Hello. A girl of 20 writes to you, my boyfriend is 25 ... The other day, while we were having sex, he started caressing me very gently, as if I had just blown a rose, which he is afraid to tear off and touches it very gently ... I told him, that I was very pleased ... The next night the item was last night, I asked him to do the same ... It's not who knows what, it's not something disgusting or hard to say he doesn't want to do it .. He laughed and he refused ... I became extremely uncomfortable .. Whenever he asks me for something I do it with pleasure, and I once asked him for something and he refused .. He told me it's like me to you I say "Blow me", and it's not the same at all ... He was almost offended that I shared this with him, again I say it's really not about something rude, disgusting, perverted, etc ... My question to you are, why was this sharp reaction,
1 koyabukazutoyo_shinkigeki answered
The question is fundamental. It's one thing to tell someone what you like and share it if they've done something you enjoyed, it's quite another to want it. I follow the philosophy that one should not ask for touches and caresses, you say what you like, but you do not ask the other to do it and you do not oblige him. After a while, it doesn't really matter if your friend says "Blow me." asks so directly and urgently. Of course, even if the desired action happens, it will not be pleasant, very likely for both. That's what he was trying to tell you. If by chance he still wants things directly from you, well, then he is basically wrong. However, if he asks you if you want to do something, things are different.