From A Father

   Well, this father has come a long way on the Path and said things very clearly. I believe that his daughter will grow up a self-confident and happy person, because with such a father there is no other way!

   Tenkyu fadar;)

   I would like to be your son, you are a very wise man and everything you say is true! I wish a lot of happiness to you and your daughter!

   I would like to be your son, everything you said is true and you are a very wise man, respect !! I wish a lot of happiness to you and your daughter! And I hope there are more parents like you, your daughter should be proud of such a father!

   Unique!

   Very wise advice from a father to his daughter. But this advice should rather be addressed to young sons, because women after a certain age get married and then life for it takes on other dimensions, and men throughout their lives have to fight for success. From history it is clear that the father is relatively young because he gives advice to a young girl / woman who has not yet succeeded in life, who has yet to overcome many more obstacles and failures in life. If the father is about 40 years old, it seems to me that he is too wise for his age, so I think that these are rather extracts from the books of really wise people. But it is good that he has made them available to us so that we, not yet so wise, can learn from them.

   If he had written it as a letter to his daughter, one day he would have met his owner just as he was growing up. To the moderators - at least if you had put the story in the section (others) what kind of work there is in love and infidelity, that he loves his daughter, but here there is no idea for advice, sympathy, sharing. The idea is a kind of letter to a daughter, it's not even a story, but rather a poem / recital there are no questions, such as "would you write something like your daughters", so I wonder where the meaning is in the topic? There are similar written verses everywhere on the Internet (next to my daughter, next to my father, next to my mother), etc. :) If the author wrote it personally, he could still have an idea with a question to us in which to join, so there is a communicative look of a message. Great words and ideas, but for me it is unnecessary to publish messages in which there is no history, no question, there is nothing to share, sympathy, etc. which is actually the idea of ​​the site, namely people with more experience to give advice. Good day :)

   The author is up to 6. In fact, I am 32 and my daughter is 7. I personally invented all this and it was a moment of inspiration. It is dictated entirely by my personal experience. It's just that my life went so well that I had to get wiser at the age of 16 (when my classmates went to parties and beat up boyfriends, I was in hell and fought for my survival and life) and to this day I have gone through all sorts of difficulties, which many people have not gone through and would not endure. It wasn't fun at all then, and I thought about suicide many times. But no matter how hard it was for me, deep down I always felt that this whole thing would somehow pay off. It wasn't until a year or two ago that I realized how much these difficulties had given me. You have no idea how much my whole worldview and inner state changed when I realized this. It's hard to describe, one must feel it for oneself. Something bad happened to me again yesterday, but it was a real godsend for me, strange as it may sound to some.

   Until H.8 the author of H.6 I did not expect you to be so young, but when you say so I accept it. Can you give a few examples of that part of your life when you were in hell and fought for your survival and your life. I ask for such examples because I also went through a very difficult period, when I had completely collapsed mentally and had to go to a psychologist. I worked in a company and in a city that I loved very much, and according to our union's contract with the company, if you are temporarily unable to work due to an accident at work, the company has no right to fire you, in other words, it is illegal. Yes, but just then they fired me and I wondered what kind of morality such behavior is, which is a 100% breach of contract. Then I went to a psychologist. One day, while I was waiting to enter the psychologist's office, it suddenly flashed in my mind why such an injustice was not possible and ... I was suddenly relieved. I just told myself that I had to be ready for the most unexpected. Of course, after all this, I condemned the company and won the case by being compensated with a sum of money, but I was not returned to work. After this case, whether with God's intervention, I found an even better and better paid job. You are right that one must fight and learn from one's mistakes. I wish you and your daughter the best in your life. I found an even better and better paid job. You are right that one must fight and learn from one's mistakes. I wish you and your daughter the best in your life. I found an even better and better paid job. You are right that one must fight and learn from one's mistakes. I wish you and your daughter the best in your life.

