Hello! I want to share the situation I am in and maybe get some advice. My problem is the following: I am currently studying higher education at the best university in Bulgaria. I tried to get in, and now I have two more years. I started thinking about my future and what I wanted to do. I'm not working yet and that's the problem. I encounter zero understanding from my parents. I try, but I just can't find anything in my specialty, I want to see in practice what I'm learning. It's really hard for me. I feel depressed and dissatisfied with my life, I feel useless. This is not enough for me, but also the constant attacks of my parents that I am still not working. I don't know what my thing is, but I really want to find it. I wanted to go on a brigade to make money, but they refused, because I hadn't worked before and I wouldn't be able to do it. All my life I've only listened to hints that I'm not good at something, how I'm not going to do it, and they just want me to prove myself. I largely blame them for being so insecure about myself and my abilities. I'm worried about disappointing people at work. Now I am looking for master's programs abroad, because I have always dreamed of studying outside Bulgaria at a prestigious university. I really want to have a good career, a job that I love and be independent. When I mentioned it to my parents, they directly refused to listen. According to my father, nothing more than a manicurist will come out of me. He keeps telling me how they make money and live well. They do not understand that my goals are big and despite my high success, they do not believe in me. I don't know what they want from me. They have never been motivated like foreign parents to study, play sports, develop. Always refusals and reproaches.
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Ignore them, study to study abroad and act!
Maybe you are studying a specialty that does not have much application here. You should know why your parents don't believe in you. In terms of work - if it is not in the specialty or close to it, there is no point in wasting your time. Now it is most important for you to study in order to be well prepared.
Mmmm not good. I want to follow my swords and they want to study ours. Not that I don't like it, but I prefer not to stay in Find a person next to you who is certified in what you do to support you and give you the certification that clothes do not give you. Be brave, risk breaking your head anyway, and if they make a mistake, if you make a mistake, there will be a reason, but if you succeed, you will show them that life is to prosper in it. Good luck and write if I was useful to you.
So far, you have only proved that you can live ready-made. Someone to pay for your life, you have not proved anything else, you have no right to claim. You're still a mom and dad a godmother. That how do you want to believe whoever is in you and some of your abilities, even if you are a manicurist (it is a good profession). So you don't have a working day yet, you haven't earned a single loaf of bread yet, and the big claims, on top of that ... It's normal that the brigade has refused you, but you still don't feel it. You're not smart, if you're good, at least you're not good at catching someone to pay for your existence, I don't even see you. It will hurt your head.
This story is very familiar to me. I'm still a student and I managed to get into the best high school in town, but my parents don't care. Nor anyone else. No matter what I do, no matter what I achieve, no one has said, "Well done." All my life I've heard that I don't get up and that nothing will come out of me. Don't prove yourself to them. Learn, fight, but do these things for yourself.Find someone to support you, a friend or loved one.And be proud of yourself.Just forget all the bad and move on, you have achieved a lot, you have a lot more to achieve. yourself and don't prove yourself to anyone but yourself. And never get angry about such things. You will manage, things will get better. Good luck :)
This story is very familiar to me. I'm still a student and I managed to get into the best high school in town, but my parents don't care. Nor anyone else. No matter what I do, no matter what I achieve, no one has said, "Well done." All my life I've heard that I don't get up and that nothing will come out of me. Don't prove yourself to them. Learn, fight, but do these things for yourself.Find someone to support you, a friend or loved one.And be proud of yourself.Just forget all the bad and move on, you have achieved a lot, you have a lot more to achieve. yourself and don't prove yourself to anyone but yourself. And never get angry about such things. You will manage, things will get better. Good luck :)
Stop listening to your petrified and dumb parents, with an apology! They instill this negativity in you! Why did you have to listen to them about the brigade? !! This time put an end to and fulfill your dream - complete a master's degree in the place you want and fight to realize yourself. Strong people succeed in life, not those who surrender or obey! Prove to them that you can, rub their noses! They must be complexed by their own failed lives and that's why they're pouring it on you! ELSA
We idiots. What can you do? You can't choose others.
Are you an adult? Yes! Then why do you listen to some people whose dreams reach the table of the manicurist ?! This is your life! If you want you will go on a brigade, if you want you will fly to Mars! Since you turned 18, no one, but no one has the right to tell you how to live and what to do. You want to study abroad, act !!! What's better than that? Then go back to a diploma and a good profession and show them how much they have sinned against you. Yes, it will be difficult for you and much harder than for the people who will leave with the support of their families, but on the other hand, the success will be even sweeter. Because you will know that you managed on your own and worked hard for him. So don't give them any explanations. Well, just inform them. "I'm leaving for a brigade in 10 days!" or I was accepted to a university. The other means ruining your own life, because over time you will really start to believe that nothing will happen to you, that even working as a manicurist is too complicated, and so on. and you will regret all the missed opportunities. Unfortunately, I know many people who have ruined their lives like this. They had plans, dreams, but they listened to various "benefactors" who convinced them that everything was very difficult, that they would not be able to cope, that they were not smart and qualified enough for it, etc. and now they are 30 and a few and they are doing dull things and they really believe that they are one nothing and even what they do to them is a lot. And the truth is, most of us are much, much smarter and more powerful than we think. But all your life they keep saying, "You can't!", "You can't get up!", "Where did you go, huh? Don't you see, Manicure courses will not escape you, you can always take them, but a master's degree abroad is something you can do now. After 15 years of being married, with children and working in a nearby beauty salon, you will no longer be able to travel and study in another country, so don't miss your chance. And don't let people, even your parents, convince you of all sorts of nonsense! NOT TRUE! YOU CAN AND WILL DO IT! You just have to have a little courage to believe in yourself. Success! Manicure courses will not escape you, you can always take them, but a master's degree abroad is something you can do now. After 15 years of being married, with children and working in a nearby beauty salon, you will no longer be able to travel and study in another country, so don't miss your chance. And don't let people, even your parents, convince you of all sorts of nonsense! NOT TRUE! YOU CAN AND WILL DO IT! You just have to have a little courage to believe in yourself. Success! to convince you of various nonsense! NOT TRUE! YOU CAN AND WILL DO IT! You just have to have a little courage to believe in yourself. Success! to convince you of various nonsense! NOT TRUE! YOU CAN AND WILL DO IT! You just have to have a little courage to believe in yourself. Success!
A very big problem of modern society is the mental dependence of children on their parents. You have to overcome your parents and live for yourself. Your parents don't like themselves, and they don't like each other, and that creates dissatisfaction with the life they pass on to you. Unfortunately, a very common situation ...
And can I ask who is "the best university in Bulgaria" and what is your specialty?
The moment you realize that what you have written about "the best university" is nonsense, then you will be mature.