Hello! I am an 18-year-old girl and I have been with my friend, who is 20, for 3 and a half years. He is my first love, but I am not his. This greatly affects our relationship. You know how it is with first love: you give your best, the person next to you is everything, you believe that you will be with him forever. While he loves me more balanced, more mature, but also less. Accordingly, he is not so careful about how he treats me, he is quite rude and primal at times. He wants to exercise control, to give orders. He believes that men should be leaders. These things, in themselves, make me wonder if I should stay in this relationship. A few months ago, I discovered that he had a two-month parallel relationship with another and ended it because I broke up with him for a few days and "realized how much it meant to him." He was going to tell me at the right time, he was deluded that I was tired of him, but he realized that this was not true. I decided to give a chance, perhaps not so much to him as to my great love for him. But after this infidelity, my love began to fade. I still really love it, like a child, but it's not the same. And I don't feel a change in his disgusting attitude at times. A few days ago I met on the street with the boy I was having sex with for the first time (my boyfriend is second). After we passed, I turned around, he too, it was so beautiful, my heart was pounding ... If he had stopped, I would probably have hugged him. I remember once thinking that somehow life would bring us together and we would end up married, haha. I thought about how much we fit together and how we would get along. Over the years, I sometimes thought of this boy and wondered how he was. I know that if I looked for him, he would like to see me. The question is whether to end my relationship for something completely unknown. My friend sees our common future, he is sure he wants to continue with me. He has his own small business, but he is 20 years old, which clearly speaks of his determination. On the other hand, do I know when yesterday's promises will have no value for him, as has already happened. I don't know much about the other boy, and I don't want to compare them as a commodity. I don't think it's an option to see the other boy to judge what the goods are and then decide whether to continue with my boyfriend. I do not know what to do. Give me some advice. What would you do? Is it really best to stay with your first and great love? which clearly speaks of his determination. On the other hand, do I know when yesterday's promises will have no value for him, as has already happened. I don't know much about the other boy, and I don't want to compare them as a commodity. I don't think it's an option to see the other boy to judge what the goods are and then decide whether to continue with my boyfriend. I do not know what to do. Give me some advice. What would you do? Is it really best to stay with your first and great love? which clearly speaks of his determination. On the other hand, do I know when yesterday's promises will have no value for him, as has already happened. I don't know much about the other boy, and I don't want to compare them as a commodity. I don't think it's an option to see the other boy to judge what the goods are and then decide whether to continue with my boyfriend. I do not know what to do. Give me some advice. What would you do? Is it really best to stay with your first and great love? to judge what a commodity it is and then decide whether to continue with my friend. I do not know what to do. Give me some advice. What would you do? Is it really best to stay with your first and great love? to judge what a commodity it is and then decide whether to continue with my friend. I do not know what to do. Give me some advice. What would you do? Is it really best to stay with your first and great love?
1 seductive_vik answered
In my opinion, your relationship is over, there are very few people who overcome infidelity, but you have to trust him again and take the risk of hurting him again. Sama said that your love for him fades, but when you saw your ex you got excited. I think you've already made your decision.