For The Ugly: How Do You Deal With The Fact That You Don't Look Good?

   The simplest - you go to another race and culture, such as Japanese. There they are guaranteed to look at you with different eyes, and the attitude will be radically different. Much more complicated - you find a spiritually advanced partner for whom appearance does not matter much. We can consider it as a futuristic solution: you enter the Matrix and choose your digital identity, type, gender and age as you choose.

   Honey, no matter how you look, NEVER let others humiliate you! This is your main mistake. You are not inferior, simply because you are not "beautiful", and who is beautiful is often subjective. Otherwise, if you think you're so bad, you can raise money and find a good plastic surgeon, but I'm convinced that even though you're not Angelina Jolie in the face, you have your charm and your good features. An easier option is to learn to make up, but I think the problem comes largely from being insecure and allowing others to make fun of you. Black Sabbath

   Now look what I'm going to tell you, baby. There are no ugly women, there are poorly maintained women and little drinking for men. What does it mean to be ugly? Why don't you work on the problem a bit? What's wrong with you? If you are fat - lose a few pounds - 2 times a week run for half an hour and in 1 month you have lost 5 kg. Are your teeth - go to the dentist, to whiten them. Your nose is crooked - the operations are cheap, safe and easy. Put on light makeup, but not too much. Put on mascara to make your eyes stand out. Change your style of dress. Dress in colorful clothes, but not as colorful as a gypsy. For example - burgundy shorts with a white T-shirt .. will be ok. Get yourself a nice perfume. If you do these things, but behave culturally and intelligently ... you will not be in the group of ugly and outsiders. Success! Man !!!

   It depends - some kill them on spiritual development, others on muffins, silicones, juki, plastic surgery, others compensate with a career, money, a fourth hits them on feminism. Who killed his complex?

   I am a man, but I have the feeling that you are creating problems for yourself. A man who has done the same thing for years tells you that. In my teens, I was full, dry, I didn't have any self-confidence, I was slightly hunched over, with gynecomastia, I was constantly looking down and letting people make fun of me. To some extent, I also blame my parents for this thing, who constantly crushed me mentally. At the age of 18 I moved to study in another city. I started going to the gym, lost weight, fixed my posture, hair and styling. But things hadn't improved much, precisely because of my low self-esteem and constant guilt. I realized that if I didn't fix the spiritual side of things, I would never succeed. I started reading books on the subject, I even went to a psychologist. So everything changed. In this case, I don't think your appearance is to blame, and your thinking and attitude. You can see how at first glance not so attractive men and women are seriously engaged with "beautiful" partners, they are the soul of the company and so on. It's just that these people have self-confidence and are moving forward confidently. Every woman, when you ask her, will tell you - Abe, my nose is a little crooked, I have cellulite on my legs, I think my ass is very big, my legs are short, etc. So work on your self-esteem and don't think you don't deserve a better life. Do not allow anyone to trample and humiliate you. I think my ass is very big, my legs are short, etc. So work on your self-esteem and don't think you don't deserve a better life. Do not allow anyone to trample and humiliate you. I think my ass is very big, my legs are short, etc. So work on your self-esteem and don't think you don't deserve a better life. Do not allow anyone to trample and humiliate you.

   Hello Gorgeous! How can you allow someone to determine who you are and what you are not? Everyone is beautiful in their own way, there are no ugly people for me! Even the word itself disgusts me. Yes, I also don't like some features of my face and body, but I have come to terms with them! In principle, I will give you a piece of advice that until recently I thought was unnecessary - plastic surgery .. Do you have the finances and desire to consult someone and start acting! For example, if you do not like your nose, make adjustments to it (there is a high probability that your self-esteem will rise); (but only with a very good specialist !!!) Do you have the opportunity, financially - do not miss going to the hairdresser, manicurist, various spa treatments. Believe that this will raise your self-esteem drastically! And remember one of me, don't let them crush you, because no one is to blame for how he was born! And no one is more than you. Everyone has their positive traits! As for men, I have nothing to comment on - there is a difference from men to men. The important thing is not to despair, but internally to build a calm and secure atmosphere that will help you against ill-wishers!

