I left my old company ... we just drank, smoked and partyed with them. A few people even shook but I never resorted to drugs. I managed to meet a man who changed me. Because of him, I stopped drinking and smoking. My old company didn't call me. But to this day, I'm afraid they'll look for me or some bad people will mess me up. I am afraid not of my former friends, but of their friends - drug addicts, thugs and the like. Not that I've done or said anything about anyone, I'm just insecure. I am asking for advice.
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I do not understand why you are afraid of them. First, you did not quarrel, threaten or be, you just stopped contacting. The person you met is obviously a boyfriend, or so I interpret your words. It is good that you have stopped smoking and alcohol, because they do not lead to anything good, one that your wife will eventually tease you how much money goes to nonsense, another that I see myself how they die in front of me because of nonsense. I think it's good to write to them and say ... anyway, bro, don't be angry with me, I respect you, but I don't drink or smoke anymore and that's why I don't meet with you ... explain to them humanly that you have nothing more in common . Besides, I don't see what kind of friends they were to you, given that because you changed, they dumped you. What's the problem with not doing it anymore if you still know how to party? You only used each other for company.
If you meet one of your old "friends" somewhere, greet him. Treat this group of people well after you are afraid. He is not looking for them and I think everything should be fine. Since they are not looking for you and you are not looking for them - they do not need you, as they do for you. Success! :)
It seems to me that this fear you feel is a very good thing, because it is he who can protect you from the company, and the nonsense from which you mentioned that you ran away!