Faced With A Dilemma - Give Me Advice

   I don't understand how your mother can be angry with you for such a thing. Instead of being happy that you managed to find a job and in the future you will support the family financially, she is angry that you can't go to sea with them. Strange. And no, if you stick to your job, you can't be away for a few days after you start. This means tearing up your employment record and giving a clear signal to your boss that you are not serious. That's why I just don't understand how your mother can behave so childishly. Yes, it's bad not to rest in the summer, but it happens to everyone. Here I will not rest this summer, nothing that I have been working for years in this company and I have the right to leave. But it so happened that the colleague left and because we are a small company there is no one to work and I will have to give up my plans, unless a miracle happens and we find a new colleague quickly. But I don't believe it, so I resigned myself to the fact that, at best, they would let me go for a few days in September, nothing, that by law I was entitled to 20 days of paid leave, and that I had already stated in January that I would use them before August. But what to do, it's like that at work. Sometimes you have to compromise.

   I'm on your mother's side. Only 17, you will have time to work all your life, your mother who knows how much effort she put into finding a way to rest, both for cheap places and to pay for them. And suddenly, knowing that you will go to sea, almost your mother's dream, you are looking for a job just before that, as if you do not know. They don't tell me that you work every summer, but you are 17, at most you worked last summer, before that the law did not allow you to work and no employer could hire you. And even now, your employer can't hire you without your mother's consent. Is there something rotten in your topic !? !! You are a future man, you must learn to prioritize. Your family is the most important thing, especially if someone in the family has made an effort to make you happy, it is very disrespectful to refuse at the last moment, it's even offensive. Your mother tried to provide you with a vacation despite the absence of a father, and you! Why do you split from your family, once your mother has decided, then that's right, remember you are not yet an adult and she is your guardian, you still do not have the right to make independent decisions, even related to your personality.

   I think as n. 1. N. 2 would be entitled to a normally insured family with an average standard. The author simply wants to live normally, it is commendable that she is serious, ambitious and hardworking. At 17, you're old enough to make that decision on your own, and your mother will accept it if she respects you

   N. 2 Rarely in Bulgaria is there a "normally insured family" and while a young person (the author is male) is not of legal age, he is obliged to comply with his guardian in this case, his mother. The author is a minor and the decisions are still in his mother's hands. The day will come and he will have to make his own decisions, but it is still early. And to sell your family for money / salary / is not commendable. No matter how poor a family is, one should not neglect it for the sake of an employer. The mother in the case of this family somehow manages, she even managed to achieve a vacation at sea, isn't that worthy of respect, I respect her, but I don't understand why her son doesn't respect her efforts. Nowadays a woman can cope alone alone with a deceased husband with two children is not easy and at sea to settle them, what more.

   number 2/4, can you hear what you are writing ??? "to sell your family for money / salary /" - are you okay? the author is looking to earn some money to help his mother, he gives up the holiday to help her because they obviously need him, you made him an apostate and a traitor !? !! in the end, nothing prevents her from going with her other son, I don't understand exactly what her problem is. and I do not know where you read about the sea, I have not seen such a thing. F42

   In principle, you are all right, but one sentence impressed me in the commentary on № 4: "No matter how poor a family a person is, he should not neglect it for the sake of an employer." It is absolutely so. Work is for man, not man for work. It is not good or right to step on ourselves, our human dignity, our family, our children and our loved ones, just to please the rabid capitalist.