Family Above All?

   To your first question: Parents have a debt, above all to their children. From a biological point of view, organisms have two main functions - to survive and to produce offspring. From a spiritual point of view, children are your continuation. A part of you that in one way or another that goes forward. You are a child of your parents, therefore your parents must understand that your children are a priority. It will be the same when you become a grandfather. Your children will still be your family, but the natural way is for the young to move forward. “Is family more important than you, would you put it above yourself, above your life?” This is a strictly individual question. No one can answer you. I sincerely believe that if you are being harassed, if you have not harmed the other in any way, then you are not obliged to endure this harassment. If you are unhappy and have no hope, it is all survival. If this continues, do you want to have children in this environment? Man is free to seek his happiness. It is true that sacrifices must be made, but for your family you are just a sacrificial lamb, so what do you owe them? And one more thing - years ago I watched a show, I hope, a fictional case. One child had leukemia and required a bone marrow transplant. Unfortunately, the donor could only be a brother or sister. And naturally, the family "created" a second child, which was used as a donor. The second child existed only to support the first. so what do you owe them at all? And one more thing - years ago I watched a show, I hope, a fictional case. One child had leukemia and required a bone marrow transplant. Unfortunately, the donor could only be a brother or sister. And naturally, the family "created" a second child, which was used as a donor. The second child existed only to support the first. so what do you owe them at all? And one more thing - years ago I watched a show, I hope, a fictional case. One child had leukemia and required a bone marrow transplant. Unfortunately, the donor could only be a brother or sister. And naturally, the family "created" a second child, which was used as a donor. The second child existed only to support the first.

   1. Depending on the situation, one has to think. If my parents are ill, I would like to help them (financially and with care), which will do some damage to my household. In fact, always if they have a serious problem and I can help them, I would. I would do the same for my husband's parents. In this respect, we are unanimous with him. If this is not the case, I will rather look after my family, which I find a priority in everyday life. My husband and I also agree on this. 2. I would sacrifice myself only for the sake of my children, but it would not be good for them to grow up as witnesses of physical and mental abuse. If such terrible things happened in my family, I would not stay. In the name of my health and psyche, as well as those of my children, I will divorce and remove the abuser from my life. If this happens in my family, I move out at the age of 18 and manage on my own. 3. I don't know, for me this is an indication of personal unresolved issues. If a man does it, there can be a million reasons - bad upbringing, confused psyche, strange moral understandings, pure aggression, dominance and so on. If a teenager is mistreating his parents, it is probably the effect of poor parenting or accumulated stress outside the home. I accept that children feel most free at home, and if they accumulate nerves outside the home, the same nerves kill at home. If a woman is misbehaving with her family, but is already mature, most often she was not ready for a family or she also has the problems listed above. If he makes him a parent of grown-up children, he cannot let them go, he cannot accept reality, he is powerful or something like that. I move out at the age of 18 and I manage on my own. 3. I don't know, for me this is an indication of personal unresolved issues. If a man does it, there can be a million reasons - bad upbringing, confused psyche, strange moral understandings, pure aggression, dominance and so on. If a teenager is mistreating his parents, it is probably the effect of poor parenting or accumulated stress outside the home. I accept that children feel most free at home, and if they accumulate nerves outside the home, the same nerves kill at home. If a woman is misbehaving with her family, but is already mature, most often she was not ready for a family or she also has the problems listed above. If he makes him a parent of already grown children, then he cannot let them go, he cannot accept reality, he is powerful or something like that. I move out at the age of 18 and I manage on my own. 3. I don't know, for me this is an indication of personal unresolved issues. If a man does it, there can be a million reasons - bad upbringing, confused psyche, strange moral understandings, pure aggression, dominance and so on. If a teenager is mistreating his parents, it is probably the effect of poor parenting or accumulated stress outside the home. I accept that children feel most free at home, and if they accumulate nerves outside the home, the same nerves kill at home. If a woman is misbehaving with her family, but is already mature, most often she was not ready for a family or she also has the problems listed above. If he makes him a parent of grown-up children, he cannot let them go, he cannot accept reality, he is powerful or something like that. If a man does it, there can be a million reasons - bad upbringing, confused psyche, strange moral understandings, pure aggression, dominance and so on. If a teenager is mistreating his parents, it is probably the effect of poor parenting or accumulated stress outside the home. I accept that children feel most free at home, and if they accumulate nerves outside the home, the same nerves kill at home. If a woman misbehaves with her family, but is already mature, most often she was not ready for a family or she also has the problems listed above. If he makes him a parent of grown-up children, he cannot let them go, he cannot accept reality, he is powerful or something like that. If a man does it, there can be a million reasons - bad upbringing, confused psyche, strange moral understandings, pure aggression, dominance and so on. If a teenager is mistreating his parents, it is probably the effect of poor parenting or accumulated stress outside the home. I accept that children feel most free at home, and if they accumulate nerves outside the home, the same nerves kill at home. If a woman misbehaves with her family, but is already mature, most often she was not ready for a family or she also has the problems listed above. If he makes him a parent of grown-up children, he cannot let them go, he cannot accept reality, he is powerful or something like that. this is probably the effect of poor parenting or accumulated stress outside the home. I accept that children feel most free at home, and if they accumulate nerves outside the home, the same nerves kill at home. If a woman misbehaves with her family, but is already mature, most often she was not ready for a family or she also has the problems listed above. If he makes him a parent of already grown children, then he cannot let them go, he cannot accept reality, he is powerful or something like that. this is probably the effect of poor parenting or accumulated stress outside the home. I accept that children feel most free at home, and if they accumulate nerves outside the home, the same nerves kill at home. If a woman is misbehaving with her family, but is already mature, most often she was not ready for a family or she also has the problems listed above. If he makes him a parent of already grown children, he cannot let them go, he cannot accept reality, he is authoritative or something like that.

