Quite an interesting story for me personally, as it is very close to one in which I was a participant, but on the other side. The details are a little different, but there are similarities. My colleague was also 20, she also had a friend, we also went on vacation when we didn't "miss" each other by chance and I later admitted, she didn't, but that doesn't stop me from knowing how she feels. Maybe it's a ridiculous coincidence, maybe not. After all, after the display of imagination on my part then, I am now looking to limit myself. Even if we talk about different events, based on the similarities, I can say the following. Love left aside, I will try to be objective. The fact that you are in a similar situation and you are looking for a way out and advice anonymously shows that there is a rift between you and your friend in the first place, and regardless of your colleague. If everything went well in your relationship in the first place, you would not come to such a dilemma. Perhaps the contradictions between you, precisely because you have been together for a relatively long time and because over time there is a tendency for these seemingly small differences to accumulate and lead to a rift, you yourself allowed this colleague to put you in a film with a vague ending. The question is: Are you aware of this yourself, can you assess the pros and cons of your relationship and would you both be able to overcome your differences in the name of what brings you closer? My opinion without knowing you: Do I think that being 20 and just because you are with someone from 4 years old it will lead to "and lived happily ever after"? No. You are too young and inexperienced and most likely with this friend, you will never watch Courage and Beauty. But does that mean you have to throw yourself at someone's neck just because you've sunk? Also no. In my case, I personally withdrew because I was not ready for her and to get things right. I didn't want to disappoint anyone. Similar to my case, now you have built an image for this colleague, which precisely because you have been in this situation for a year without actually going out and getting to know each other is probably absolutely wrong. So even if you dump your boyfriend, he doesn't think the relationship with your colleague will last long. On the contrary, you will fall out of love very quickly, because you and he will expect another person to meet you. I have already accepted in my story that nothing was meant to happen then, but that if it is ever written that we should meet again. I advise you to be aware that strength is not when it is only because there is a temptation and you can succumb to it, it is necessary, and then when you remain true to your values and principles. I wish you to make a sober decision that will be good for you. Happy Holidays!
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