Hi! I met him a year ago (life). You made a good impression on me at the beginning. It wasn't long before I fell hard. He was kind, thoughtful, cavalier. We were flirting for a while, but nothing happened. Basically, I'm showing desire, but he's backing off. I pass, he's getting closer. In the end, we had a fight and stopped all contact. It's been a few months. During the Christmas holidays, we heard again on my initiative. We continued to communicate online. He was kind and thoughtful again at first. I was very happy. We agreed to see each other in March (we are from different cities, I have a business trip to his). The worrying thing is that the old cycle repeats itself. As nice as he was, gradually he lost his desire and began to annoy me. This is happening. I try to be careful, to predispose it, to put in my own right, to speak kind words, and to make gestures. As a result, he gets annoyed, behaves arrogantly, criticizes my personality, insults me (supposedly a joke). I couldn't stand it, so I put it to him. This, with the rude and disrespectful attitude and this, with the lack of sufficient interest. It's not a very good option, but I couldn't stand it. He said he didn't care, in short. I get the impression that at the beginning of our acquaintance, this man was in fact attracted to me, but eventually permanently lost desire, interest, and categorically stopped respecting me! Don't get me wrong. I know what I have to do - close this page and smile again, no matter what it or won't follow on the other side. Is love associated with endless compromises with me and attempts to earn someone's attention? From these attempts, I have come to the point where the gentleman sees a bunch of negatives in my personality and is blind to all that is good about me. I'd like to read some other side reasoning, though. It often happens in my life that the ones I give out the most, they are the most arrogant tossed me.
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sara12121222 answered · June 04, 2020
Why are you bothering yourself unnecessarily? What kind of relationship would it be if things were going hard in the bud, by force.
I've had a similar relationship, and they didn't lead anywhere.
You know what to do.
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ethansxxx answered · June 04, 2020
This friend of yours reminds me of me when I was young. I had thousands of complexes. On the one hand, I hated myself, on the other hand, the little dignity I had left made me rude, pretending to be very smart, etc. Come to think of it, that's what saved me from depression. It's probably some kind of defense mechanism.
There was this girl back then, she loved me for who I am. I believe it wasn't because of appearance, as I'm more of an unlicathed. And I loved her, too,
but I believed I had nothing to offer her. Adding to all this and the poverty in which I lived, in short, I felt at the bottom.
And over time, I started insulting her. Not with direct verbal outpourings, but somehow thin and hidden. When I did, I felt better. I don't know why. I guess when you have nothing, it helps you get it out on someone. At least until the night came. Then I hated myself and regretted everything. Besides, I never looked for her, didn't answer calls, and openly ignored her. I used to say, like your friend, that I didn't care. She never brought it up, but even if she were, I'd probably respond with something rude. The little dignity left would not allow me to admit that she was right, even if I understood it internally.
As time went, she walked away, began to lose her respect for me and notice my flaws. I understood her all the time and kept telling her to leave me and find someone nice. That's what you did, and I was happy for her. But something about me died.
The reason I wrote this is to give a different perspective. Maybe your case has nothing to do with it, but who knows, if I can somehow help, someone reads, finds yourself, and subsequently corrects themselves. Then it was worth it.
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kokobeannn answered · June 04, 2020
The ones I give away the most, they're the ones who are most arrogantly throwing me away. There has to be a measure in everything. And some reciprocity, what kind of respect do you expect from someone who doesn't care much about you, even though you're making out with him? Respect yourself so others will respect you.
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reallytall answered · June 04, 2020
Can't they see that he's emotionally unstable with frequent mood swings? There's nothing good waiting for you with these...
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sweet_seduction_ answered · June 04, 2020
You do realize it's not normal for someone to be rude to you and to motivate you to be better at him? Look and read what emotional dependence means.
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bloomyogi answered · June 04, 2020
I don't understand people who are pushing themselves to get someone's attention, given that it's obvious that the person isn't worth it. All right, let's say one day you make it. You make him see the good things in you and...? He's going to be less of an idiot?
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fitboy21straight answered · June 05, 2020
Did it ever occur to you that you really have some kind of character shake that's unacceptable to him?
What are you, let's forget these annoying traits of yours because you use nice words from time to time?
For your sake, it's nice to think about what he's telling you about these negative traits of your character, obviously it's not the first time you've heard it at your own address. Maybe there's a grain of truth, don't you think?