, not a messy bun, but his behavior showed just the opposite. At one point, he began to hide and talk on the phone in no time and disappear without telling me where he was going or when he would return. So we spent 2 and a half years in persecution and hiding, scandals and even beatings and threats. In her first year, she allowed herself to insult me, hit me, and explain to me that no one else would want such ugliness. I tried to break up with him twice and he changed his tone, started crying and shaking and begging me to stay. Too bad I tied up then. Such men want exactly good and understanding women in front of their / society, but in fact they are the most ordinary bloodsuckers who can't keep it in their pants and want to pass every teenage girl with a nice ass, but they are ashamed of it and they create a false image. Even if you've noticed, these types of men don't have very close friends and constantly talk behind the backs of other boys. If I was smart enough then, I wouldn't stand there waiting for him to turn me into a self-pitying rag. Keep one thing in mind, don't let it brainwash you and turn you into a zombie. You will even realize that your feelings were not so strong, and this was a simple physical attraction and nothing more. but they are ashamed of it and create a false image. Even if you've noticed, these types of men don't have very close friends and constantly talk behind the backs of other boys. If I was smart enough then, I wouldn't stand there waiting for him to turn me into a self-pitying rag. Keep one thing in mind, don't let it brainwash you and turn you into a zombie. You will even realize that your feelings were not so strong, and this was a simple physical attraction and nothing more. but they are ashamed of it and create a false image. Even if you've noticed, these types of men don't have very close friends and constantly talk behind the backs of other boys. If I was smart enough then, I wouldn't stand there waiting for him to turn me into a self-pitying rag. Keep one thing in mind, don't let it brainwash you and turn you into a zombie. You will even realize that your feelings were not so strong, and this was a simple physical attraction and nothing more.
Well, I think he's lying to you. and since, as you say, he is obviously a skilled womanizer, believe me, they know how to lie well and enchant and pretend to be innocent by catching them. it is possible that you really like it a lot, but women find it difficult to part with the usual demeanor and find it difficult to change, in the sense of ceasing to communicate in parallel with other women, and easily like many women at once :). it is probably possible, but I think he must be very much in love and love you, and even decide that you will be the woman, and it will still take time. do you think this is your case? in general, I do not like such behavior and I would not stand. even if you were arguing for a while at the time ... he obviously didn't feel sorry for you, he seems to like you a lot. and he's tired of nymphets, so he keeps talking to them and making friends ... and for 16-18 year olds I have no words ... even though he is 25 ... to fall in love with small, still immature stupid girls ... and if he is a womanizer, there must be some muffins with sullen beads, from the one where they post pictures of themselves in swimsuits, the coffee they drink and the new heeled shoes. this is mega bad, in my opinion :)
Off remove this one. I had an identical case some time ago. He was very caring, he liked me a lot, I don't know what. Then I found out by chance that he enters dating sites and writes to all the women in a row, which binds him. I had come in with a fake profile, and he started telling me heartbreaking stories about how serious he was as a man, how he couldn't find a wife and wanted a family so much, how he had an unhappy relationship in which he even wanted to propose marriage, but it turned out deceived because the woman was not serious and had learned I do not know what things about her past. I naturally did not mention that I currently have a relationship, although we were together for almost a year. Well, when I saw all this, I abandoned him, I didn't reveal to him that it was me, I didn't see the point. It's been 4 years since then, I have a serious friend, and he's still alone and hanging out on the same sites, as I learned from my acquaintances. And he is already chasing the 40s. What can I tell you, people don't change, if you want something better run and don't listen to his stories, if you want to go with others while he is with you stay with him. But know that when you give up the worse, something better awaits you, so don't waste your time.
I can't understand you women. You only deal with intrigue, with women and then "But why did that happen?"
Thanks for the comments! They 100% overlap with mine, I don't expect anything serious from this person, although we understand each other very well and he behaves as if he is firmly sunken (he literally runs after my ass), but we have already sipped this potpourri. I don't respond with much enthusiasm to his love confessions, but he's perfect for filling time, no matter how rude it sounds.
You yourself were aware of what a commodity it was, you had the attitude not to invest feelings, not to waste time and put an end to it. Everyone can speak beautifully, but not everyone makes you feel really happy and calm. Success!
The man is still rolling muffins. How can I explain to you, they are just fresh and do everything with the childish stupidity that many people long for. It takes you back in time and makes you feel young. He's still young anyway, but that's a different kind of youth. However, the rolls are from day to day, nothing can be built with them in perspective and they cannot be a lady in the sense of the chess piece next to the king. That's why it was you.
Number what you say is sad but unfortunately it will turn out to be a fact but for both parties. would you do that where love goes in that case? If he doesn't love me and tell me something else, I would still be very friendly to him when he needs me, I will come to his aid, of course, after he first recovers from this and things envelop in a more normal way. There is no way anyone can expect to have someone next to him to help him by behaving in such a brutal way, why is that, can you tell me why? I really want to be loved to be enough for him if you understand what I mean to be persistent and so on. I take it seriously to look at the conspirators here, I feel sorry for such people.
Since you knew he had a reputation as a womanizer, why are you surprised? You deceive yourself if he clings to you, as soon as you argue, he will deal with others. If he really suffered, he wouldn't even think of looking for another.
Well, it is ideal for filling the time and for that it fills the holes of the chicks.