I don't know if my husband is cheating, but I will tell you the facts and I ask you to answer me. Some time ago, my husband's boss told several of his colleagues and their wives that when he looked for him, he was always with A. (I will call the woman that because she is also married). We talked at home, but my husband said they just drank coffee and had nothing to do. He also promised me that he would be reserved with her now. After a while, however, this woman and her husband joined our company, and she told everyone how my husband told her that he liked her more with a different hair color, more precisely with the one she had before; how our car is easier to drive than theirs; at one point he ordered me to bring him something to wear that he was cold (I of course did not go); how he shares everything with her, whenever we get together she invites him to dance, etc. there are other things that have happened, but I don't know if they have anything in common. It's just that whenever we get together, she always tries to show how close they are "as colleagues" and how alien I am there because I'm different. My husband says that he never let our car drive her, that just like everyone else he noted that the new hair color does not suit her, that the only thing he shared was about the repair of our apartment, but I definitely have doubt and now I ask him in front of all who have heard these things to stand up and ask her. He agreed, but wouldn't that be too aggressive and ugly If she really exaggerates? What if he lies to me? I do not know what to do? We have been married for 20 years. Help me with advice, please! she always tries to show how close they are "as colleagues" and how foreign I am there because I am different. My husband says that he never let our car drive her, that just like everyone else he noted that the new hair color does not suit her, that the only thing he shared was about the repair of our apartment, but I definitely have doubt and now I ask him in front of all who have heard these things to stand up and ask her. He agreed, but wouldn't that be too aggressive and ugly? If she really exaggerates? What if he lies to me? I do not know what to do? We have been married for 20 years. Help me with advice, please! she always tries to show how close they are "as colleagues" and how foreign I am there because I am different. My husband says that he never let our car drive her, that just like everyone else he noted that the new hair color does not suit her, that the only thing he shared was about the repair of our apartment, but I definitely have doubt and now I ask him in front of all who have heard these things to stand up and ask her. He agreed, but wouldn't that be too aggressive and ugly? If she really exaggerates? What if he lies to me? I do not know what to do? We have been married for 20 years. Help me with advice, please! that just like everyone else he noted that the new hair color did not suit her, that the only thing he shared was about the renovation of our apartment, but I definitely have doubts and now I ask him in front of everyone who has heard these things to stood up and asked her. He agreed, but wouldn't that be too aggressive and ugly? If she really exaggerates? What if he lies to me? I do not know what to do? We have been married for 20 years. Help me with advice, please! that just like everyone else he noted that the new hair color did not suit her, that the only thing he shared was about the renovation of our apartment, but I definitely have doubts and now I ask him in front of everyone who has heard these things to stood up and asked her. He agreed, but wouldn't that be too aggressive and ugly? If she really exaggerates? What if he lies to me? I do not know what to do? We have been married for 20 years. Help me with advice, please! but wouldn't that be too aggressive and ugly? If she really exaggerates? What if he lies to me? I do not know what to do? We have been married for 20 years. Help me with advice, please! but wouldn't that be too aggressive and ugly? If she really exaggerates? What if he lies to me? I do not know what to do? We have been married for 20 years. Help me with advice, please!
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It seems to me that these are intrigues of the colleague. If there was anything between them, she would cover it up, not demonstrate it. One possible scenario - your husband gets along with her, maybe he gets along with everyone, but she's looking for his company more often, and at some point, she imagines she's attracted to him. She pressed him, he refused her, but not rudely, but he got away with the explanation that he was married, and she is now taking revenge for that, but also not rudely, but in the form of a joke. It aims to create a conflict between you and your husband, and reading your doubts, it seems to work. My advice is, in the next case of special treatment of your husband by his colleague, not to last, but to be a little sharper. For example, in the case where she made you bring your husband's clothes, tell her, "You take care of your husband. Mine doesn't think so." I wonder how your husband reacts to her behavior in your presence. Does he feel uncomfortable with what she says?