   It's all about the broadcast, I'm serious, I see it in myself, because I'm a person who is very emotional and I have expressive manners, every emotion is visible on my face. Guess what? From good I can look chewed and spit, and vice versa, it depends on how I feel. Remove from your environment, the people who make fun of you to do so are on a low - spiritual level. This has nothing to do with education, work, social status ... everywhere, in any field, you can meet a person with low - spiritual development, from such you should not be suppressed, but to "educate" them if you can, because they are in the elementary levels of School Earth. Do not be angry with them and do not be repressed by them. There is a saying: "People treat you - as you allow them"

   Your appearance determines your life. However, there is something else, whatever you are born you have to live on the edge of your potential. If you are not so attractive you can change it. Everyone can look better. A little sport, a new hairstyle, nice clothes and you're done. At one point I was beautiful, I always had good boyfriends, but I seemed to be ungrateful about it. One day I got sick and lost a lot of weight, now I look like a skeleton. :) But what to do, I keep going. Nothing lasts forever. Beauty goes away one day. We have to fight, to live, to develop our spirit, and the other fuck it. I have to admit more or less that I have become more complex because of the change in my appearance, but I also know that whatever I am required to look better, I have not left to the whims of fate. We change our destiny constantly. And that, what we cannot change is God's work, we must accept it. On the one hand, I'm happy about what happened to me, because I started to look more inside myself, to be interested in things that I haven't been interested in until now. Beautiful people often fall into the delusion that beauty is everything and because of this luxury they allow themselves to be superficial. :) So .. this is from me.

   There were no ugly people. You see, I appreciate your efforts to reassure the author, and that is commendable, but to say that there were no ugly people is a worn-out cliché. 90% of the forums here explain how important sex was, attraction, otherwise the relationship could not exist, and now suddenly beauty was not important. Let's take the pie with the pie and the pimple on the tip of your tongue with 2 hairs, which breaks tickets in the city toilet. There were no ugly people. You will take it, but next time. No matter how good, spiritual, moral, smart, good housewife, wife, if you don't like her at least a little physically, you can't compromise. The truth is that no matter what we talk about, there are beautiful and ugly people. Yes, it is somewhat relative, but there are people who would like 90% of the opposite sex and those who would not like 10%. Needless to say, the beautiful have more choice, at least initially. Another issue is that for longer-term relationships you need other qualities, but at least in the beginning, beauty is a big factor. Just don't tell me that if you had a choice, you would choose Iskra Fidosova over Nikol Stankulova. However, I want to make a few clarifications. If you are ugly, this can change, albeit to a small extent, with sport and care, as long as it is not overdone and does not become a fixed idea, because the complex becomes too repulsive and becomes even more repulsive. Second - the fact that you are ugly, in any case should not lower your self-esteem, feel less valuable, etc. It does not mean that you cannot have a good and real relationship, nor that you cannot find a good job or even succeed in it. And third most importantly - does not mean

   It is important how you feel about yourself, if you respect yourself and others will respect you.

   I just want to say that I am the real Black Sabbath and I'm tired of someone writing on my behalf. Please moderators approve the comment !!

   I manage by thinking about the alternative - what is it like to be with a person who is with you because of your appearance ... Of course we may want a balance in these things and have everything, but this is life here, it is not concert on request. Beautiful people are an indicator of good genes, and in the end, our whole life revolves around these genes. Sex / Love is about people with good genes making good children. Naturally, an unsympathetic fact from a personal point of view, and many lie to cover it up. But after years in which you are not interesting to the opposite sex, for one reason or another, it's just best to accept life as it is. Illusions are again for those beautiful and popular ... Who also like to say - ah, and you you can be like that, don't underestimate yourself, just make an effort ... What advice, for example, a person with 5 billion will say to a tramp on the street.

   By 9 You have given many extreme examples of ugliness and they usually come from people who are very early in their spiritual development and are visible to them everywhere. The story of Quasimodo is a fairy tale. There is no such thing as a person on a high spiritual level, but with obesity due to greed and disgusting appearance due to poor hygiene. Things are connected. Appearance does not determine our life, there are many factors that determine it, but no matter how many factors we have, if we do not participate in our lives consciously and with actions, then these factors, incl. beautiful or ugly appearance - are irrelevant. And the change really begins to respond.

