Exhausted Patience

   Dude, these people are different, but I had a similar situation some time ago. I went out with a girl for a few months, but absolutely no progress. We got to the kisses almost immediately, but at her entrance when I sent her away. Come on, I agree the first one or two times is normal, but it happened all the time. Not to mention that we only saw each other in the evenings to go out to discos. In the end, it turned out that she was just using me to fill her time. The moment he found another, he seemed to sink to the bottom of the earth. After about half a year, she called me again as if nothing had happened, but I no longer wanted to deal with her. My advice is to do the same.

   Don't deal with freaks who break your nerves. It's simple. There's not much to think about.

   I have found that if you do not enjoy the meetings and you are light and pleasant if she does something that frustrates you, hangs you, etc. it is better to end the relationship and save not only time, nerves but also feelings. Such relationships can make you almost indifferent in your future relationships and you can't put feelings into it and it happens to you. So you better save those shit.

   what is our opinion it is clear - she liked you enough to go out with you, to fill her time, to brush her ego, etc. She was not in love with you, nor were you important to her, she did not care about you. else to interest you?

   Why are you still dealing with her at all, when you already have a new girl in your life? Draw the line of an immature teenager and watch your life.

   Look now, boy. It's been clear for miles that you don't particularly like her, you're just looking for sex with her. If you like sex you will turn around, if you do not run. And it's not about having any special feelings for her. We women feel it. When I feel dizzy, even if I like him, I have no scruples about how I treat him. If I have sex I will go to bed, if not, I will play games, because I can't hurt him - he doesn't care about me and everything is correct. So the author is not surprised. Whatever knocked called

   And what if you haven't had sex, then it's gone. She may have been a virgin or hurt by an immature braggart like you. If you haven't waited, then you don't deserve it. You all want a decent girl, but you don't waste time and you go back to the easy.

   You're wasting your time. Can you imagine a serious relationship starting like this?

   You are dissatisfied with her, but at the same time, by not ignoring her completely, you are pouring water on the girl you are seeing now. And you actually behave the way she did until she completely ignored you before - you keep her in reserve. It's easy to blame others, but it's hard to see that we do what we don't like when they do it to us. ;) This is my opinion! G30

   It's really amazing how for some women, no matter what happens, the man is always to blame for everything. 6, 8 how exactly did you find out that he doesn't like her very much, that he only wants her for sex? What feelings do you expect from him when she hasn't clarified at all what she wants from their relationship for so long? She's obviously playing with it, while the author, looking at how he's harnessed, definitely had serious intentions for her. Everyone would be tired after a certain time to deal with various games like go to me, come to me .... Personally, I was very annoyed by such stories, you harness a girl, you put your feelings and energy on her, and it makes it interesting. He neither cuts you nor clarifies what he wants. And so on until you get bored and find another girl. Then it feels like she fucked up with her toys and starts looking for you despite, that he sees you with the other girl. Well, they didn't work for me, and if he started bothering me too much, he would get a direct and rather rude refusal. So author, look at your new girl and don't deal with them and their numbers.

   Abe has enough of this waiting! What advice do you give him? If he liked her, would he really wait? No, in no case should he wait and should not tolerate any drooling and even the slightest disrespectful behavior. Author, such queens of drama as you have encountered, it is best to get rid of them as soon as possible, because they only cause you negative emotions. She doesn't respect or value you as a person and thinks she's sitting on top of your relationship and can play you. Don't get attached to nonsense, but watch your life.

