I often read your stories and get valuable advice for myself. I decided to share my story. I am a 20-year-old girl, I am a student in my hometown. I am a very strong character, only in one respect I am not love. Two years ago I experienced unrequited love, for which I suffered a lot and to this day I cannot overcome my fears of being hurt. I can't let anyone close enough to me. And so for almost 3 months now I have been dealing with one person - 28 years old. We met from mutual acquaintances and started communicating via Skype, and later via SMS. Gradually we started going out and seeing each other more and more often. He is very patient and does not force things, the problem is in me. I don't know if I want to be with him. I'm fine with him, but he doesn't have the thrill. I wonder if it is possible to fall in love gradually. I know that the first is love is the strongest and does not repeat itself, so I do not have the illusion of being like her. The person in question shows me that he cares about me a lot, he even told me that he loves me, he shows it to me. However, I shut myself off when someone tried to get closer. I'm so confused that when it comes to that, I don't know what to say. And in general I am a very combative person. He gives me his heart, offers me his love, and I don't know if I can return it. I ask myself a bunch of questions about whether I will be able to respond to his feelings, whether I will love him. People have said that it is better to find a person who loves you and you will fall in love with him later. Is that so? Should I keep trying or should I let him find someone who doesn't ask himself these questions, but is confident? I will be happy if I get advice from people found themselves in a similar situation. Thanks a lot to the people who read my story to the end.
1 phoenixxxlee answered
Yes, it is possible to fall in love, but this is far from guaranteed. 3 months is not much.