   From my belfry, people like the author are sought after by the opposite sex, because she must be good at her job, she knows how to cook, she doesn't cheat, she has a hobby. M 37

   13 may have been extreme, but the question is fundamental. He left the extremes, but there are nuances. And always those in the higher ranges have more chances and choices.

   As a student, I didn't look very well. Full, not good at sports, shy, with glasses and the wrong choice of clothes. I shunned everyone, and everyone made fun of me. There was another boy in the upper class. Like me full, he was not good at sports, with a double chin and pimples on his face. One time I remember him putting on a super-tight T-shirt, walking briskly and his tits shaking. Even his nickname was "bra." But this same dude was super open to everyone, he was always smiling, he was arrogant and he was not ashamed of anything. Well, guess what, a lot of girls liked him and in high school he changed a few pretty babes. Everyone called him at parties and gatherings, he was a great dude. I want to tell you that no matter how you look, if you don't have self-confidence and hate yourself, there is no way to attract people to you.

   No more nonsense, you won't die alone. Just formulate clearly what exactly things in your appearance need to be changed and change them, or at least try. It is true that there are things in appearance that cannot be changed, but I am sure that if you have a real desire and will you could improve your appearance at least one idea. You say you have a good profession - if finances are not a problem for you, things get easier. If you don't like your teeth - you go to have veneers and your problem is solved. I don't know why you even mention hair as a problem, because it's there for maintenance. We all have hair. Just remove them, remove them everywhere, on your hands and face as well. If you have to spend 10 minutes every day for this job, what is it? In case your lips are too thin, there is a solution for that. I think that for about BGN 200 it is achievable to put hyaluronic fillers or there as they say. Regarding eczema, I also have this problem, and I can tell you that it is very likely due to allergies. If you do not go to skin doctors and ointments, try drugs - of course, again after consulting a doctor. You can try anti-allergic. In general, try everything that comes to mind and you will always find something effective - when I say "try" I mean within reason. Ask about ways to change for the better what you don't like about yourself. Don't give up and despair like that. I'm sure you can find a way to like yourself and gain confidence. When you like yourself, others will like you, because basically everything is in your head. When a person radiates self-confidence,

   I remember a fellow children's teacher, she made paper origami for the children, greeted us with a delicious pie, the son and teenager then gave my children to play an electronic game "Guess what", where the wolf collects eggs. Guess in the eyes of my children and the children in kindergarten, what was this woman like? And did they want us to visit her more often?

   However, I am very "pleased" with how you advise the author to go to a plastic surgeon, as if it were something cheap and harmless. People, that many models, celebrities in show business, etc. They make such adjustments, most of which are successful, does not mean that these services are exactly available to everyone, and in order to avoid ugly surprises you need a very good plastic surgeon, and in Bulgaria there is no such. In addition, each operation carries health risks, which will require more money to repair a failed operation. It can be very important for someone, because with a vision he earns his living, but there are so many other things in life that you can do with the money given for vanity operations.

   Deciding whether to marry a beautiful or ugly woman is like choosing whether to eat a cake with everyone else or shit alone.

   You, the author, just see the beautiful women in photos or in cafes, but you don't see the care and efforts they put before these same women :) because no one takes pictures of their wet hair without shape after a shower, hair before a beautician, anti-cellulite procedures and everything else .You see the finished result. The previous comments were quite comprehensive in terms of decisions, now it is up to you. Hair-epilation. Curved nose-plastic surgery correct hairstyle. Mascara required. Blush. Against bad skin-baking soda extremely helps, shrinks pores lemon juice.Sports will improve the structure of the body posture and gait.When the lower part of your body is shorter than the upper wear heels on a platform to be more comfortable.Wear dresses with tightening around the waist, this greatly lengthens the lower part, because you can not see where the legs start. High-waisted jeans are also good. GOOD LUCK!:*

   The fact that you understand it (that you don't look good), but you don't delude yourself that you are beautiful and don't do the big job means that you are intelligent, good and educated, and this is very big compared to the other narcissistic-lost Bulgarian women. that annoy any normal man. So, in terms of intellect and interior, you are good, and as for the appearance, believe me, I have seen thousands of boys with mega ugly women and they love them. It's true. There is a train for all passengers as they say.

