Because now he is happy, and if he has another, he should not leave them to you. And so as not to pass. Out of pure malice.
That's why I don't accept expensive gifts from the men I meet! If not, then give me your dolls, you worked for them ... In fact, it's a pity, you lived together and supposedly loved each other, and now what's coming out ...
You ask if it's normal? Yes, it's normal. For men in this latitude. My ex-husband left with my bank account, for example. The second one didn't buy a sock himself, but when I hinted at separation, he immediately wanted us to notarize that he was getting half my house. I told him that in order to throw him out, I did not need a notary at all, but only a literate locksmith to change the locks, and from then on the self-accommodation was the job of the police, not mine.
Well, so, author ... Be glad that the arrogant person only wants the TV set, and does not claim for the support for which you "owe" him.
In this forum, this infuriates me - that they call women "mercantile", while in practice men count their pennies because they fail to earn enough. And we push for three to provide for ourselves and our family. Yes, but that makes us "nasty careerists." Finally, when we draw the line, what comes out: he, the altruist, leaves with the dishwasher, the microwave and the washing machine, and you, the mercantile, go to the store and buy new ones.
Apparently he is furnishing somewhere or his relatives need him. Don't bother thinking about exes, look ahead.
Now he needed them, now he thought of them. In principle, I would not look for my things after 9 months without explicitly warning that in time I will come to get them.
Maybe he went somewhere where he didn't need it at the moment, and now he needs another explanation.
In fact, yes, something similar happened to me. My friend had decided to go to another city to achieve his goals. The idea was to stay together and, if I decided to move, call him so that someone could come and pick up the appliances he had bought. He didn't need them, he didn't want them, his parents had nothing to do with them. He had bought half the things he needed and I had bought the other half. We gave the same amount. Two weeks before leaving, he decided he wanted his things. I didn't have the financial stability to get them, because until then I didn't think it was necessary. It caused me some temporary trouble. A few days later, he announced that if we left, we would split up. It's a nasty thrill. I don't like the appliances and I respect his decision to separate, but he could have warned me earlier to prepare. So, it is inconvenient to wash jeans by hand, but it is completely surmountable.
My advice to you is very simple. If you don't care about the appliances and you, like me, feel it as a matter of principle, you better forget and live your life. It is best to have nothing to do with a person who first says one thing and then another and suddenly leaves you without any appliances. No connection, no TV, no contract. I'm glad I'm not washing my clothes in his washing machine right now ... that's all I can say. I recovered financially, got my appliances and I'm happy. Leave these principles to one side, they should not interest you if you have nothing to do with this person anymore.
Quite simple. Either he just needs them now and he is not given money for new ones, or during these months he has been spinning some movies in his head and set himself against you and so he makes you dirty.
Don't give them back to him at all!
In your case, the butterfly is your ex, boyfriend. There are such individuals, both men and women - they watch what they can do so that they are not capo. I am sure that even when you were together there were such manifestations on his part. We can't be angry with this type of people - dementia and natural stupidity just have to tell us that it's better to stay away from them.
It happened to me with an ex. We didn't live together to have common household items, but he had made me various gifts (not very expensive) for different occasions. After all, we had a relationship for 2 years. When we parted, he came to ask for his things, and even insisted that I return a blouse that his mother had given me. Think of it as a miserable mentality. As number 3 said, for men in these latitudes, it is clearly not something abnormal, as it is in normal countries. That's why I'm happily married to a German now.
N. Are you a woman? It's not your latitude and the men of it that are to blame, it's your fault, but it's hard to understand. Man as he put himself. And it's unlikely that your two ex-husbands are so black, and you're perfect. Now watch the third one carry you in his arms.
Either it is the typical Ganyov's simplicity as they said "not to pass" or .... if only after 9 months he asked for them, and not immediately, maybe he is looking for an occasion to see and talk. Think about how he behaved.
I am a young man and it is not normal for me. When you give something to someone, you should do it with good and pure intentions, and not then ask for your things back. At least he wasn't brought up.
I'm telling you the truth, darling. All my boyfriends, including my current one, are scoundrels. The past has nothing to take from me for the simple reason that they have not given me anything. But if I had electrical appliances from them, they would take them. My current friend doesn't like presents either. I have 1 gold ring from it, but it is the thinnest that has been in the store. If we separate - he will hardly take it from me, but if he asks for it, I will not give it.
He wanted to prove he was the big man. Now he doesn't care about your opinion and that's why he decides to take his things.
You offered to take them. He probably didn't think it was possible and accepted, but with your behavior you made it so.
№3,
I will disappoint you, but it is not normal. Your experience speaks for the people around you, not for Bulgaria or the Balkans. All the gifts (all 8 in number over the years) that I have made have been gestures. I did not want them back, they were offered to me for return. The gesture is a material expression of respect for the individual. Begging them back is just a pity. You have my condolences for the scoundrel who tried to deprive you of property, as well as my praise for its sealing. But your statement is nonsense.
