Hello. Recently, things are not going well in my relationship. I have been with the boy for a little over half a year, 10 days ago there was a violent scandal about his act, which is not important at the moment. But since then I feel different, he doesn't call me, and he used to do it at least once a day, he only looks for me in the evening, he doesn't want to see me because he's busy, I went out of town with relatives because of how hard I can stay alone, without hearing me without seeing each other I asked him what the problem was, etc., given that after the nonsense he did, I must be the one who is not looking for him and I deliberately did not (so I went to my hometown for a few days), and he continues to justify that is super busy, you see for two minutes he can't hear me. He did it on purpose, he said that I was withdrawn, but why not after our last quarrel, which really made me very angry. Basically, anything takes me two days, but this time it lasts 10 days. And he doesn't see a way to make things right. Tell me what to do, when talking about a possible birth, he agreed to make speeches, trying to find me guilty. I left things unresolved pending advice. Thanks in advance!
1 skylarbaby_25 answered
My advice is to be less stubborn and think more. I do not mean that you do not think at all, but that you need to look at his point of view, understand it and talk to him without arguing. I usually give myself a day or two to think about everything, then I talk calmly and the conversation ends when each of us has said everything he has to say and we have found a solution to the problem. These conversations may be out of control, but it's good to express your opinion, to show understanding and to see if it makes sense to fight. You are stubborn, you go to another city, you accuse him ... I guess you haven't had another quarrel, have you? What makes you so different? You are angry, he is angry, everyone is waiting for the other to take some action. Yes, that's how it comes to separation, and if you don't want it, then tighten up and talk to him. You can argue 5 more times,