Frankly About Swing Relationships

   Hello, we are a young couple and we tried once with another much more experienced couple than us, a full exchange, let me tell you, it was quite good, but the exchange is not for everyone, my wife then had drama and great jealousy, a year later later we are ready to try again :) If you want to write us to understand something :) * @ abv. bg

   Hello! "Debri" is a pretty good metaphor describing swing in Bulgaria. This culture is not developed here and be prepared to come across a bunch of alien creatures. I will try to protect you from disappointment by sharing our experience, because my husband and I have been practicing swing for years. Keep in mind that this is a closed society and good relationships in it happen mainly with recommendations from people with whom you have already had an intimate experience. But to make such friends, you have to find them somewhere. This is how you get to swing dating sites. Keep in mind here that for many people this is a type of business. They set conditions such as: send us money for the trip and we will come; or come, fill our fridge and we're OK. Ie outright prostitution. There are a lot of men in these places, but you know about that, when you have invited them with "their wife" as guests and the gentleman blooms alone with the explanation "well she's a little busy". Be very careful with the first contacts. Do not take the invitations for the so-called swing parties. This is complete pornography, they have invited us many times, but they have also told me what they are, so I will not set foot! Just imagine as a woman what you will do with about 8 men - one fat, another sweaty, a third pimple ?! Because you don't choose them, whatever you find, that's it. Your goal should be normal, educated and cultured couples who are aware of their relationship and are just looking to share their sexual fantasies. They will connect you with others. Now! We divide the practice into three problems - psychological, sexual and organizational. On the first - if you two have a crisis in your relationship, swing will not fix it. You have to have infinite trust in each other and look at this adventure as an adventure. You have fun, then get in the car, go home and fall asleep in your arms. If there is going to be a scandal about who kissed whom, you better not start at all. No matter how much you understand each other, you will have to overcome a special kind of jealousy. It is not the usual, but rather close to the competition. I wouldn't have identified her if my husband hadn't paid attention to me. When I bring a woman to orgasm, for example, I always tell him in the greatest detail and pride, kind of - look at me, I can do more than you! At first I didn't like him being alone with our partner in another room, but with experience I realized that this is even better when people are just trying to swing. The man is also more relaxed in the absence of his wife. Gradually things return to normal and the four of us start having fun. Last weekend we visited the villa of a friendly couple for the second time and the difference from the first time is from heaven to earth. At the second meeting, this family just didn't want to let us go! Now - no restraints, full sync and great sex. This brings us to the next problem - sexual. In swing, the most important rule is that "no" really means "no". Under no circumstances should you accept things that are uncomfortable for you. For example, I refuse anal sex, it just hurts. My husband is completely heterosexual, but it happens that other men give him a blowjob. I asked him if there was a problem, but he said he didn't mind, as long as they didn't do more. On the other hand, he doesn't like women who end up with a squirt. After one erupted like a fountain in his mouth, he always began to ask delicately. If the lady likes him, but her orgasm is connected with a squirt, we come up with a variant, a pose, a practice so that everyone is happy without anyone feeling discomfort. Ie always ask and specify your preferences in advance, otherwise you risk unpleasant surprises. Negotiations are part of the swing culture, they are normal. I must warn that I have sensitive breasts and do not like full hair removal of the intimate parts. If they accept me like that, there is no problem, if not - they are looking for other partners. And now we come to the part where we talk about the middle ground. Personally, our family prefers these parties to take place in our field. We have a nice summer house 10 minutes from Sofia with 4 guest bedrooms, a spacious living room, a decare of flower garden and all amenities. The ideal place for discreet experiences. But many people in the countryside do not have the opportunity to travel. So we also travel around the country. A month ago we were in a village in Kyustendil. Well ... a very nice couple as people, but - how to put it: another class - the toilet is in the yard; there is no shower, they are watered with a jug of water from a pot; I had predictably put a large package of wet wipes and a set of bed linen in the car and I was right. And hygiene in these relationships is very important. If we will see them again, it will definitely be with us. If necessary, my husband will go to get them, but I can't have sex without a bathroom nearby. So research the conditions when you travel to another couple! An alternative is the hotel. You rent a studio or apartment and everyone is free to leave whenever they want. The hotels also have restaurants attached to them, so there is no need for the hostess to prepare dinner (it has happened to me a hundred times: everything alive has sex, and I change ashtrays and run to look after the steaks and wash glasses). However, I personally hate hotels, I prefer the home atmosphere, especially for this kind of intimate experience, because otherwise I feel like .... abe not exactly a prostitute, but in a foreign environment, somehow like on a business trip and I can not relax. And it's another thing to be at home in the middle of the night to open the fridge and take out ice cream for everyone. But if the hotel interior does not depress you, this is a good option. These are my first reading guidelines. Of course, I do not mention condoms at all, because I do not want to offend you on the topic of health culture, it is clear that they are mandatory. If there is anything, ask, I'm here! everything alive has sex, and I change ashtrays and run to look after the steaks and wash glasses). However, I personally hate hotels, I prefer the home atmosphere, especially for this kind of intimate experience, because otherwise I feel like .... abe not exactly a prostitute, but in a foreign environment, somehow like on a business trip and I can not relax. And it's another thing to be at home in the middle of the night to open the fridge and take out ice cream for everyone. But if the hotel interior does not depress you, this is a good option. These are my first reading guidelines. Of course, I do not mention condoms at all, because I do not want to offend you on the topic of health culture, it is clear that they are mandatory. If there is anything, ask, I'm here! everything alive has sex, and I change ashtrays and run to look after the steaks and wash glasses). However, I personally hate hotels, I prefer the home atmosphere, especially for this kind of intimate experience, because otherwise I feel like .... abe not exactly a prostitute, but in a foreign environment, somehow like on a business trip and I can not relax. And it's another thing to be at home in the middle of the night to open the fridge and take out ice cream for everyone. But if the hotel interior does not depress you, this is a good option. These are my first reading guidelines. Of course, I do not mention condoms at all, because I do not want to offend you on the topic of health culture, it is clear that they are mandatory. If there is anything, ask, I'm here! I prefer the home atmosphere, especially for this kind of intimate experience, because otherwise I feel like ... well, not exactly a prostitute, but in a foreign environment, somehow like on a business trip and I can't relax. And it's another thing to be at home in the middle of the night to open the fridge and take out ice cream for everyone. But if the hotel interior does not depress you, this is a good option. These are my first reading guidelines. Of course, I do not mention condoms at all, because I do not want to offend you on the topic of health culture, it is clear that they are mandatory. If there is anything, ask, I'm here! I prefer the home atmosphere, especially for this kind of intimate experience, because otherwise I feel like ... well, not exactly a prostitute, but in a foreign environment, somehow like on a business trip and I can't relax. And it's another thing to be at home in the middle of the night to open the fridge and take out ice cream for everyone. But if the hotel interior does not depress you, this is a good option. These are my first reading guidelines. Of course, I do not mention condoms at all, because I do not want to offend you on the topic of health culture, it is clear that they are mandatory. If there is anything, ask, I'm here! But if the hotel interior does not depress you, this is a good option. These are my first reading guidelines. Of course, I do not mention condoms at all, because I do not want to offend you on the topic of health culture, it is clear that they are mandatory. If there is anything, ask, I'm here! But if the hotel interior does not depress you, this is a good option. These are my first reading guidelines. Of course, I do not mention condoms at all, because I do not want to offend you on the topic of health culture, it is clear that they are mandatory. If there is anything, ask, I'm here!

