Hello, I'm a boy of 21 and she's 20. We've been together for 5 years, we really loved each other, we shared absolutely everything, but I also hurt her a lot. I thought she would never leave me ... Last year at that time we were very cold and there was a boy who was constantly pushing her (he is from her class and does the same with every better girl). She liked him a little and after I pushed her away she decided to cheat on me with him. They went out with him several times and another boy and girl in their class. They kissed several times and nothing more. He didn't pay enough attention to her, I found out about him, I said, and she decided she was wrong, that she was sorry, and asked us to make amends. This year she went to study in Sofia. She realized what I was limiting her with - she constantly had to comply with me, where, with whom and what she did, for drinking, smoking, etc. And I have approached a little more rudely to explain to her that some things are not good and right, but she is like children - the more it is forbidden, the more she wants it and until she shakes her head ... There the boy in question from last year has been looking for her again for a whole year. The last month we had to separate (not to see each other for a whole month) and in the second week she served me that she would go out with her friend from the old class and he would come (he was intrusive and maybe so). Whereupon I got angry and told her to do what she wanted, but I was furious. I didn't call her the next day. She called me and told me that several people from the old class would gather and he was there. I told her it wouldn't happen and I didn't want to see her again. The next day I realized my mistake, but it was too late. She told me, that after I pushed her away, she was again strongly attracted to him and wanted to go out with him to sort out her feelings, to find out exactly what she was feeling. They went out a few times, they kissed, he told her, "If you want to know if you're going to feel good, you have to try." He lit her spark and returned to our city and never called her again. She started to fall in love a lot, she lost her feelings for me. Now, she has been in our city for 2 weeks, but she still can't decide ... She goes out with his company, goes to a disco with them ... I am patient because I love her very much. I also promised to change everything I was wrong about. Now she can't decide. At one point she tells me I want to get better and forget that he wants to help her do it. The next one, he calls her and she loses her mind and her words. He once even told me that he doesn't know if it's possible for him to regain his feelings for me ... All this is greatly influenced by his girlfriends with advice like: "Watch your fun, let them get better" "Be selfish, don't comply with anyone" it is not and should not be. Because I have suffered a hell of a lot from all this and I am already on the edge ... What do you think Can things be fixed?
1 gaby_shore answered
Things could get better if you both change (grow up). So nothing will come out of this mind, it will get even worse.