Hello, my name is ***, 20 years old, my friend is 29 years old, we are together for 3 and a half years, these 3 years we almost spent separated, he abroad, and I am UK because I am studying, I have been with him we have lived together, he is coming to Bg we are together and so for 3 years, he does not talk about marriage either, nor for a family, a cameo for a child! When I open this topic, it's like a current beat him, and he doesn't want to talk about it at all, he says only that: I quote "there's time for everything," he doesn't even want to propose to me! But we don't talk about our future because he gets nervous and we fight, and these are serious things, I hint at him sometimes not offering me anymore, and when he raises the subject and we fight violently, I know I'm still young, but I don't know if I should start thinking about a breakup anymore. In this situation, I want to have a family in the future! How do you think about where the problem might be?
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sexxxyview answered · June 09, 2020
Your problem is that you're too young for family and marriage, and he probably has another one abroad.
Grab on and get a grip - study higher or study some profession (craft is stolen), and this guy's got a kick. He just uses you for sex when he's in UK and for an emotional waste basket.
If a man loves you, he'il find a way to be real with you and want to take more responsibility for the relationship.
g35
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divinehott answered · June 09, 2020
The problem is, you don't know if he doesn't have a girlfriend overseas. He may want a girlfriend in UK and there and therefore not wanting a family. At his age, it's time for a family. I don't think there's any point waiting for him.
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divacute answered · June 09, 2020
Why would he propose to you, everyone has a different view of life. Just because you're with someone, how long you're in doesn't mean he has to propose to you, does it?
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hellenmayy answered · June 09, 2020
You're a little overdone, and that makes you look desperate and in need of marriage and family to validate yourself as a person. Don't cling to it like that, let alone be a little girl, so you can be filmed to such a family theme.
Finally, the ring, signature and child are not a guarantee of a good joint life, your partner will not be "bound" to you forever by getting married. People fight, divorce and do great fairs whether they're officially tied up with kids or not.
Your friend probably doesn't want to get married, but he's afraid to tell you because you get nervous and you push him. It doesn't work. Even if he's willing, it won't be his wish, it's to please you. That's not how you start a family - both sides need to want it sincerely.
You both act wrong - he postpones, avoids the question, whitewashs, etc., and you persevere and push as if you're desperate to the extreme. Well, that's not going to happen. You sit down and talk quietly about how things see them and what you want. You're not going to do anything with bickering and bickering. Even getting married is the worst option right now, because it's not mutually desired. These things happen naturally, people, not women's hysteria.
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sweeeethoney answered · June 09, 2020
G35
I don't see a problem. Marriage doesn't make a relationship, and it's not the reason if you don't get the chance to stay together. Also, you're 20, you can safely wait another 5-10 years and enjoy life. My boyfriend is eight years older than me, our child is one and a half, and we don't have a marriage and we don't want to have. We've been together for over 10 years and we get along great.
It would be nice to finish what you're studying, get together and live together in a country, work, travel, and then if you're still together to decide on children. The trick is to live here and now, not in dreams and plans for the future that may never come. There are many people who spend their whole lives misery and raise money with a lot of deprivation, and when they leave this world another enjoys what they have saved.
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johanns_ answered · June 09, 2020
Well, find someone else who's been married to him. When you're so close to being married.
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besterfmuscle answered · June 10, 2020
He's too old for you. In addition, he may be married/bound and have a child there abroad. In a word, dump him. You're too young for such complicated and uncertain relationships. Give yourself a chance for something better.
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tanyalivingston answered · June 10, 2020
n. 5 I see a problem that your friend is 43 with a one-year-old child, and you have given birth at 35. Just don't brag, it's not for praise. And don't give stupid advice just because you've wasted ten years hanging out.
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xjupiterhotx answered · June 10, 2020
The important thing is that you love each other. He doesn't have to have another overseas. He may not feel mentally ready for this responsibility, he may not have the financial opportunity to marry yet.... many things could be. This talk that you need kids married at 20 years old, and so on, left them for your grandmother. First finish your education, start work, and these things leave them for 4-5 years. I wish you a lot of love and happiness.
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julie_lanette answered · June 11, 2020
He doesn't want marriage and family ??? You, miss, have found a smart man!
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allicedomme answered · June 11, 2020
8, learn to think!
Author, ask him directly for the last time!
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dombear4twink answered · June 12, 2020
When a man loves a woman, he is ready for marriage. It's even more romantic than women. He's making plans, he's dreaming. That's what you feel. If at some stage he doesn't, you're just not the woman for him and he knows it.