   6, how is the issue with safety equipment and the French? For example, when your husband licks a woman, is there no danger of disease? And is there any trend in the circles in terms of age? Is there an age group that predominates?

   Number 6 corresponds to number 7. There is always a risk. This is a dangerous sport. Whatever precautions you take, there is no guarantee. Men can use condoms, but there are skin diseases or those that are transmitted through the mucous membranes. So choose your partners and always share the slightest discomfort. We have refused a meeting simply because I sneeze. Well, these are the first symptoms of the flu. I will infect people! As for age, my observations are that this level of sexual culture is reached somewhere after the age of 35. Before that it was just some youthful enthusiasm, but nothing meaningful.

   To Number 6. Hi, we are a couple, me and my husband, who wants to experiment with another couple. I liked how competently you write, something that is not common here, and the fact that you have experience with your husband. I think I'm starting to fish for the parties you organize. As the exchange of contacts is not allowed here, I will be happy to tell us on which site we can find you and under which nickname, so that we can meet (so I think the admins will be pleased that non-anonymous contacts will not be published here ): *

   Hello number 9! I am 6. According to the rules of "Share", the exchange of personal coordinates is not allowed, and the indication of another site will be accepted as advertising. So, if I write both the site and our nickname, there is no chance that my post will be published, and if you do not receive an answer, you will accept it as unresponsiveness on my part. I have no idea how to find each other! It has happened to me another time: I have the real opportunity to help a person in need, but I cannot contact him because of the rules of the forum. If the moderators consider that they can allow personal contact, I will be happy to leave a contact email, but they must explicitly allow it.

