Well, congratulations, your husband's gay. : )
Do you feel alone you are not happily married or do you prefer to keep fooling yourself?
Maybe not all men are like that, but watching a stranger masturbating is sexy.
I prefer to look at her and pay attention to her, but she's very busy, she doesn't have time for me:)
I tend to think he's an addict, even more so that he did it before you got pregnant. The problem is that you ignore the pornography, but surely the brainiacs will still be found to spit out how normal it is, it's a man and it's a natural, it's nature, you want to cheat, and then you get to cheat.
The reasons can be much-easier it is, women there are always different, and the different is interesting (even if it is not some beauty with an ideal body), it seems like they do it for him specifically, etc. Freud, of course, had an explanation for this in the face of "The Madonna-Whore Complex", where, generally speaking, the man did not feel a sexual desire for his official partner, who believed to be a mother, a saint and, in general, a non-sexual object. On the other hand, there are leagues in the loose chicks, who are offered the most unfortified, like to be "humiliated", making a lot of sex with different men, etc. It's the image who create a actresses. There are several theories as to why it would come to such extreme disunity on the issue of mother, unconscious fear of castration, vengeance, etc. You can look if you're interested.
You're going to have a hard time with an addict. Pornography addiction is no different from drugs and alcohol. I doubt it's time for things to get better, and with a child, even less likely. You can turn around, but He'il prefer to watch the internet.
There are two options: you stop caring, you watch your child, after a while you find a lover in that spirit. The other is to fight together, including professional help, which will be quite difficult and depends on how much you want to fight for your husband. First you need to admit to yourself that there is a problem and ask to find a solution with your support. A strong will and desire is needed. Speak directly and firmly, but without scandals and accusations. You have to put clear boundaries, the abuse of pornography has no place in a relationship. Prepare to be called a crazy, senile and holistic woman, to lie to you, to cheat, to hide. In no case do not sacrifice your nerves in long-time battles and torture if he does not want to move his finger. In that case, just let him sit with his hand in his pants and live his life with the child.
That's not going to change nice. I live like this for 15 years. It's just that they like it, whether it's satisfying or not. It diversifies in this way, and may be cheating on you. Sit down and talk about these things with him, directly and accurately name things with their real names. Sex is at the heart of a relationship, and when that lame won't spend a lot of time together, I think.
From the author:
By 1: Well, thanks, but he's not gay. Certainly.
Up to 2. Actually, I'm very happily married, but when it comes to intimate relationships and conversation about them, he runs away from conversation and action. It's like he's forcing me to do it.
Up to 3. Probably. Except for him, I'm his wife, for the rest of the men I'm unfamiliar. I guess he won't enjoy it. I'm looking for male logic. Do you lose any idea of the real relationship in bed with the watching of hentai and so on?
Women, why do you think if you're a woman, it's all like other women? How do you find differences in the type and size of the penis, and you think that your squirrels are exactly the same type? Yes, it's always a hole, but the facades are different, some more attractive to look at, tight and beautiful, like a candy to make them feel, others are just for publicity, especially if they have a mini-turkey, what do you see in that view? Something else is foreign, it's always better than ours. There's a lot of women here who are always looking out for foreign men and bragging about it, and the man is not bragging about what he's doing. Do him a performance, but well Mitt something unconventional, that's what he hasn't seen in the pornography.
I think one of them has no connection to the other. Unknown why, most women think that every action of men is related to their relationship and is "for" or "against" them. Realistically, a man's actions may have been dictated by thousands of reasons. Starting from the fact that he is really tired and instead of being physically burdened, to worry that he may not cope and anticipate a possible reproach then-Glassen or unglazed, it is much easier for him to look at something that excites him and so.
The other crap that was always strange to me when I read the comments here is the notion that if a man watches pornography or something like that, it must be self-sufficient. This is not necessarily the case. Very often, men watch the hentai, just for a variety or see something interesting. And again, usually, there is no connection with our personal relationships and the women around us.
And the third thing that's funny to me--when a woman says, "I'm very unfortified and interlace things." Well, no matter how hard you are, if there's anything that repels the man next to you, or you're already bored him, whatever you do--to be with erotic underwear, to be wearing a hat and a cloak, to be with a feather in your ass, or the devil knows what else--that's the same woman again. And this isjust not a variety.