   You come first - what you want and what makes you happy, no debt, no guilt, no "right", no "what people will say". Then there is the family you created. Just as you had a full-fledged family, so you must create one - to be a full-fledged father / mother, husband / wife and host / housewife. This cannot happen if you are still the mother and father of the child and you are not financially and emotionally independent of them. After 18 years, our relationship with our parents changes from adult to child from adult to adult, and parents must respect this without interfering, coming home uninvited, expecting that you have to call them every day, give reports and you fulfill all their wishes. I don't know what you mean by harassment - if they harass you physically, mentally (crushing self-esteem, to remain addicted) or emotionally (manipulations with guilt and duty), we do not have to tolerate them because they are relatives. They must be "nice" - if they are not, you treat them like everyone else, no matter that they are relatives.

   1. If the family is healthy, young people should be supported and put first. 2. You are the most important in the family, you have to love and respect yourself, if not you will not be respected. This means that if you have been mentally or physically abused, you can pack up and leave! 3. Bullies are weak mental people with many internal problems, who if they do not go to therapy and they lack awareness and desire for change, no matter how well they behave at some point they have the bad in themselves and will not change. It will get worse over the years!

   The author is right that a person has two families in his life, but he forgot to mention that the first family is his luck, and the second is his personal choice. From there follow the responsibilities for the choice of priority. For the first family you are obliged to support only if you approve of their actions and have the opportunity to support, while the second family after it is created by your personal choice you are obliged to support whether you fully understand you support their actions or if you have opportunities you should do for them and the impossible, because their actions are a consequence of your choice and behavior, that is, they act as you raised them and as you chose them, and you have no right to put them second as a priority. Simply put, feed your children first, pay for electricity in the family home, and only then, if you have money, buy your mother's pills. The answer to the second question should be clear to everyone. Of course, you will put yourself first and only then any of the families, because in reality, if your life is in danger, then you can not have the family you want to fight for. The most important thing is to preserve personal health and only then to take care of preserving the family and their health and well-being. Your third question can be answered that if one partner is harassing the family, it is not only his fault. First, because the other partner has chosen to start a family with a person with complexes. Secondly, after choosing such a person as a partner, he should know from the very beginning that he will have to play the whistle for the rest of his life. It makes sense when a woman knows that the man of her choice raises scandals and jumps into battle if she goes outside without a veil, she should not go out without her veil or admit that she made the wrong choice and divorce. That's the way it is with every little thing, a man knows very well how his partner will react. And believe me, if you ask any abuser why he does it, aren't the family the ones who are dearest to him? He will answer that he does it out of love for them, because he loves them, and according to him this is the only way for them to do the right thing next time. It's like asking a mother why she screams or even slaps her child for couples in the notebook. And she will answer you out of love doing it to be more diligent child, another question is what is the right reaction in the situation. a man knows very well what his partner will react to. And believe me, if you ask any abuser why he does it, aren't the family the ones who are dearest to him? He will answer that he does it out of love for them, because he loves them, and according to him this is the only way for them to do the right thing next time. It's like asking a mother why she screams or even slaps her child for couples in the notebook. And she will answer you out of love doing it to be more diligent child, another question is what is the right reaction in the situation. a man knows very well what his partner will react to. And believe me, if you ask any abuser why he does it, aren't the family the ones who are dearest to him? He will answer that he does it out of love for them because he loves them, and according to him this is the only way for them to do the right thing next time. It's like asking a mother why she screams or even slaps her child for couples in the notebook. And she will answer you out of love doing it to be more diligent child, another question is what is the right reaction in the situation. It's like asking a mother why she screams or even slaps her child for couples in the notebook. And she will answer you out of love doing it to be more diligent child, another question is what is the right reaction in the situation. It's like asking a mother why she screams or even slaps her child for couples in the notebook. And she will answer you out of love doing it to be more diligent child, another question is what is the right reaction in the situation.