   Let the moderators be "responsive" and not publish data exchange, because this is not a person in trouble. There are certain sites for this purpose, so share is for stories only, not for contacts! Namely, this is the good thing about the site, that it is completely anonymous, for which I am happy and applaud the entire staff of administrators and moderators.

   That's exactly what I meant, number 11! Personal contacts displace the very idea of ​​the site. That is why I adhere to the condition of anonymity. Otherwise, he who seeks finds. The topic here is: to openly share our impressions of the swing so that couples can judge whether this type of relationship is right for them or not. By the way, sung teaches people to follow the rules. I'm number 6.

   The call of "11" seems a bit strange to me ... What can confuse anyone if some people with the same interests are found? It is normal for a site to have rules. There is a moderator to monitor their observance. I know there are cases where mods don't mind missing "personal information" as long as it's presented "cleverly". You could try to say, "... if you want, call Vladimirov." To do this, you have previously created a mail with this name. Naturally written in Latin letters. It is important to come up with one that has no letters that could be spelled out (implied) in any other way. You don't need to mention which post office - you do it in our most popular ... The twisted letter and you don't mention it either ... And you just found yourself. You mention this as briefly as possible, in a relatively long post, with a different sound (with a different main idea). Well, it may not work. If you read this at all, you could draw an important conclusion;) Good luck!

   11 wrote it accurately and clearly ... I will be sharp to 13: The moderators released coordinates, but only when necessary, and only when they decided that it was worth two people to find each other to help each other. You are not looking for mutual help, but sex, it seems ridiculous and unfortunate to me. Bulgaria is not small at all, I believe you will find ways, but do not desecrate a completely anonymous site with your "needs". ;)

   And the other option is to make an appointment on a specific day, most likely the day after the comment is posted - for example at the station, at a specific time - one person will wait there and the other will get off the train just before the meeting time to there is no discrepancy - here we are not talking about the exchange of personal data - mail, phone numbers, addresses, etc. In my opinion, this is the best option - the person who will go to the meeting calls the name of the station so that the other person can know which train to catch!

   14 (11), after finding sex for something "sad and pathetic", why read and write in this section at all? The main reason for banning "personal data" is that in the beginning, when the site appears, it is crowded with such information (almost without comment). You can see this for yourself - it has not been deleted. So this is not at all in the essence of the site, but only prevention against its congestion;)

   To Number 6. Tell us about some of your more spicy encounters you had. I'm intrigued by what you described, and I'm interested in learning more about swing culture, parties, etc.

   To n 6 I am very impressed by your candid words and your views and your honesty to others, my husband and I also have a great desire for this but we are still afraid of what we will come across, for now we think about it and imagine it only while it we do, and it excites us a lot, for now I'm used to watching a couple do it live in front of us and gradually see if we will move on, we think in the love game for a threesome with a vein ... with a man and things like that but all in time, I don't know how to say it but I'm very interested in how you do it and bring that vein to so many orgasms and can you describe it to me in detail as you did to your husband please.

   Write only the site without personal data. If your site is good, this is not an advertisement, but a recommendation.

