Hello! I am an 18-year-old girl. I have been having sex for 4 months and I have worries that I am frigid or have a psychological problem. I have a desire for sex, I never refuse my boyfriend, I like to do everything for him, but when the time comes when I am the one who will receive caresses I do not feel very comfortable, I worry (I am generally very shy and I don't like myself, I don't have self-confidence). When he licks me, I don't feel that great feeling that everyone claims (and I myself somehow felt aroused long before I was "open" and even in earlier years I felt a "thump" and I had wet dreams and so on. n.), but I really feel only a tickle and just ask him to move on with sex. I like it, I feel it (it's not small), but there comes a moment when I don't feel anything, neither excitement, nor anything. And I know the problem is in me. I love watching porn, but I've never masturbated. I don't know what to think. To go to a psychologist or gynecologist Any pills to drink or? Thank you.
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You are normal, you are just too young and inexperienced and you have not yet fully developed sexually. I started to feel really pleasure after 25, and I've been having sex since I was 19 years old.
The first four months of having sex after my first time were kind of dry. I liked it, I wanted to be intimate with my friend and I didn't refuse him, we did different things, but he didn't have the feeling that everyone is talking about. After a while, the sex got better. Almost two years later (with the same person), sex is amazing and I don't have any such problems. Frigidity is a lack of sexual desire and arousal, even when stimulated. I know this by definition, I read it some time ago. By description, I don't understand that you don't have excitement. You have a desire, as far as I understand you do not like oral love and you have some shame. I know at least 2-3 girls who are not fans of licking, do not feel comfortable and do not want to get there at all. I'll be honest and say to myself that I didn't like it in the beginning, I could not relax at the idea that someone was down there, so close with all their senses directed at me. Also, my friend had made oral love 2-3 times before he did it with me, he himself did not feel confident. I read at the time that at the beginning of her sex life it is normal for a woman not to experience such pleasure as she will have in time. I accepted it with confidence, I stopped thinking about this topic and I only focused on being calm during sex and only feeling what is happening, without thinking, without looking, without being anywhere else but there at the moment of action. . If you are worried, go to a gynecologist or sexologist, talk to them about the problem, but I personally do not think it is something serious, but rather see it as some kind of mental stress on your part. At least that's how it turned out for me, it was a little hard for me to get used to the idea that someone was so close to me and saw, heard, felt me. Everything will be fine, just don't get too involved in this topic.
You have nothing and you don't need any doctors - the best doctor is your friend and most of all yourself. You make the mistake of not masturbating, masturbating will help you get to know your body and then practically direct your partner to the places where you enjoy the most. When you are alone with yourself, you will relax the best, your shyness will not play a role, only your sense of pleasure. Don't worry about oral love, I don't believe your boyfriend cares much about him being down, for example I don't, but I do it because I want to reciprocate to my partner when she has given me this pleasure. Pick some good porn and start watching it with your boyfriend, I'm sure you won't watch it.