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June 06, 2020
2 eloo_ answered
I'm 19 and I'm just like you!
I keep telling myself there's time, this one's not for you. I'd rather run away from myself than commit and then suffer. But I think if I meet the right team, it'il be in order. My advice to you is, if you're okay with this boy, be with him, don't think about it, live for the moment.
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June 06, 2020
3 cutekittenllc answered
Are you crazy?!
You've found a man who, these days, with a magnifying glass to look for him, wouldn't find him... Pure luck, kind of, and you with your insecurities and stupid thoughts to ruin everything?
What do you think he doesn't have flaws? Life's not like movies, but not even. A relationship is built, for years, not located on the street, and if both sides do not put enough effort and compromise - nothing works.
Throw yourself into love upside down! And not succeed the first time - you will gain invaluable experience that in no other way you can acquire. Your real fear, which you should always be afraid of, is never to learn to communicate normally with people, not to accept them in a normal way with the flaws and all, as they do.
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June 06, 2020
4 tifany_twerk answered
You're right that it wasn't the problem, that you weren't ready for a relationship, and you were so immature-girl you enjoyed the male attention. When your mind caught up with your body, you started to realize it was stupid and started making you feel bad - you said that day after day, your thrill vanished. The problem, however, is that subconsciously years and years of such relationships create a complex and subconscious view that you are not worth it and everyone will leave you after you enjoy it, because so much time only such relationships and contacts you have had with men. You haven't realized for so long that something in you can't stand this life and this relationship, and it's come down to bad depression and literally a lack of opportunity to function. Yes, it's very "cool", it's very "cool", but it destroys you internally and much more importantly - mental.
And now we're getting to a point where you've got the bird on your shoulder and you've met a man, but it's hard because so many years of "living" have changed you, and it's no longer clear if you're in a serious relationship, whether you can be in one. Whether your mind and heart are so damaged that you can no longer trust anyone, that you no longer believe that someone can love you, that they won't leave. The truth is, he can leave. And realizing that is the hard thing you've been running from all these years. Light relationships are easy because there is no commitment, no trust, no loss. You have none of these things in the first part and you know that they use you, therefore it does not hurt when it turns out that (unsurprisingly) is the case. That's why it's easy. Serious is hard - unless you're stupid in the first place, you know it can happen that you can lose and get hurt, and yet you love and give and belong. It takes a lot of courage to do that. The question is, are you still capable of that? Whether you can trust someone and be with them without these complexes getting in your way. The other worrying thing you picked him up for - he's got experience in serious relationships, and you don't know what the dynamic is there. I hope it's not a problem for him, but even if it's not you, you're going to have to be the one who's learning to be with someone else and who has to accept news and what's not, little or less you're going to have to follow his direction. Love is for the brave. You should know that you can be hurt at the end and still be ready to get into this. After all, it's the scale that determines whether your feelings for that person are enough. You have to jump that barrier in your head to deserve the chance to be happy with it. But I think as someone who loved and was truly loved, it's worth it. You have to find that in yourself. If it's there.
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June 06, 2020
5 isaachdezmx answered
What kind of commitment? :D You're 20! Hahahaha
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June 06, 2020
6 kitty__doll answered
It's a tough whore's life...
It's Bratan.
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June 06, 2020
7 nikaflirt answered
You're still 20, you've got time for dozens more to try, you're going to pick someone when you're approaching your risky years.
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June 07, 2020
8 cherylboaler answered
At that age, I didn't want to get involved either. But if you've judged it to be fear, see a psychologist, look for the root. Who is this man who was close to you and left your life? Why this experience is not worked out emotionally, maybe something you can't leave behind, maybe you can't forgive something.
Some situations are long ago in the past, but we emotionally stay in them, the reality is already quite different, but we are not adequate at the moment. And, for example, because a single person has left our lives, we think everyone will potentially do so.
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June 07, 2020
1 kinsleypetals answered