   Up to number 20 from number 6. Type in Google "dating for swingers" and you will even get two sites. To numbers 18 and 20. We are very careful of voyeurs. What you just asked me to do - to describe in detail how I bring a woman to orgasm and what exactly she did with my husband, without taking offense, is pure voyeurism and has nothing to do with the topic. Here we discuss the swing culture itself and I share my experience to guide people who want to join it. But thank you for your curiosity, because I really forgot to warn them that they can get into correspondence and waste an awful lot of time with someone who just gets aroused by the thought of interacting with someone who practices swing. I always sift out those who want nude photos, for example. Of course, we need to have an idea in advance who looks like what, but when someone wants me to take a picture of my anus, it is already clear that this is not the right person. Finally, there is a video chat, we connect, talk, see each other, if we like each other - a meeting. Number 19, if you and your husband still have any reservations, hesitations, inconveniences, etc. you can always negotiate with the other couple the so-called "soft swing". This is the name of a meeting in which two or more couples get together, but everyone has sex only with their partner. When we first visited friends, obviously because they saw that we were newcomers, they offered just that. All said and done, but from a moment on we began to exchange on our own. I repeat: clarify in advance and completely openly - both with each other (this is very important!) And with your partners. That doesn't mean writing a script for in bed and everyone playing a role, but simply to clarify the basic parameters. For example: I like women, but not all women are bisexual and some of my tendernesses are not pleasant. I better know this before I see you. Also, you and your husband should keep in touch with each other at all times because you know each other well. Ie to take a look at the situation of the other, because, although there are more participants, you have sex TOGETHER. If he sees that my partner fails to give me pleasure, he delicately intervenes. I, too, when I see that the lady is already satisfied and his orgasm is close, I get involved in a way that I know will be satisfying for him. If you lose touch with each other, everything turns into a crazy orgy, but if you keep it, we are already talking about a common emotional and sexual experience. For example: I like women, but not all women are bisexual and some of my tendernesses are not pleasant to them. I better know this before I see you. Also, you and your husband should keep in touch with each other at all times because you know each other well. Ie to take a look at the situation of the other, because, although there are more participants, you have sex TOGETHER. If he sees that my partner fails to give me pleasure, he delicately intervenes. I, too, when I see that the lady is already satisfied and his orgasm is close, I get involved in a way that I know will be satisfying for him. If you lose touch with each other, everything turns into a crazy orgy, but if you keep it, we are already talking about a common emotional and sexual experience. For example: I like women, but not all women are bisexual and some of my tendernesses are not pleasant to them. I better know this before I see you. Also, you and your husband should keep in touch with each other at all times because you know each other well. Ie to take a look at the situation of the other, because, although there are more participants, you have sex TOGETHER. If he sees that my partner fails to give me pleasure, he delicately intervenes. I, too, when I see that the lady is already satisfied and his orgasm is close, I get involved in a way that I know will be satisfying for him. If you lose touch with each other, everything turns into a crazy orgy, but if you keep it, we are already talking about a common emotional and sexual experience. but not all women are bisexual and some of my tendernesses are not pleasing to them. I better know this before I see you. Also, you and your husband should keep in touch with each other at all times because you know each other well. Ie to take a look at the situation of the other, because, although there are more participants, you have sex TOGETHER. If he sees that my partner fails to give me pleasure, he delicately intervenes. I, too, when I see that the lady is already satisfied and his orgasm is close, I get involved in a way that I know will be satisfying for him. If you lose touch with each other, everything turns into a crazy orgy, but if you keep it, we are already talking about a common emotional and sexual experience. but not all women are bisexual and some of my tendernesses are not pleasing to them. I better know this before I see you. Also, you and your husband should keep in touch with each other at all times because you know each other well. Ie to take a look at the situation of the other, because, although there are more participants, you have sex TOGETHER. If he sees that my partner fails to give me pleasure, he delicately intervenes. I, too, when I see that the lady is already satisfied and his orgasm is close, I get involved in a way that I know will be satisfying for him. If you lose touch with each other, everything turns into a crazy orgy, but if you keep it, we are already talking about a common emotional and sexual experience. you and your husband need to keep in touch with each other at all times because you know each other well. Ie to take a look at the situation of the other, because, although there are more participants, you have sex TOGETHER. If he sees that my partner fails to give me pleasure, he delicately intervenes. I, too, when I see that the lady is already satisfied and his orgasm is close, I get involved in a way that I know will be satisfying for him. If you lose touch with each other, everything turns into a crazy orgy, but if you keep it, we are already talking about a common emotional and sexual experience. you and your husband need to keep in touch with each other at all times because you know each other well. Ie to take a look at the situation of the other, because, although there are more participants, you have sex TOGETHER. If he sees that my partner fails to give me pleasure, he delicately intervenes. I, too, when I see that the lady is already satisfied and his orgasm is close, I get involved in a way that I know will be satisfying for him. If you lose touch with each other, everything turns into a crazy orgy, but if you keep it, we are already talking about a common emotional and sexual experience. that my partner fails to give me pleasure, he delicately intervenes. I, too, when I see that the lady is already satisfied and his orgasm is close, I get involved in a way that I know will be satisfying for him. If you lose touch with each other, everything turns into a crazy orgy, but if you keep it, we are already talking about a common emotional and sexual experience. that my partner fails to give me pleasure, he delicately intervenes. I, too, when I see that the lady is already satisfied and his orgasm is close, I get involved in a way that I know will be satisfying for him. If you lose touch with each other, everything turns into a crazy orgy, but if you keep it, we are already talking about a common emotional and sexual experience.

   "Up to numbers 18 and 20". I'm getting better, I meant 19. At 20, I already answered.