Hello! My story is this ... I've been dating a man for five months. I'm 20, he's 28. In the beginning, everything was great, but over time, the problems started. I'm not the type of girl who dramatizes events and turns them into something more than they are, but lately my life is a big drama. At first he began to impress me that the word respect meant nothing to him. She dumped me on New Year's Eve in the dumbest way, on Christmas in the same way. Once we were at a birthday party he got drunk, I put him in them, then he fell and split his eyebrow, I immediately took him to the emergency room, he was so drunk that the anesthesia failed to catch him after we left all night He was accusing me of how I could have taken him, and I don't want to tell you how much blood there was ... A case like this comes home drunk and breaking the table, after falling on it. And after those drunken outbursts that happen within a month, his excuse was that it could happen to anyone. I continued to be with him, just because I thought things would change, I'm naive ... Another incident we go to a disco, I dance in front of me, a girl passes by, he takes her hand and goes after her and imagine this is a 28 year old man, just my disappointment came in more. In general, every time we go out to 'have fun', something like this happens. And if I start telling you about phones, text messages, secret calls, I won't have enough space. But one thing crossed the line, once we went to see a movie, but he went to the store and after 5 minutes someone rang the doorbell, I thought it was him and he forgot his keys, I opened the door and saw his ex-boyfriend. She asked me if I was his new boyfriend, I answered very politely and she started telling me how she had been calling for a week, he wanted to make her dinners romantic and I told him to stop looking for her and that he was a big liar and женкар. I told her to wait for her to return, but she decided to leave. He came back, I hit him and asked him for an explanation, he started to justify that he didn't have a number at all, that she was jealous of him and that she was with me and wanted to ruin everything, but the strangest thing is that he made me romantic dinners and I began to think about who was lying and who wasn't. After this incident, he crashed his car and lost his car and his job. Then he told me that he had found a job at his brother's restaurant for a week and we couldn't see each other ... I saw him once in 10 days, he came to us, he wanted us to go to a disco, if I went with him he wouldn't go to work, and if he didn't go, he was interested in it at all, just to go out and have fun. I told him that I would talk to a friend who happened to live above them, if she wanted to come with us I would come, I just didn't trust him to be alone with him, to dump me in a disco. And I go to my girlfriend and five minutes later he rings her doorbell because they are friends with her father, he sat next to me super surprised that I was there (I had told him that she should come over) and I go to talk with her on the terrace and who can see through the window, his ex-girlfriend rings his doorbell, I go to the living room to ask him what's going on, and he's gone .... And I look down there and he's supposedly chasing her ... She went upstairs and called me and said that I had seen her. I asked him if he didn't have the number and how he found out he was looking for you, he told me that he forgot the iron on and went downstairs and heard that someone was calling him and went out to see him. I have to be very bad to believe another lie and I told him that I have nothing more to discuss and I do not want to be with him. I asked him not to look for me anymore, I even told him with tears in my eyes how much he had hurt me, what I had experienced with him in just five months. But he doesn't leave me, he finds me constantly calling, he writes me twenty text messages a day in which he explains to me how bad he was, he needed me, he didn't feel like living and he couldn't sleep eating because of me. He started blaming me for behaving this way and I didn't want to see him, I didn't give him a chance. He wasn't like that, he was going to change ... It makes me feel guilty, for ignoring him, I don't know what to do. I don't really want to see him after all, and I'm deluding myself that he's not lying to me, even though I've received so many signs of destiny. I find myself in a terrible trap. I just want to live my life without drama. And he doesn't leave me, he drinks all my energy ... Please, give me advice or opinion !!!
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I know what you're talking about. You have to be strong and stand your ground. Don't let yourself be manipulated. Don't feel guilty about anything. Your friend is a great manipulator and actor. I don't know if you've heard, but there are people who call themselves "energy vampires." They suck the energy of the weaker of them and your strength will weaken. I hope he's not as aggressive as mine. in addition to making me feel guilty, he killed me, called me, spoke so that I would feel sorry for him and feel guilty and worthless. You see, he was always the victim. I monster became 43 kg. , pale, I cried all the time and struggled with his attacks every day. if necessary, complain to your parents. You must GET RID of this person at all costs. Surround yourself with friends and don't let him brainwash you. My struggle was long, but it was worth it. I haven't fully recovered yet, but I'm living a second life and I'm starting to regain my smile. Find energy vampire material on Google "and maybe you'll get to know your friend better. I believe the sun will rise over your sky as well.