Fear And Comfort Zone

   You better create a regime and follow it, as a start. Plus - do something new every week, or meet new people.

   I can't recommend a book to you, but I will give you my humble opinion. Anyone who has stepped out of their comfort zone and tried something new by overcoming themselves feels a great surge of strength and progress. This feeling is worth fighting your fears. You know how children run in the dark down the hall to avoid being eaten by a torbalan? At one point the child begins to walk slowly in the dark corridor, to do nothing for his salvation and realizes that nothing bad will happen to him, that everything is just in his head. Usually, overcoming fears is just proving to yourself that nothing will happen. After an accident, I was afraid to drive a car and often noted that there was a truck on the right, that someone was taking advantage, that people were crossing. I was a big irritant, but I was genuinely afraid. One day I got in the car and decided that I will be silent about these things all the way. At least three times my heart rate quickened and I shivered, but I didn't say anything, and in fact the trip was smooth. My next ride in the car was much calmer, I was scared again, but it was for a short time. After the fourth time I tried to keep quiet, I realized that the fear is only in my head and the risks around me will always be there, but that's okay. Sometimes inaction against fears shows us that it is pointless to be afraid. I also had problems speaking in front of an audience until I had to. Before I got on stage, I was shaking with nerves, but that only lasted until the first three words, after which I calmed down and the performance went well. It's hard to start, but once you do, you're on the merry-go-round and you're fine. Grab the fear before he grabs you. Don't think too deeply about your worries. Challenge yourself and prove to yourself that the world will not end after that. What's so great, everyone was exposed, everyone was trembling and everyone was white as a canvas ...

   You better not step out of your comfort zone. I had to get out of my calm state and I got gastritis from the stress. Not worth it.

   No one wants to step out of their comfort zone. I learned to do it when I was forcibly removed. I realized that since I couldn't avoid it, I'd better be the one to control it. It starts with small steps so that you do not stress too much and gradually increase. Take a process like getting vaccinated. It will be much less bad for you than getting sick from the real disease. I was not communicative and I preferred to stay at home - I forced myself to go out and communicate even with people I don't like. I felt terrible speaking in front of large groups of people. I forced myself to go to various presentations - the first ones were a nightmare, but gradually they became a routine and I don't even think about when I should do it anymore. I was comfortable at work. I left and started another one - now I'm not afraid of being unemployed, because even if it happens to me, I have already experienced it and I know what the steps are to overcome it. I was afraid from above - I jumped with a parachute and I am no longer afraid. In general - everything that requires some effort on our part, in the end is worth it.