Hello, please give me advice because I'm really crazy. I was dating a boy for four years, when we met I was 16 and he was 21, in the beginning everything was flowers and roses, but less than a year passed and things started to limp, it was my fault I was small and I felt like going out, at first he let me go around without him, but I got drunk and flirted with other boys when we found out we quarreled and I didn't go anywhere without him anymore, but that weighed on me. We separated for a month, then we got together, we went again for about half a year, then we separated again for a month and again because of my antics, and so we got together and separated for 4 years. He loved me very much, he gave everything for me and whatever I did, he took me back under his wing. But last year at that time was the last time we saw each other, then it wasn't just me, I went to a bowling alley with my friends and I didn't call him for about two hours because I was involved in the game then there really was no other boy, but after so many of my performances he became paranoid and wanted me to call him every five minutes, I know I'm alone guilty, and so I didn't call him and he ended without even listening to me. I am too proud and I did not call him again for the insults he inflicted on me then, I do not like to be unjustly accused. So while I was wondering what to do with my life, I found another boy with whom I just thought to console myself, but it didn't happen that way, a year passed in our hectic life and I'm still with this boy. About three months ago I called my ex (I finally made up my mind), but he got mad at me and didn't want to talk to me, which hadn't happened before. Two weeks ago he got married and I realized that he was going to be a father, I was in a lot of pain, in a few days I was completely ruined, I always knew that he and I were for each other and that one day I would grow up and we would both get married. He really loved me a lot and I don't know why, but something inside me makes me think he still loves me. I just can't believe that in a year he has found a girlfriend and married her, and they are even expecting a baby, I calm down with the thought that he married her precisely because of the child, but I don't know. I'm really devastated, things in my current relationship have turned upside down since this happened, I'm constantly arguing with my friend about all sorts of nonsense. I loved this man very much, I know he loved me just as much, even more. Now I don't know what to do, I sent him some stupid, vicious and pointless text message while I was very ill, but not from my number and he doesn't know it's me. Now I was thinking of calling him, but I don't know why, I just want to greet him and see how he reacts, but I don't know if it's right. And most of all I want to see him and talk to him, but maybe it's not possible. Please give me some advice.
1 lazygal666 answered
As hard as it is for you ... I think you should leave him, try to forget him and improve your relationship with your boyfriend - he is still married and will have a child, even if he still loves you he has a family. And if he really loves you still and got married just for the sake of the child, imagine how he will feel when you call him ... he will get even sicker ... so don't look for him and both of you go on with your life ... he with her and the child and you with your friend ... after all he is not to blame for what happened to you and there is no need to quarrel with him ... this is my opinion .... I hope I'm SUCCESS also helped