   10, these are too personal things, but for a short time at 16 I was on the street alone without my parents and without a home. Then long-term health problems, harassment, alcoholics and psychopaths around me, loneliness, isolation and more. 16 years later I am educated, with a healthy family and a high position in my career, ready for new challenges and difficulties and with a smile. The most important thing is that I have saved myself, I have not done anything bad to anyone, I have not stolen 1 lev, I have not lied, cheated and I sleep peacefully with a clear conscience. I have experienced so much that even if I die in agony, I will still know that my body may suffer, it may even be emotionally crooked, but I will keep my inner peace. Life is temporary, but lessons and growth remain. God gives difficulties only to the strong, because He knows that they will be able to endure them, no matter how difficult they may be. Having said God, I am not a believer, but always in moments when I was on the verge of not being able to bear it anymore, I felt that some force was helping me suddenly. I am convinced that it is so, I have felt it many times. But until you reach your limit, you have to save yourself. There is a saying - God helps, but does not put in the fold. First you have to work hard yourself. There is nothing free in this world.

   Author, this force that saved you is called "My wife's parents", If it weren't for you, you would have sung another song. Your letter should be addressed, "Daughter, thank your grandparents,"

   12, are you saying that my wife's parents saved me? They died when she was a child, and we only met her as students. I expected attacks, no problems.

   Author, do you allow me to copy this for myself and give it to my daughter when she grows up? He's 4. I don't know people like you. You are a real inspiration. Be alive and healthy!

   I am 12. Bravo Bravo. Two rejected orphans, who went through many vicissitudes, met as students, got married and by the age of 32 the man had a high position in his career and realized the truths of life and decided to write a letter to his daughter. Everything is achieved with perseverance, love and resilience to the difficulties of life. You should be grateful for the trials that God sends you because they reveal the inner strength we did not suspect we had within us. We can be successful people all over the world just if we have the faith that we can handle everything that fate has given us !!! .... What do you say huh? Is it a movie script? Ah, I forgot to mention that you probably had incurable diseases, but the love between you was stronger than anything and in the end you were cured and lived happily !!! pp. Brother, what do you think? Do you pick blueberries in the forest while you are climbing in your career ???

   14, of course. 15, Is it a movie script? We need to ask a screenwriter. Ah, I forgot to mention that you probably had incurable diseases, but the love between you was stronger than anything and in the end you were cured and lived happily !!! I was personally sick, yes. Do you pick blueberries in the forest while you are climbing in your career ??? I hadn't heard that metaphor, but I liked it. In short, I will answer that everyone has the right to believe and not to believe. I even prefer you not to believe me. I want you to doubt my every word and criticize it. Only in this way will you reach your truth, which is different for everyone.

   Author, I will not attack you, but I would like to hear your opinion on one issue. I wrote earlier on this site, but people like you never wrote to me, but some haters. I am a 27 year old woman. I have two parents, but other things were wrong in my life. We were (and still are) poor, at least compared to all the people who were around me and in the city where I live. It never happened that we had nothing to eat or we were without electricity, but I did not have friends during all my childhood and adolescence and they mocked and harassed me. Back in kindergarten, my children used to tell me that I was ugly, nasty, etc., and now I understand that it was because I was wearing old clothes and a "hairstyle" made by my mother that she could not cut. It was like that at school, in high school, and at university (they just avoided me there). Furthermore, my parents are terribly nervous people and panickers and they passed this on to me. During puberty, I was depressed, probably due to the difficult situation at home and at the same time the lack of friends and other people to communicate with, apart from my parents. Every night I listened to my parents how nasty and difficult life was, how they cheated, how exhausted they were, how everyone was a fraud, selfish, garbage, how their nerves and health were wasted, my father because of these nerves is now capable of anything, he himself he said it and it really shows that this is the case when he gets angry, otherwise he is a good person. And over the years, it has gotten worse and worse. I live with them because I don't see any point in giving money for accommodation instead of saving it. In addition, stress over the years has led to a health problem that also requires costs. Well, I can't afford accommodation, nice clothes, let's say I can, but it doesn't make sense, because the house is cluttered with rubbish (my parents don't let anything be thrown away, including newspapers, magazines, nylons, etc., they might need to be put up, for example), dusty and dirty is (absolutely everywhere, my room is also full of their garbage), and these nice clothes will ruin and smell and just don't make sense. I said this because this site is full of stories and comments that say once you have suffered (and I think suffering is measured by what negative effect it has had on the individual, and we are all different, ie maybe more difficult life situations to have a lighter effect on someone, and lighter on another - more severe, for example), so that according to which the writings here, if someone has suffered, then by law almost, after all this will be all right with him and it will be good that he will be better than the others. E, I believed in it until recently, I believed all my life until I turned 27 and started on the 28th. I have been working in a company for 3.5 years, I will not comment on the salary, because my even sicker topic is that I never found friends, not to mention a man, and the years I suffered suffered incurable consequences. in / in me. Well, the reason I write is that in my case, suffering did not make me more "successful" at all, quite the opposite. Analyzing my life after childhood until now, all the reasons why I have failed in any aspect of life are due to this suffering, in the vernacular - the "scattering of nerves." Which is destructive, not constructive. I would compare it to a tree that grew at an angle due to some external forces, was that good for him? I remember here in a thread a boy had written, that he was being bullied at school and someone had written to him that in years to come he would understand the "advantage" of being in the most disadvantaged position now and how one day he would be the best of them all. Another student, a bison, had been told that one day those who mocked him would be subordinate to him or serve him in a restaurant. I was kind of a jerk too, I wasn't smart, but I tried to get good grades in everything. Well, and? Now my boss is a muffin with a rich man, who as soon as she started working said outright that she doesn't care about anything and anything, because no matter what happens, she can work, she may not work (and she works for to use his time). I apologize for the long comment, but I just don't understand why so many people on this site argue that when you suffer, it automatically means that (as in fairy tales) this will "pay off" for you. I don't want to sound like a hater, a pessimist, or "kill" anyone's hopes, not in the least. Let everyone live with hope, but just reading these things and imagining how a child or teenager reads them, in a bad situation and takes it all for granted with his immature psyche, can just bring him / her great disappointments one day. .

