I ask for advice, I'm terribly unhappy, but I'm afraid to take a step and change my life. My partner and I have been together for 10 years and we have been married for four years and a child a year and a half. At first, he tried very hard to win me over, but gradually it changed, and the icing on the cake was when the child was born. He kept saying there was no going back, that he was already born, but he didn't regret it. He cries sometimes and he can't stand it, sometimes he says "what do you want, your mother and I are going to drive us crazy, everything we do for you, and you cry again, on, and he's crying" and passing him by, and the kid is sedating even harder when he passes by. I cook, clean, feathers, look at the child by feeding him, warming him, washing, dressing,, a diaper has not changed, categorically refuses. Not that I want him to do it, but I'm just noting. We've been locked up at home all week, we go to the park at noon, but when the weather's bad and we don't go there. My mother wants to help, and we agreed to let the child watch it, so far only once it has been left for 2 hours to help us get out a little because 24/7 I am with him, and at night I only cry because of the teeth and I almost do not sleep, so I need a cheer. My husband says, well, it's okay, and when the day X starts to spin, he finds a way to fight and stay home. He's 31 years old, he just wants to lie down and dig into his phone all day and night, nothing else cares. Oh, and in the evening, drink beer. Don't talk to me much, there's no initiative to go anywhere. He has no friends, he pushed everyone away, he restricted me, I don't have any friends anymore. He's trying to set me up against my parents so we don't go there anymore. Sometimes he bites me and when he meets me, he tells me that I don't get a dress, that there's no one else to look at me, and before I was with him I was quite liked and I had a lot of candidates, not that I'm some scary beauty, I just wasn't clueless, but he tramples me by always saying "and who's going to pick you up, you already have a child... stay your son's ass and cook pepper." I asked him to take me to the movies, he said there were germs, and instead of going out for a walk, I wanted to go to the movies, but there's fog out there and it's cold... It didn't make sense to leave my mother's child like that without a reason, I said I hadn't been separated from him for a year and a half and I needed a little bit of variety, and he said: "I've got a whole week at work and I'm seeing people." So... He's so disgusted me with his attitude that I can't look at him as a man anymore, I don't want to stay in the same room with him. I suffer a lot. When I think of him, I think of a greasy slug who wants to squash me like plasticine like he's advantageous to him. When he sees that I'm pulling and I'm going to pack, he immediately softens and starts talking about things that interest me in order to appease me, but when I get a little bit of fun, he's the old one and I realize that it's manipulation not to leave because I'm washing him, cleaning, cooking, at home from the third day after the baby's discharge there's cooked food and there's always a vacuum cleaner and the sheets change every five days, his clothes are always washed... only the garbage throws, sometimes wash dishes, but I rarely leave in the sink. Since the child was born all day I am with him and between 4 walls, we also live in a hellish little dwelling, there is nowhere to turn around. He doesn't communicate with me anymore, he sits and reads Russian forums about how they fix their cars, how they think some tricks and nothing else excites him... I played with the kid last night, and he's watching a car show. I can't watch anything but baby TV. I even go to the bathroom with the kid, or I go crazy. He wasn't like that at all... something happened to him and showed terrible traits... after the kid showed up, he seemed to think I was in his hand...
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