Hi, I'm a 33 year old woman. Some time ago I met a man who at first glance seemed very interesting and funny. Since our contacts were business and we saw each other almost every day, we soon became friends and one day he invited me out. I was also very nice at dinner, we had a great evening until he drank more and started talking about his ex-girlfriends. He described them in detail, with all sorts of unpleasant details, even disgusting ones, explained who she was, what her name was, where she lived, what she did while they were together, all sorts of details of their life together, so personal and intimate that even me it got nasty. I asked him to stop with this topic, because it is personal, and I do not care. He said it was perfectly normal and with his friends, who regularly commented on women, with whom they had dealings, even their wives. Finally, when he sent me away, he said that he wanted us to be more than friends and gave me time to think if I wanted him too. And I really think so. I wonder if if we go out and then separate and I will be so commented in front of someone, my most intimate things will still be waved? Do all men really do that, or do I just come across an indiscreet gossip?
1 babi_nikki answered
Such tales, especially out of nowhere, make a very bad impression. Talking about them to a woman is like being in the company of your own ... And yes, most likely, he will describe in detail what and how to his friends, if something more happens between you. Assess how much it affects and interests you. Some are not impressed at all, for others it is a problem. Personally, I would not be happy to go into detail. I don't either. Otherwise, people like to discuss, regardless of gender, although I have not met a man who speaks extremely explicitly, even disgustingly. It's usually top-down, and my boyfriend and most of his friends don't even comment at all.