   Why not book an appointment with several different plastic surgeons to see what they can objectively offer you. You can compare such non-binding prices, procedures, expected results and assess whether it would make sense in your case. It is not bad to resort to plastic surgery, when even small changes can be life-changing. There is nothing more important than feeling good in your skin.

   Look, darling, the problem is not that your teeth are crooked, your eyes are small and expressionless, etc., but that you yourself do not have self-confidence. When you consider yourself ugly, unworthy to be loved, they are different and worse, you constantly radiate insecurity with your behavior, but it is normal that others will perceive you as ugly. Because you show them that! Everyone has their shortcomings, but you seem to deliberately look into the eyes of your people, instead of showing them your good sides. No, your problem is not physical, but emotional. Physics can be improved with make-up, sports, appropriate clothes, hairstyle, etc., but low self-esteem will always bother you. Therefore, first learn to accept and love yourself as you are. How do you expect people to like you when you walk around with a glowing inscription on your forehead "Fever!". ? While you consider yourself ugly, how do you think that someone, be it a man or a woman, will perceive you differently and see that you are actually a great person. Before you expect love from others, first learn to love yourself. Remember, you are unique and you should be proud of that! And not every morning to look in the mirror and repeat to yourself what is wrong with your hair, eyes, teeth, etc.

   Beauty is a matter of energy radiating out. There are beautiful women like traits, but you can't fall in love with them like lifeless dolls. There are also women with normal features and great charisma, as if a cloud of charm goes with them, without being exactly beautiful. So, knowing that, you already know what to do. Behave like a beautiful woman, remove the ugly word from your vocabulary, from your head and it will be a miracle.

   Every day do something small for yourself that will bring you happiness. Tomorrow go for a manicure, the next day buy a new blouse. Someone above had told you to learn to make up. There are super many video tutorials on youtube for any type of makeup. Set aside money for good cosmetics and learn to use it. Go to a hairdresser if you don't like your hair and cut it or choose a new color. Buy good shampoos and conditioners and take care of it, you don't have to be the most expensive. Start looking at yourself differently. Smile at life and it will smile at you. It is easiest to complain. Do something for yourself that you will like and make you feel good. In time you will see the change.

   It's awful what kind of people you met. Most people think I look good, I've heard all kinds of compliments. Probably on this basis I would think that I would express myself as those he uses as an example. And the most beautiful have visible (to put it mildly) imperfections. The way you talk about yourself shows that these nonsense with the categories have been successfully pushed to you. Yes, realize that someone is better, admit it. But it's not good to describe yourself that way. I have met this with insecure but nice women who have a "blackened" image of themselves. And men commenting this way have usually been commented on that way by women they can't have. As complicated as it is, it is certainly very right to concentrate on what you can improve, I'm not just talking about appearance. In my "advice" he is in second place.

