Hi, I'm a 22-year-old girl. I live in a small town, I am a third-year student in Plovdiv, part-time. I have also been working since I finished school, I live alone in a dormitory and I would say that I manage to cope. I have been dating a 36-year-old man for about 2 months. I liked him the first time I saw him, obviously, he liked me too, because he immediately made contact with me. At first, I didn't know he was 36 because I would never give them to him, but later he told me himself. He is also divorced, has a 5-year-old son who lives with his mother. He invited me out, but I was worried that he was so much bigger than me and what people would say, and our first meeting was in his car. We just walked around the city for about 1-2 hours and talked. The meeting went OK, he did not reach out to kiss me, hug me, or make any hints to me. We wrote to each other non-stop. He woke me up every morning for work, everything was going well. I had already sunk in and I was generally no longer interested in human opinion. We started showing up together, we went to cafes, nightclubs, we were somewhere every day. We also went out with his friends, he introduced us. He has a pretty good job, he is at a very high level and he is very good financially. I also realized this later. Once after we were at a disco, we even went to them, we continued to drink there, and he had not even hinted to me about sex. Yes, we kissed, hugged, but that's it. I thought the man was a dream because he seemed to have serious intentions. Very often he asked me why I chose him since so many younger and handsome boys want me, what I saw in him, he was old to me, etc. I always tried to explain to him that I did not want him. because he has money, a good reputation, etc. It is true that the whole city knows him because of his profession, many people are "wary" of him because while he is at work he is quite bad (his job requires it) but these things have never been a factor for me. Everything was ok until 2 weeks ago.
It was about 9 o'clock in the evening and he told me he was going to bed. I also went to bed because I was sleepy, but I was awakened by a call from my sister. He told me that the man in question was at a restaurant with a woman (about 30 years old). My sister was also at this restaurant, she even secretly took pictures of them and sent me the picture. I was very angry and the next day I asked him why he lied to me, to which he replied that this was the friend of his friend, who is currently on a business trip outside Bulgaria and just had to explain things to her. I didn't believe him at all, but I closed my eyes and pretended that everything was OK. After that, several times it happened that my sister saw them together again over coffee, but not only the two of them but in a whole company of 7-8 people. I didn't ask him anything, I decided he was big enough and had his head on his shoulders to do whatever he wanted. Now, a few days ago, I was "served" that he was at a disco with the woman in question. Last night I stayed in the man in question to sleep, before that we drank and my courage came. I told him that I knew everything, that he could not make me he told me they just went out, that they met by chance at the disco, I told him I didn't trust him at all, I also told him to do whatever he wanted, that he had a head-on his shoulders and I'm not old enough to tell a 36-year-old man what's right and what's not. I just told him to think hard because in time he might regret it. People, I really care about him. I'm so attached, even now I have to I'm going to Plovdiv for lectures for about 1 month, but I have no desire to go at all, knowing that we won't see each other for so long. The other thing is, I always do what he wants. I used to go out to discos with my friends, and now since we met I haven't gone with them, only with him. I neglect my girlfriends because of him, I had recently gone out to a restaurant with them, we ate, drank and thought of going to a nightclub, but when I told him, he started to get annoyed why I hadn't gone to him instead of going to discos. I told him that I was fine, that I didn't feel at home, I even suggested that we both go to a disco, but he refused, he was tired. Eventually, I went to the disco with my friends, but I stayed for exactly half an hour because we were going to quarrel with him. I don't even feel the way he's manipulating me. He started telling me to stop writing to him, to have fun, after I was at the disco, I told him that if I wrote to him, then there was something for it. I apologized to him 100 times for going out instead of going to them, but he kept being stupid. I left the disco and went to them, we talked and went to bed. Just to emphasize that we haven't had sex yet. It happened that he asked for it once, but I was in a bad mood and it didn't happen. When we went to bed, he said that he was calm now that I was next to him, and he could sleep peacefully. We fell asleep, he woke up early in the morning, and I was still asleep. He said he was going out for coffee, but he was going to lock me up. Can you imagine? I agreed because I was going nowhere anyway. It was 8 o'clock in the morning, when he went out to drink coffee, I fell asleep again and woke up at 12 in the afternoon. He wasn't there yet. It was 3 o'clock in the afternoon and he had not returned yet. He hadn't logged in to Facebook or picked up his phone. I started to worry because almost 8 hours had passed and he just went to drink coffee. He came home at 16:00, where he told me that he was in service, that he had a problem with the car, etc. Again, I pretended to trust him, just so we wouldn't fight. I left them and went home. This morning I wake up again and my sister tells me again that he is there again with the woman in question ... I was speechless, how can he be so impudent? I wrote to him immediately, and he told me to tell my sister to stop so that he wouldn't tell her. "I don't know what will happen from now on, I finally hoped that something would happen to this man. , which is why I have always been honest with him, I share absolutely everything with him, I have stopped contacts with all kinds of men, and what does he do ... We are both Virgo if it matters, but his zodiac sign is definitely wrong. Virgo, he's so weird, I never know what he's thinking and what's going on in his head. At times he's damn nice, and other times he acts like he doesn't care. Give me advice, what should I do from now on? Yes to go with the flow and wait for his mind to come? To keep showing him that I hold on to him and hope that he realizes it himself? Or to stop all contact with him? The only problem is that I don't really know what their relationship with this woman is. He told me that when in doubt, I should go to them when I wanted to, "check". but I would never do that because for me trust comes first ...
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