If someone wants "gifts", let them take them. I would not keep artifacts that remind me of such a pathetic and petty individual.
He found another and decided to show himself to her with equipment. But what to give money. And don't say you don't take offense after taking offense.
You didn't have to give him anything back.
I had a similar story with my ex. We lived in my apartment, I had bought the appliances and the kitchen, he bought everything else. We also made a refreshing renovation, which was at his expense. While we were together we never quarreled over money, it even always gave me more than I asked for with the words "I want my wife to have money". Years later, he found another one, pretended to be a bully, but I caught him and wanted to drive him away. I talked to my mother about support and she told me "if you want to chase him you will have to return everything to him, he gave money". Well, I did not agree at all, even in court the separation will not be judged through my fault, but whether intentionally or subconsciously, his life is hell until he really comes out on his own. Honestly, there were no talks announced about the division of anything, but even if there were again I would not allow it because:
1. while he lived in my apartment, he did not pay rent, but still amortized and used it, so that his belongings remain as compensation for lost profits and lost time.
2. nowhere did we keep receipts of which furniture was in whose name
3. neither we were married, nor was it ever recorded that he lived at my address. there is no evidence even that we lived together.
If you lost it, it must be just malicious or it was the last desperate act to get your attention and consider improvement. If you were in my situation, you should have been more cunning. Kindness is rewarded only in movies.
This is not a man, but a complete idiot.
Look at the beautiful side of things, you will buy 2 new appliances that will be more beautiful and will save more electricity or you will get a TV with more options.
It didn't happen to me, but it did happen to my sister. After living with them for about a year and not giving a lev for it or for bills, they separated. He had 2 thousand clothes left. At first he didn't want anything and said to throw things away, after a few weeks he started calling and asking questions because he didn't have clean underwear and only euros 5. in his pocket and could not survive until the end of the month. My sister obviously knew him well, because as soon as they parted, he put all his money and the gifts he had in a sack and put them in the basement.
My theory is that he and a friend shared a joke about the Last One, he said that he left you TV and MB (to impress with generosity) and he was laughed at. He had to restore the friend's respect.
"I just wonder why he waited 9 months, and he didn't take them when he was exporting ?!" - he was hoping for a turnaround, his feelings were still strengthening him. But when he is convinced that there will be no good development, he takes his things back. Why are they considered gifts? He bought them with his own money for common use, if the author does not want to use the man, she will not use the things. That's why every woman wants to get married, then take half of the property, even if it was bought only by the man. Women have become cruel, commercial beings, there is no more soul, there is only accounting and intrigue! That if life !?
It has happened to me that a friend asks for one (and I am a woman, we are just friends, we were not a couple). He gave me their TV because they refused to watch. About the same time as she asked for it from you, but before that she had raised a scandal for me, which I did not quite understand where it came from. So it's true that he can make movies, as number 7 said.
It's funny how people change. It's funny how a person you've shared a bed with, food, given a part of your life, becomes angry and calculating when you break up. How quickly love is lost and this hatred and greed remains. That's why I no longer believe in love and I don't want expensive gifts from any boyfriend. If he wants me to give him something back, I give him back in an instant. There is no point in looking for it in months, everything in an instant. If it's equipment, I ask if he wants me to pay extra for it and leave it. Otherwise, I personally do not make expensive gifts. It's just that love and relationships have become so degenerate that one has to keep one thing in mind.
If I were you, I would give him everything back, right away. Neither TV benefits nor microwave. Let it irradiate.
Number 23 And to live in someone else's house without money and finally want back the insignificant thing you invested in this house, what is it? Aaa bitter muffins have become these men ...
Just congratulations that is in the former column!
And what will these things remind you of, no matter who they stay with? We do not know the reason for the separation, and it is essential to comment correctly. After all, things are a trace in human relationships, and some do not want to remain traces, they want to clear everything. They take them not out of greed, but simply to crush them out of anger, because he was deceived in a love lie!
Number 23, you turn things around well, but in this case she offered to take them, he pretended to be a man and said that he bought them for the house and for her and he thinks it is right to stay there. Then it twists like a baker's shovel. Such behavior is simply not masculine.
"He bought them with his own money for common use, if the author does not want to use the man, she will not use the things. That is why every woman wants to get married, then take half of the property, even if it was bought only by the man. commercial beings have become women, there is no more soul, there is only accounting and intrigue! "
Very inspired - but in this case the guy lived for a long time without rent, in a fully furnished home by the author (TV and microwave are far from essentials for a home) and as far as I understand without making other expenses for the home. For reference, if he had paid his rent for more than a year and the utilities somewhere, he would certainly have spent a lot more than the money for a TV and a microwave. So you say you didn't ask for them because you had calculated that they could get together - but when it didn't happen, you felt like you were gone. Who then is the accountant and the user?
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