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June 18, 2020
2 jackson1085 answered
I think it's normal, but not for the reasons listed, but for quite others. Of course, there is no way to guess exactly what the problem is, since we know no father, nor mother, nor their past family life, or the reason for their separation.
But surely if a father after divorce does not seek to see his child guilt and the mother, little or a great fault is in both parents. The father, presumably, accepts him guilty The mother's guilt can only be limited to choosing a father as the child has suggested, but it may be much greater.
We can only say that the mother is innocent if she has fully protected the father in front of the child over the years. If the mother during and after the divorce was looking to contact the father in order to preserve the father-child relationship, she calls him and says "do you have the chance to come and see him asking about you." If the mother had been putting a "gift from dad" under her birthday for all these years, though only a chocolate santa and explaining "he loves you, he wants to see you, but it's far away."
And if a father doesn't care about his son for years, I can suggest a few things, he's very offensive to the mother if she's the cause of the divorce, or he's very offended during the divorce by the mother and her relatives, and he's just afraid of being attacked with the same insults in front of the child if he thinks the child is set against him and is raised only by the opinion and understanding of the mother about him. There's a possibility that, of course, he was with the mother just because she got pregnant by a drunken fling and didn't love that woman at all, he's likely to think the child isn't him, and long before we know the whole story we can't guess.
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June 18, 2020
3 secretparty_ answered
Well, author, irresponsible people do that. Your son is right that you made a bad choice for a father. The man doesn't seem to be a father or a husband. The good thing is that this is behind you, and that now you have a good man by your side. The less you talk to the child about the biological donor, the better. Let him embarrass himself with his inaction.
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June 18, 2020
4 ketu_angel answered
Ah, H2 stunned me by claiming that it was the mother's fault to abandon her family. So the father is an irresponsible drone who has freed himself from his child as an annoying obligation, but you see, his mother had to protect his authority by putting gifts under the tree on his behalf! Finally, when you still understand what a selfish idiot the father is, the child feels deceived by the mother. Oh, no! Everyone should have their responsibility. let the son see who is taking real care of him, and who has conveniently sedented as he grows up and needs two parents. So he knows tomorrow as his parents get old, who to take care of, and who to throw a kick out the door.
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June 18, 2020
5 brenda_paez answered
No21, these are some theories - there is no father to be stopped if he wants to keep in touch with his child. He just doesn't want to. Why does not want it does not have any meaning for the child, because it sees what the father does, they do not care about the reasons, because they usually have nothing to do with the child. Fathers' attitudes towards children after a separation go through their attitude towards the mother. That's in the mass. Absolutely wrong! Whatever the mother did to the father, the child had nothing to do with it. And so we get to the father's ego and the results of it.
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June 18, 2020
6 irenejain answered
Nos4 and 5 if you had read and made sense of what was written in No2 you would have understood the meaning. I wrote that "The Father supposedly accepts him guilty" did I have to explain in detail what he was guilty of?
Every child has rights and needs, and these rights and needs must be respected and given by both parents. The child is not to blame either that the mother chose such a father, nor that the father chose this particular woman as a mother. Therefore, if the child is with one parent, in this case the mother, in order to be innocent, must atone for the choice of such a father, and at least in the early childhood, during the growth of the child, take care of or rather drive the clumsy from whom she chose to give birth and pay attention to the father, or if she can not make him at least lie to the child that he has a father and his father very much loves him. It is more important for a child to believe that there are two parents who love him than the mother of early childhood to prove to the child her bad choice. What does a mother achieve by proving to her child how bad his father is? It only proves that she made a bad choice! And what does the child lose from knowing that there's a man out there who's his father and doesn't care about his son?
Yes correct "Whatever the mother did to the father, the child has nothing to do with it" but the same applies in the opposite direction. Whatever the father did to the mother, the child had nothing to do with it!!! From there, we can get to the mother's ego.
Parents or a parent should first think about the child, not their own ego "the child loves only me".
Published on:
June 18, 2020
7 xjulieredx answered
There are people like that, they don't even care about the kids. I know a guy with a 3, but she's giving alimony, if she could, she wouldn't have...
