Hello, I am a 27-year-old man, and I have an upset stomach syndrome, which consists of frequent urination (sometimes up to 4 times a day). The problem for me is that I feel uncomfortable and ashamed while at work. and I have to go to the toilet urgently .. I just developed a social phobia, and my work is associated with many colleagues and clients ... I am worried that colleagues will laugh at me for this and will start comments about my frequent big needs . I know that we all go to the toilet, but there are those who do not like it at all, or at least they can squeeze a lot while at work. The good thing about me is that I work in a mall and I use toilets where, so to speak, you don't notice what I need to go to, because I can lock myself in one of the many booths, while if I was in an office and the toilet is one, I would not be able to linger and wait for anyone else. Please comment on this topic, which may be a big taboo, and I'm sure there are others like me. Do I have reason to be ashamed, and if not how can I overcome it?
1 stacy_hunter answered
Man, that's what yours is called - creating your own problems. Who will laugh at you for going to the toilet? ONLY infantile. Well, behave like a normal and mature person. When you are at work - just tell a close colleague that you have stomach problems. (This, provided that someone has to replace you at your place of work while you are in the toilet) It is neither funny nor embarrassing! And, when you realize it yourself (because the problem is in you), you can be sure that the need to visit the toilet several times a day will decrease. Because you provoke it yourself, without even realizing it. I can only imagine how, while at work, you only think about whether you will have access to the toilet. And stress has been shown to be a major factor in upset stomach syndrome. And so you just spin in a vicious circle. You have no reason to worry! You will overcome it when you share. First with one, then with a second. Try a friend to get started. Then with a colleague. Or where you feel closer. And you will see that the reaction you expect to receive is not like that at all. Because it is not normal for it to be what you expect. If you didn't have such a problem and someone told you something like that - how would you react? Q. I don't have the same problem as yours. But in our office there is a colleague who has a similar problem / some operation on the intestines, anus or something like that, I don't know exactly /. He, if you know - how he joked about his 'problem'. He gets up and says, "If you need me, look for me where I am most of the time. In my personal office." And he went to the bathroom quite calmly. That was about half a year after the operation, now I think it's okay. Nobody, he did not comment on anything behind his back. You have to be terribly pathetic to make fun of such a problem. Of which, no one is insured. So, calm down! And you will see that your big problem is just in your head. Ah, outside - it's none.