Don't attack the author or any woman. Just brighten up some principle situations
And I look at masturbating women, but I don't get sex at home. Mine's a super-stiff, whining about these things, and we're just arguing. I'm putting on a few pins and voila. But to admit, pregnant women are the sexiest and full of hormones and sex is great. I'd love to give you what you need. What kind of infidelity is it when you go home every night and watch your chores?
No 12,
Yes, in many cases, there is no connection between a man's pornography and partner. It is quite possible to be attracted to your wife and watch pornography.
It's more like the moment you start to prefer the clips to the real contact. At least with such an impression I remain from the topic-the author's husband has energy for fitness, but not for sex? Waiting for her to go out to dig through the sex sites? They didn't have regular sexual contacts at the beginning, which would have been OK, could just be with a low libido, but still watching pornography? "I want to, I'm not willing." The excuses that he is tired and/or afraid for his performance, apply only sometimes. You can't sneak away with this every time.
Not at all... If you're not willing to have sex with your wife, if you don't want to do it, in general, if it doesn't attract you, if you-what-you-me, tell yourself! What do you expect her to think when you ignore her, but every day you stare at a dude? Hiding, denying, pretending to be 6 without 10, but not telling the truth. Because it's not a speech to have gone on a business trip for a week, and then you can have a day or two to get "olish." It's not the problem with pornography, the problem is he prefers it and then he's a mouse. Nothing more.
With the third point I totally agree-a new brothel with old whores is not done, but again-openness, honesty, and so on. Lying and hiding are no less painful.
Otherwise, author, I will allow myself to answer your question about the idea, even though I am not a man, but over the years I have been with some gentlemen who have, to varying degrees, been addicted to pornography, nudity, beautiful women in general, etc. Some more, others less. So... And yes, and no. I have experience with both extremes-one sincerely stated to me that the chicks in the hentai movies, who watch, enjoy it much more, the real sex is not so exciting. The first one was bragging about some kind of boob actress who worked as a librarian... Ex, why haven't I been like her, etc. They've commented on postures, situations, divers gymnastics and movements that are a little hard to get, and the man is 50 pounds of heavy quilt, but he knows his own. On the other hand, there was one who stared every day at least 2 times. There were thousands of download torrents, the whole filmography of dozens of actresses various different things. That didn't stop him from having sex 15 times a week. My current friend also looks a lot, but we rarely have problems in sex. If I didn't know he was watching, I wouldn't understand his behavior.
So, in my opinion, it depends on the intimate experience, on whether there is contact with reality, etc. It is absolutely possible to clearly distinguish the real sex pornography. But others do not have this option, especially people who grew up with this genre and almost did not have a different experience. Now, there must be no man who doesn't want the woman to be a wild wax and get him out of sex, but some understand that it's unlikely. Like us, women, we might wish everyone was big and fat, like in the movies, but the Nutki.
No 5
You sit and tell him that if he doesn't give you what you need, someone else will give it to you. Men a lot. There's no time for you, it's "tired," but for the hentai k * * * * * * He's not tired. Come on, man. And as for the sites-find yourself and you one with masturbating men (you will find somewhere) and look at you. But leave it, it's like your husband would accidentally fall on it. Then let's see his reaction. I'm sorry about my sharp comment, but I'm getting tired of things.
Black Sabbath
For me, the pregnant woman is also very attractive. During both of my wife's pregnancies, we had a lot of sex. I don't remember until when, but maybe sometime until the 7th month. There are comments that men want diversity. The pregnancy for me is a variety with my own partner. The body changes and offers other experiences. Yes, the belly grows, etc., but on the other hand grow and the breasts and with them can be a lot of fun. And the female temperament is changing quite a lot during the pregnancy, I was getting a lot of things in sex from my wife, for which she was difficult to agree. This is evident from the description of the author.
About the question of masturbating: yes, I like to watch a woman masturbate. But for so many years with my wife, I never could have made her do it for more than 10 seconds.
Like he wrote 5, pornography is like alcohol and cigarettes. If he's looking so much, he's certainly creating a pattern, and unfortunately you don't match him. Hard work...
