Hello! I need to share my story. We have been together for 7 years, we are not married, but we have a 4-year-old child. We met and he loved me very much, me too. Everything was beautiful, but in the beginning. Things have changed over the years. I wanted us to be happy, to be well, just to spend some time together. Our child was born, he helped me. But in the last years of work at home and does not pay attention to us, does not go out, and sits on the laptop and plays a game. At first I lasted, I said it's temporary, he'll get tired of the game, but no ... If he doesn't play on the computer, he plays on the phone. I tried to be good, to be happy. From time to time we go out, but as if to blur the situation, once a month or week attention for a whole year and play again ... He works and is responsible, but in general all the worries end when you make money. When I see a child in the park walking with his father, it hurts a lot, I feel heaviness. He does not deal, does not go out with his child. She is happy, but only a little. I experienced that there was no attention for me, but for. the child can not. I stopped muttering, I don't want anything and I don't talk. He started behaving well, making surprises, inviting me for coffee, taking us out. Don't get me wrong I didn't want big things, just to spend time together as a family. I have already suffered this was another time. I know that if I pay attention to him now, it will be the same again. I think I want to give myself time, I want to go to my hometown for a while in the summer. I can no longer, at least try temporarily without each other. I was already going to my town to rest from each other, because he was just angry that I was asking him if it would be earlier than 12-1 in the evening of the game, or what would happen, if he doesn't play one night ... He played all the time, I thought I was bothering him and that's why he sat down to be distracted. But when we were gone, he played again. I will be happy for opinions ... Thank you for reading my story. A mother of 25.
1 theotisbeasley answered
I think you're just in a hurry to tie this boy to a child. You were ready, maybe, but he's still a boy - he's interested in nonsense. Still, don't be in a hurry to leave him, because you're both young enough to change and mature, and he'll mature. Takes responsibility, taking care of the family's livelihood, has recently shown some change. Every family goes through difficult times. Look at his good side. Soon your child will be looked after and you will have more time for yourself. Also, don't expect him to think for himself. Men want to be spoken to in plain text, they are not telepaths and they do not understand non-verbal signs like women. It's just the solution - tell him what you wrote without unnecessary emotions and without blaming him. That's what it looks like your boy likes to be home, he's obviously fine with you, step on this solid foundation! Find someone to look after your child for Saturday and Sunday and take time only for your husband, give a little more of yourself in bed, he will give you back 3 times more outside. Be patient and you will be rewarded. Appreciate what you have, look around - it is full of drunks, thugs and slackers, do not throw away what you have, because you will appreciate it, but it will no longer be yours, and the father of your child is only him.