   17, I think your suffering will pay off. But first you have to change your attitude towards suffering. First, don't see suffering as something that robs you, but as something that makes you stronger and something that is not accidental in your life. I say this not as advice, but for information. Because there is no way to change by force. Change will come on its own, and the time will come. It may be tomorrow, or it may be in the next life. Second, you are in a hurry to end the suffering. It has a mission to fulfill and will not leave until it has fulfilled it. And the mission is largely about realizing some things. The only advice I can give you is to start thinking that there is a reason (parents, work, past) for the circumstances (good for you) and sooner or later you will understand what it is. Repeat it as a mantra, if necessary. This will open your brain to start thinking in that direction and over time it will start to do some things. Also be grateful for the difficulties. The other piece of advice for me is to separate from your parents. Don't just look at it from a financial point of view. They simply irradiate them with negative energy. As long as you live with them, you will never believe in yourself. You have no use for such people around you. As long as you live with them, you will be as gloomy and nervous as them. You subconsciously feel them as an authority and you are obliged to share their gloomy thoughts and hatred of the world, life and people. It is clear to you that you will never be happy like that. It is even very likely that your health will improve if you get out of there. It is often directly related to the emotions of the people around you. Also be grateful for the difficulties. The other piece of advice for me is to separate from your parents. Don't just look at it from a financial point of view. They simply irradiate them with negative energy. As long as you live with them, you will never believe in yourself. You have no use for such people around you. As long as you live with them, you will be as gloomy and nervous as them. You subconsciously feel them as an authority and you are obliged to share their gloomy thoughts and hatred of the world, life and people. It is clear to you that you will never be happy like that. It is even very likely that your health will improve if you get out of there. It is often directly related to the emotions of the people around you. Also be grateful for the difficulties. The other piece of advice for me is to separate from your parents. Don't just look at it from a financial point of view. They simply irradiate them with negative energy. As long as you live with them, you will never believe in yourself. You have no use for such people around you. As long as you live with them, you will be as gloomy and nervous as them. You subconsciously feel them as an authority and you are obliged to share their gloomy thoughts and hatred of the world, life and people. It is clear to you that you will never be happy like that. It is even very likely that your health will improve if you get out of there. It is often directly related to the emotions of the people around you. You have no use for such people around you. As long as you live with them, you will be as gloomy and nervous as them. You subconsciously feel them as an authority and you are obliged to share their gloomy thoughts and hatred of the world, life and people. It is clear to you that you will never be happy like that. It is even very likely that your health will improve if you get out of there. It is often directly related to the emotions of the people around you. You have no use for such people around you. As long as you live with them, you will be as gloomy and nervous as them. You subconsciously feel them as an authority and you are obliged to share their gloomy thoughts and hatred of the world, life and people. It is clear to you that you will never be happy like that. It is even very likely that your health will improve if you get out of there. It is often directly related to the emotions of the people around you.