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June 19, 2020
8 bigboy4u2000 answered
that it is not normal, it is clear. Things certainly have a history, though. The situation has many aspects, and you don't say anything about how you lived, why you split up, what kind of relationship you were in to get this far. In the breakdown of 1 marriage always have an attitude both, I'm not saying it's equally, but surely you've contributed, even with the choice of a man.
Yes, your son is right that you chose a bad father who will always be a part of him. Instead of having an example in front of him, he's going to be worried that 50% of it's bad material.
And the particular man who does this can't say without knowing more about the situation.
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June 19, 2020
9 perverted_candy1205 answered
Hi, I'm writing again because I need papers, and I contacted the father. I'm really scared to share, but we talked, and for now his interest in the child is great, I can't believe it. They talk often, buy him things, soon they'il see each other, if it's meant to be, because he lives far away. I wonder how that happened, does anyone have an idea?
Author
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June 19, 2020
10 zoe_sweet6 answered
I don't understand the problem very well. What documents and what bothers you at all?
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June 20, 2020
11 wonder_rider1 answered
I needed a declaration, the problem is, I don't believe in radical change, I wonder what it's due to.
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June 20, 2020
12 dady_lite answered
Writing "hate mother or family" it became clear to me that he had a background and reason to want to "run away" from you, including not seeing her own child. You must be another toxic family just waiting to harass the "strangers" who dared to try to form a family of your own with one of you. I understand the man - only who wasn't harassed by an old mother-in-law or mother-in-law would condemn him for running away like that instead of putting up with them.
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June 20, 2020
13 bessdupont answered
and in the previous comments we wrote to you, things have a history. You didn't write anything about what your relationship was, what the reason for the divorce was, what his attitude to the child was, etc. All he said was that he hated mother and family. Why?
If a person is not a complete freak (and such are few), he loves his child regardless of his relationship with the mother. To end all contacts, there are always reasons. I stress that I do not take anyone's side, it is just that history is presented schematically and one-sidedly.
All the important questions didn't answer, and now you're asking us why he's seeing the child. Besides pulling out the crystal orb, other way I can't see
number 8
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June 21, 2020
14 surfboy657 answered
A radical change is unlikely to occur unless he is seriously ill - the changes usually happen then, but are after rain. What do you care what it's due to? Never mind, time will tell, as always. I wouldn't swallow that kind of behavior anyway. I wouldn't set my child up to the father. You leave it like this without any unnecessary comments. It's a relationship between them- the father looking for a way to the child. You're just supposed to be an observer.
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June 21, 2020
15 lilunicornuwu answered
Author, hello! I know you're in pain from this fact, but... Get over it! That's what bad people do, and we shouldn't regret it. A man, whether a man or a woman, does not take care of his child, is garbage!
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June 22, 2020
16 boystatto_barebackx answered
Up to 12, by the author
"Mother-in-law" was a miracle, so I ran away from her, and he knew
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June 22, 2020
17 angelajjj answered
Author, you're not a flower to smell. Know that the light bulb has a tail. Everything has a background. It's just that right now your ex needs him to sign some papers for nothing else, and that's why he's interested in him. Oh, otherwise, mind your decent husband so you don't write on the forums and on the forums.
My husband was a sn dead son-in-law, and he did it for me. I wanted to be closer to my parents. Yes, but they got on his head - insults, humiliations, lines, all dissatisfied. I was between the hammer and the anvil, but I was guilty too, because I kept trying to balance things out. However, at one point he was fed up and, in an atypical one, an angry style told me: "You either go with me and the kids, or I take my bags and I leave and you'll never see me again. I fucked your mother to everyone. I can't take it anymore, i have one life and some dignity. I don't want to live with freaks anymore.' I followed him, and I don't regret it. It was hard at first, but we did it.
G42
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June 22, 2020
18 f1r3fly92 answered
By 19, I agree that there is always a reason, but whatever flower I am, I have taken responsibility as a parent.
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June 23, 2020
1 tender_baby_ answered