   Author, and I had a very similar case. With the small difference that I didn't go to a party to meet another chick. And I got to the next level, so to speak. On Friday night he invited us to drink wine. Sounds extremely clear, but there was no sex, was she in a cycle? !? !! OK, a week later we repeated, we went to bed, I tried everything ... it doesn't work, she just wanted to hug. After almost 5 months, I naturally got tired and drew the line. The woman in question liked you and tried when and if you would give up, and she trained you as a boyfriend. This type of girls relax extremely slowly and generally you should not enter with anything abrupt. How long this will last no one knows, including herself. Add the typical factors such as the female logic of the choice, her other options, her great love for her ex, etc .... It becomes a mess and a possible toxic relationship that is not worth being in. PS At 25 we were both

   From the author: Thanks to the moderators for the post and to all the comments. I released the story not to complain or brag. I am interested in the opinions from the female and male point of view. Something like this had never happened to me before, obviously it's never too late. They cut me, I brought other girls back, I came across various users ... but as they say, everything was there. Every situation is important to me, I try to gain experience and draw the right conclusions. No matter good or bad. And at that point, at one point, I started to wonder if I was so bad and fucked things up or if it was inadequate. Numbers 6 and 8, of course I'm going to have sex with her, the basis of any relationship is ... sexual attraction. And it is unwinding and such games that kill all feelings and emotions. Even more than like, when a woman is like a corpse in bed. You can't expect someone to develop that syndrome for the ONLY one after such a story. Life goes on, the stupidest thing would be to wind yourself up and sit in one place. The whole story is an example of this. Still, of interest, how long did you think I had to wait? Number 10, you're right, the current situation is completely a mirror and I have definitely been reactive to her behavior at times. Basically, I try to avoid such behavior. I still think it's normal to back off after someone ignores you, doesn't want to see you, there's nothing worse than annoying people, regardless of gender. But in this case it doesn't really matter and I don't think I'm pouring water on anyone, I have no intentions about it. By ignored I meant that I did not rub and block it. I just don't answer her very much when she writes. And despite this fact, this has been happening more than often lately, and at any time. 11 and 12 sensed it best, and Number 13 described it very accurately in the second part of his commentary. I am aware that things could have happened with more ignorance and patience, but it is not worth it and the page is closed.

   The story is really quite telling. Hopefully more ladies of this age will read it and think about it. Comments 6 and 8 are really amazing. What do you expect from the person to sit and wait for her for another 3 months? There is hardly such an inadequate woman who has not realized that by devoting so much time to someone, he will begin to become attached to her. Emotionally and sexually. You can't have them all, and you have to get used to not being special. The author has continued his life. No wonder the drama queen reappears to try to ruin his current relationship, which definitely makes him happy and then behaves like before. You can't love people just as adventures to spend time with and feel only when you're on the wave. Unraveling and lack of any empathy can kill all feelings and emotions. And it is quite selfish and unpleasant when you want to own without being committed to giving. Author, if you did the right thing, there is no point in wasting your time expecting something serious from such frigid neurotics. I also had a flirtation with one at 25, things developed in a similar way. In the beginning - OK, then it started to get hot, dramas about almost everything, games. There was no sex, we had kissed several times. The reason for all this turned out to be very simple, but I was also wondering where I messed things up in the game. Two years ago, she ended her most serious relationship with great love. The dude was tired of being to blame for the eternal sourness and he lost her. From that moment on, she decided not to trust anyone, and to take revenge on the world, that she was cut off and behaved stupidly and disrespectfully, even with those she dated. Well, I can't be with a person who wears and transfers his trauma from a previous relationship. I would also joke about the fast procedure.

   And why are you writing this topic here after you have moved on and are happy with your new girlfriend? Well, the girl did well, she felt that you don't really love her, it's just the next one, and you proved it by starting another relationship right after that. And why not ignore her once you have another girlfriend. Write to her that you're done with her, you don't love her, let's see if she'll look for you after that. But it doesn't bother you, does it, because inside you know that this is not true! Still, nothing can happen to you from now on, so keep going!

   To 16: Well, how long do you think it should wait? It's about 25 people, not some students. If the feelings are two-sided, it's stupid to play games for more than a few months. That's where the wrong impressions come from. Reading the story, the author was obviously quite depressed, given that he did not draw the line after all the nonsense. And what they were with the girl, we can only assume, the options are many. But even if she had some feelings, at least she could show them in one of the thousands of possible ways. Which apparently his current girlfriend does. Author, in your place I would delete it, I would even block it without explaining it. She had plenty of time to clear things up, too. I don't think he deserves anything after such a story.