And as he wrote 6, sex is basically not a relationship. You must be at the 30s. A man of these years should be dying for sex. And to be released at least 1-2 times a week, otherwise it will be empty in sleep.
Are you sure his testosterone levels are fine? This can lead to tiredness, lack of desire, etc.
Author, just accept it! Accept that your husband likes to watch other women masturbate. He needs this, he brings him joy, he's interested, he takes it like you call it.... And your world will become much more orderly. And I had such anguish until I realized that the sexuality of a man was a very broad concept and could not be confined to an object. With my husband we have a very passionate intimate life and yet he: and masturbates, and watches pornography, and staring other women, and desires them, and fantasized about group scenes, etc. I do pretty much the same without specifically wanting it without having ceased to love my husband and without cheating on him. All this is perfectly normal. It's not fair, in my opinion, to bend someone's hands and force him to lie to you that, you see, it starts with you, and the world ends with you. I even think that if a man is so painfully obsessed with a woman, that she can fully wield his imagination and rule her own head, it is about a perverse interest in her. In short: This is the mental model of psychopaths. God forbid, author, by a husband who is obsessively focused in you! Let the man have some fun. In our country, everything that worries you is the subject of jokes and banter, because we freely talk about it. I bet that this misunderstood chastity you impose on your relationship is also a cause of your cool, intimate life.
Dear wife, do not otždestvâvaj all men with yours. You chose him and you're "happy" with him while he's lying to you, and in general you have huge holes in communication. Look for the guilt elsewhere, not in men in general. The way you chose it, you got it. Sakon Someone to open your eyes that you do not know how to make good choices and think rationally. ' Cause love was feelings you saw. Well, no, it's not just feelings, there must be some rational component, or one will always take advantage of the other. As you are. Congratulations.
I'm a man, yes. We're losing the urge for the pornography. Fact.
It happened to me since I was 19 years old. My girlfriend (My greatest love; we were both virgins) was much higher than I was, which was a complex one. And it was also a complex of many other things. Otherwise, we loved each other insanely, on another level.
It happened that only I in my entire class could not go to my prom. Nothing, I said, I'm going to go to hers. Yes, but she didn't invite me... ' Cause I was short for her.
Then get started with the
I'm the last comment. I didn't want to send it.
... Then it started with the rubbing of complexes that I had been low I kept pushing things like a high-heeled shoe., wearing clothes on the striped, that I looked taller... and etc. The crap. And so my trust in her began to fall permanently. Sex has diminished, even though it's always been great. I started to watch pornography, she started cheating on me.
Author, look for the cause in it somewhere deeper. Dig into his past and see why he's watching the pornography. It's a psychological problem. It's not too complicated to decipher. Just get to know him. Success!
Off, and at the beginning of our marriage we were almost like that. I didn't catch my man watching pornography, but I guess he did. We didn't have anything to do with sex. If anything raznoobrazâvahme at all, it was on my initiative and briefly. He refused.
Today after more than 20 g. Marriage, we barely have sex. We lost interest. Or at least him. I guess it's self-sufficient. I don't think she has a mistress. This is waiting for you too, unfortunately.
I think it would be helpful-"https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vzE_H1xn3yY" when the soul is gone, the self-gratification comes. Every beginning is good, but quickly spills out of selfish motives, everyone thinks that he gives more, rather than gets enough. The author is in pregnancy, she needs a lot of attention and support, but as hard as she is, how much it will cost her a smile to her husband, a warm word, a bark, it is enough for the man to feel desired and needed. Then he will become selfless. After a good start, the woman thinks she has achieved, she has caught a carp and begins to want, as if she had caught the goldfish. Yes, but there's a difference between carp and goldfish. The carp felt that he was stewed, trying to save himself, some in seclusion, others in the litter of strangers, at first it was already broken. How to regain, through heat, only the heat is the catalyst, it unites. Swallow your ego, and instead of asking, start giving warmth and love, only then will you experience happiness. Through war, discord is obtained!
No1 easily recognizes his peers, so such conclusions do. They seem to know their lives, and there are others who support him. Her husband, if he's gay, is not going to see women get satisfied!
No. 25, men after 50, we no longer have sex as it was before, that doesn't mean we don't like our wives or that we have lovers.
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