Hello, everyone. I will try to explain my situation briefly. It's about a girl I think I've been in love with for 4-5 years somewhere. The thing is that with it we can say that we are old classmates and nothing more. During these years we have hardly seen each other, and I can't get it out of my head ... I've dreamed of her more than once, there are moments when I think a lot about her, there are also moments when I try to forget her and I ignore it from my consciousness. I have had many relationships ... there have been girls I have strong feelings for, but after a maximum of 1-2 months after the end of our relationship, the feelings subside and these girls become indifferent to me. Unlike them, I had no connection with the girl in question, but (I may repeat myself already) I cannot erase her from my consciousness. For so many years I have been afraid to find her and tell her how I feel .... in the end I can't go and tell her I love you or something ... it will be very stupid and I will probably scare her that way. I just don't know what to do! P.S. I have not had any problems with the girls, either during a conversation or during a download. If anyone can help me in this confused situation, I will be very grateful.
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Be a man and look for her! Well, if you haven't seen each other in a long time, don't shake it off her like thunder from a clear sky. Invite her to go out, see each other more often and you will find out when and how to tell her. And you will refresh your idea of it - sometimes a person idealizes the image of someone he liked, but did not know closely. I hope this is not the case with you and that you are happy together. However, you have to be scared - you are the man after all. In the worst case, he will reject you. And if you don't try it all your life, you'll regret it. The holidays are a good occasion - happy New Year and invite her to a meeting. I don't know if you realize how many men fail their dreams like that. While they are anxious to invite the girl they feel for, a brazen rag is thrown around their necks, and they do not deny her their misunderstood sense of masculine dignity. Then they brag about numbers, then the feather binds them ... and all their lives they are not good with it, but their whole world is to blame. Don't you expect her to look for you after so many years, even if she likes you? I don't understand that to men - you are free, it is accepted that the initiative is yours, have a little courage, this is your role in life :)
Going and just saying "I love you" is really stupid because you don't know if she shares your feelings. But why don't you find her and show her how you feel, do it with actions, serve flowers (it's a bit cliché, but it still passes). Take her for coffee, now it's full of snow, go out and pamper yourself like little children. Let this last for a month, for example, and then pour out your soul to her, tell her everything you feel, tell her how long you have been thinking about her and longing for her. Something like that might help ... SFA
What is written from 2 and 3 is very true. Eventually, if you resume contact with this girl, you will understand yourself and her better. It's one thing to transfer past memories to your imagination, it's another to try to understand what kind of person is in front of you and what changes have happened to this girl who was once your classmate. Are you still happy to share your free time with her or are you not so happy anymore ....