   Sum up all the above and the truth will come out. My story: from a young age I had a complex for myself (overall feeling of inadequacy). From 1st grade I tried to look better. I had a terrible social phobia - I even sweated talking on the phone with an operator. I didn't look at the shopkeepers, my land was more "interesting". Everything started to change when I realized some of my flaws (clearly and specifically defined) and started working on them. This process continues to this day, but the truth is that not only do I like myself, but I love myself ... I love others more. I changed my whole style of dress. I made a nice body (4 years of regular training, now - when I have the desired). I put on veneers. I put on some fillers (don't overdo it! Look for balance and progress, never the perfect one!). Suga I go once every half year to maintain them (I have half in the lips; half under the eyes because I have concave lines at birth; literally 0. 1 on one indentation on the nose and again half on the cheekbones). Actually, if people don't tell them - they don't understand at all that I have fillers ... and in so many places, but if I show them pictures before and now they are "abe, somehow your face has changed"). This is the idea of ​​not showing up and liking yourself ... you know yourself, you like yourself. They cost me BGN 600 per half year (this is BGN 100 per month, it is not impossible). I also go for a manicure once a month (BGN 35). I recently completed a course with laser hair removal (there are many nice and cheap packages) and I am very pleased. Now I go for maintenance again for half a year (BGN 300). I do the other with the epilator once every two months and the rest of the time with a bull. I fix my facial hair myself (including the hair) once a week. I took a make-up course and very quickly turned to quality and affordable make-up, which I waste very slowly anyway and it doesn't cost me more than BGN 200 per year. With clothes I have always had one principle: a little, but quality. But the most important support I do: I go to a psychologist for 2 years - once a month. You have no idea how useful it is! It's all a common process: when you fix the things that are a thorn in your side, you start accepting yourself. With an inner attitude, reading, a psychologist, etc., your horizons expand, you improve your behavior and very soon you start to like yourself. When you already synchronize your inner state, your outer state and the environment around you - all your energy improves and you already love yourself. The people around you are changing for the better, your career starts, you have more energy, your relationships change, your vision of the world too, you want to give happiness now, not to take ... because you have. Good luck ... just be focused and persistent, remember that all the wheels go together and lubricate them. Because if one doesn't work, it stops the whole mechanism.

   You say you have a good profession. Set aside money and turn to surgeons. Nasal surgery BGN 3500-4000, silicone 7000-10 000, lip fillers at least 4-5 ampoules to BGN 1500. It radically changed the vision, the style, the attitude towards others. Even if you don't have self-confidence, never show it. Soon someone hints to you, be arrogant and don't let them crush you. GOOD TIPS, BUT USEFUL FOR YOU! Don't let vision be a problem for you - money buys everything. I advise you to start in facial cleansing and therapy, then tartar and whitening (if your sleepless veneers cases) Dear girl, do not be upset, you can always change the vision, but not in the heart! I wish you success Shugi

   You just have to stop caring about what you look like. I see your appearance as the perfect condition to try to deal with your spiritual development. 99. 9% of the population are at the lowest spiritual level and do not see beyond their nose. They are only interested in having something to eat, where to sleep, not to be left alone by chance, because they do not feel good in their own skin and they are afraid of everything. They are addictive. Don't be like them.

   Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. We are all different and we like different things. It all comes down to what radiates from you.

   Look, you're one of the majority of ugly women, but one of the few who realized it. It is full of chipped kikimori, which are thought of as the big deal, especially in Bulgaria, most of them are like that. The fact that Bulgarian women were very nice are myths about local consumption. You can't compete with the Scandinavians, the Ukrainians, the Russians, the Poles, the Czechs or even the Germans. Now how to deal with this fact? Well, very simple - you are XYZ (as you say there) and this is the most important thing. Who does not like you to be. Is p. mother weave and that's it!

   There is no way to cope, there will always be people with prejudices, unfortunately

   It seems that the statement that you just don't have to care will come true, because look at her, for example, Delyan and his mother ... These people are definitely doing very well, despite their shocking appearance.