   Here on the site, a user had recently recommended the movie / book "The Celestine Prophecy". There are them on the net. I watched it and I think there is something to learn from it.

   From 17 to 19: I'm sorry, but I can't believe in reincarnations, not here on Earth that I will be reborn. All I know is that humanity has little, maybe another 150-200 years left, and the situation with the planet's resources will get worse. Only a miracle can save us. But that's another topic. I don't think everyone who suffers should suffer. Many innocents suffer, children suffer, etc., and because of human stupidity, these sufferings are not from God, they are not from destiny, providence, etc. I believe in the afterlife (but not as a rebirth of the Earth), in God , I am a Christian, I am not attracted to Eastern religions. Maybe to be somewhat agnostic ... I like to be realistic and not go to extremes. I live here and now. I am not saying that suffering and hardship do not teach or harden, I am just saying that this is not always the case. Steel can be hardened by high temperatures and shocks, but something else would be damaged. Or the steel itself also has a melting point or a certain strength, no matter how high, that could break it or damage the tool. For example, I made a mistake in my choice of profession due to precisely the negative factors in my life. That's why my job will always be low-paid, because I haven't specialized in anything until I was 27. I can't get close to anyone again because of the effect of the past, no matter how much I try to deny it. I don't have a partner, and I don't feel mentally fit to raise children. And I want to. I also want to leave them something, yes, and material, because here on Earth, we exist physically, not only as souls, and we have physical needs. I am 27, after that I will be 54 ... I literally missed the most important years of my life and I can't make up for them. And my attitude to suffering WAS what you say it should be, only a few months ago. Ever since I was a child, my parents have been telling me how one day I would have been good, successful, happy ... so I have been testing this faith for a quarter of a century ...

   Author, I agree with most of the things you said, but I want to ask you if you would say to your child, "Change will come by itself, as the time comes. It may be tomorrow, or it may be in the OTHER LIFE." to say to number 6 that I will be surprised how many people have reached the things that the author has reached at the age of under 30.

   From 17/21: I just want to say that comment 22 is not mine.

   22, if we talk about a child, is different. The parent teaches his child mainly with his behavior and consciousness, it is not even necessary to explain any philosophies to him. It just catches from the minds of their parents. This is the main reason why she is so pessimistic and only with catharsis can things be fixed, as happened to me. And this catharsis, God knows when it will come. But here in the forum there is no way to tell someone something with my behavior, I tried with words, because there is no other way in this case, but they will not work now. Not until she's ready for it. She will continue to absorb from her parents' minds while living with them. I had the incredible chance to shake off my toxic parents once and for all at 16, until I had a formed character, and that turned out to be one of the best things in my life.

   From 17/21: Author, thanks for the time, I just wanted to understand the other point of view more, I don't know if I will accept it, but thanks for the answers.

   Of 22- of course I did not mean a child literally, in the sense of a small child. Maybe I should have clarified if it's about your child as an adult. I decided that there would be no need, because after all, your topic is in such a spirit, a letter to a daughter from a father, not to a little girl. For example, she has some difficulty, let's say existentially how to define it by nature, she shares about you and you like this: "Abe, change can happen tomorrow, but it can also happen in the next life". Otherwise, for many people, if they had had the opportunity to break away from their toxic parents at the age of 16, it would have been an incredible chance. Because many of these parents, although terribly toxic, flatly refuse to let go of their child, holding his "reins" firmly in all sorts of ways. Otherwise, I'm definitely in favor of export. I just think

   26, does not suck (ie sucks only if you are not aware of things). There are just things that take time and we should not be impatient. We all want it to end right now when it gets hot, but it doesn't. What else to say, for example, to a girl disappointed in her first love? Time heals. Yes, she will be in hell for a few months, but time will cure her. No matter how much you explain to her that she will meet others, that she doesn't grind, etc. is meaningless until she herself understands it. Everyone has to go their own way. I meant that she has to go her own way and realize some things on her own, otherwise no matter how much I explain to her, it's no use. She is convinced that the world is hostile, that it will end in a few years, and so on. I don't think anyone other than herself can help herself, but it happens from today to tomorrow. I'm not saying the world won't end.