   Darling, let me share with you my story of reassurance, because I think the comments above are quite comprehensive. I've had crooked teeth for as long as I can remember. As a child I wore splints, then braces until I was 14, then I removed them. I was very short, small and weak. After 15 years I grew up. I didn't have boyfriends, I didn't date boys, I didn't even kiss because I just developed more slowly and looked very small. At the age of 15 I could easily go for 12. I hadn't put on make-up, fixed eyebrows, hair, my style of dress was childish. Abe, compared to my peers, I was very bad, according to some. Nobody noticed me at school. The teeth were gritted, but the rest ... was the same. To top it all off, at 16g of 43kg I became 65-6 with a height of less than 160 cm full "meatballs" and pimples appeared, which I didn't have before, my hair became greasy, I had stains abe complete horror. And all this at once and at this age. Everyone had boyfriends, they corresponded with someone ... no one looked at me except purely friendly, because I'm just very nice as a person. During this period, which lasted about 2-3 years to 19 years of age, I may have felt disgusted, crushed by life. I just heard "almost how fat you are" and my relatives said "your face doesn't look like any of those pimples" and a bunch of other things. And for I was "For God's sake, I see .. I'm not blind, I have a mirror .. why do you have to repeat to me" I wanted to scream it so loud every time .. And so until 19 when I came across a video on YouTube of a vlogger for care for the skin, the hair ... then I watched all her videos for light make-up, hydration of the whole body, exercises and so on. I don't remember the name anymore, but you can find so many similar videos right now. It was hellishly motivating. I started to follow step by step and over time I got used to it and it became my way of life. I did not spend money on expensive cosmetics and with homemade masks, exercises I do at home to this day. There are videos and information on how to whiten your teeth at home. Mine personally are uniquely white at the moment, for which I receive compliments and my advice is 3 times a day for 3 minutes with any paste this is my rule. My appearance has changed completely in less than 6 months. I also bought vitamins for hair, skin and nails. I started going for pedicures and manicures. I make a homemade wax mask because I just don't have the opportunity in 2 weeks to give money to beauticians after I can do it myself. In addition, I read a very interesting book "Fine art does not care" which further helped the change! I lost weight, got in shape with exercises and Chinese green tea for BGN 5 from the pharmacy, which I drink twice a week in the evening without sugar and pure honey. I do all this to make myself feel good, not to impress anyone. The interest in me was increased by people who used to look at me as a second-hand person .. yes men are beautiful, but with empty hearts and souls .. there is no way to accept them and accept that someone is with me because of my appearance !! As far as I read, you are a good person inside. Stay that way and don't get angry. There are beautiful women, but they are empty and hollow, which is realized at a later stage by men when they have a home, family and want comfort, that a hollow watering can can not raise and feed his children and will throw them to one of the grandmothers so that she can be beautiful and spend money! The world went crazy, imagine everything too, people were petty and totally confused. Stay yourself, be confident, carefree and with a little effort and pampering for you everything will be fine. Good luck :)

   What can I tell you, nature is sometimes cruel. At least you have a clear conscience, because you make an effort to look good. I'm not pretty either, and until a few years ago I didn't take care of myself at all. Now I take care and look better, but since I don't have natural beauty, it's hard for me ... However, it's ugly for people to make fun of me. No one has the right to undermine your dignity, and you are not to blame for what you are by nature. Many people say that "you just don't have to care", but it's difficult, and sometimes even impossible. When you are constantly being ridiculed, it is pure harassment. It is best to consult a psychologist, he will give you advice on how not to be so influenced by negative opinions and how to gain at least a little self-confidence.

   Folks, haven't you read the story carefully? The author says she takes care of herself. That is, he makes an effort to look decent, but the problem is facial features and body proportions. These things are not neglected and are not the fault of the author. And because many of you tell her that "the problem is a lack of self-confidence," let me tell you often that everyone will comment on me, "how ugly I am," and I will not have self-confidence. It's very easy to tell a person that "he just shouldn't care" and that "it all depends on the broadcast and the way you accept yourself." Well, tell me honestly, if everyone tells you how ugly you are and that you "look like frogs, dragons, transvestites," etc., won't you feel ugly? Then it won't be so easy not to care. In addition, the author noted that not only passers-by comment on it. Even her relatives and boyfriends have pointed out that she is not beautiful. Well, that crushes your confidence everywhere. People with low self-esteem and inner insecurity have usually suffered a lot of ridicule and criticism from the outside world. No one is to blame for the facial features with which he is born. And for some people, no matter how well-maintained they are, the ugliness is just objective. It is true that, in principle, it is relative and subjective, but we cannot deny that just as there are women who are considered beautiful globally, so there are people who look ugly globally. I am not a beauty myself either, although I support myself and take care of myself in some way. This affects your self-esteem and it is not easy to accept yourself as nice when you are not. Author, despite everything, I do not accept that the situation is so bad. The psychological problem, however, is bigger. Go talk to someone who is impartial to you and gives professional advice. The psychologist is valuable in that he listens. At least pour out your grief, it will help you.