Does My Friend Treat Me Like A Child Or Does He Want To Exercise Power?

   Talk to him? Explain to him that all this in him irritates you and that if things continue like this, he leaves you no choice but to "dump" him.

   You've been together for so many years, and you haven't agreed on such trifles? This is not good. This means that you do not accept yourself as you are and subconsciously irritate each other. In five years, to be bothered by such everyday life is insane. If you are already thinking of abandoning it, this will probably be the next step. If at the household level people are not compatible and the greatest love disappears.

   See basically as described and I do not understand where the logic is and why you should not wash or bathe in the evening, but most likely there is a logical explanation. Maybe he's annoyed by the noise, the noise of the washing machine in the evening, the noise of the hair dryer after your bathroom, the noise of a dropped plate. It is perfectly normal for a person to be annoyed and startled by the slamming of doors and plates, many people have a higher sensitivity to noise. For the doors of the kitchen cabinets, the solution is easy to go to a furniture store and buy shock absorbers for smooth closing, so you can't shake it if you want. There are silicone mats for the sink, so you can't rattle or break a plate. As for washing your plate, I'm of the opinion that he may be right, because since he's mostly clean at home, he's angry at the fact that other men still get married and don't do housework, and not only does he do it, but he is not properly appreciated. You should not apologize for the fact that you work, but you are not the only working woman, and other women are also absent from home for 11 hours when they work, rarely nowadays employers observe an 8-hour working day. Really, if you are not there for 11 hours and you sleep for 8 hours, then you have 5 hours every day, to do something useful for your home and family, for the common good, for caring for your husband, just look at how he takes care of you in his free time. time.

   Your friend is behaving like an unemployed elderly housewife. Drop it, there's nothing to waste your nerves on. A woman.

   You don't have a friend, you have a mother-in-law ...

   Yes, there are people who like to control, and this may be dictated by an inner anxiety - that something if it does not happen - how will the end of the world. My guess is that he had this pattern of life somewhere before in his life. perhaps, a domineering mother who is also a well-ordered housewife. However, his warrant is better than a Balkan subject who thinks his wife is a servant, sloppy, or very inert. I know this is an extreme example. but it is much more common and probable. I think you can get along with your man through fairy tales. Or, you can work out a tactic not to put too much on your heart. Another option is to separate.

   One is throwing away his socks, the other is banging on the doors, one is snoring and listening to a black veil, the other is disorganized in his free time. If you are guilty in the morning, instead of getting annoyed and joking with the other, you can: have sex, get dressed and go outside Sofia, put on work clothes and work in the workshop together. Draw a picture together, one teaching the other chess. To cook something together. Instead of fussing over what you bathe in the evening, take a break and let yourself do something together. This is the most relaxing and close for two people. I recently told a mother and now with my daughter and they bring me the most delicious cake. Their tradition is on Thursday night. On Wednesday night they are at a folk dance. Go to sports, to art therapy. On something. Something that is not OK with you is very selfish to grumble about the other. Tell him so and so and you catch him and make him not get annoyed. In addition to getting annoyed, you can also make compromises. And in order not to be invaluable, tell me about blah blah blah, I make a compromise. But you either do or you don't. Not to say I do and then a week to give a filling of countless conversations and a sense of things in common life. At work, one of the departments tells me that everyone has certain responsibilities in them - one washes one and washes windows, they help each other.

   And if you are stupid enough to give birth to a child, I don't think how you will be confused ... In fact, my situation was similar - I never know how to do anything, I can't cook like people, I don't remember to do this and that - according to him. All reproaches and comments like - your wife, you must have some sense of these things ... I made the mistake of staying with him, even though he underestimated me so, we gave birth to a baby and it got worse. Worse than mother-in-law. My mother-in-law didn't say a word out of politeness when he came, and he - why did you dress him with this, why not with that, don't wear socks like that after I breastfed him - breastfed him again, maybe he's still hungry, I I explain to him that I have already fed him, he knows his own - no no, you give it to him again - it's cold here, don't let him play with this, but with that ... but it was a horror :( Not to mention, that I can't move to the store alone, we still have to be TOGETHER. Not that I mind, but it sucks to know that I can't go out alone to throw trash. Even my laundry pulls him out of his arms to make him sleep. Run at 200 km / h run and never look back. The person is pedantic, nervous, especially if you are in his home ... it's a character, a way of life, it doesn't change. He may love you endlessly, but he will never refuse to change you, to model you to his liking, and that is deadly.

   It will not be.

   He just either likes to be a boss or has a heavy character, I'm a man but I don't have a boyfriend for now

   He tells you not to take a bath in the evening and almost forbids you to? !! I won't even comment on it, and all the other nonsense. I will tell you this - relationships need work, dialogue, adjustment, mutual respect, understanding and compromise. However, this cannot be achieved by force. A person can change his behavior and especially his inner attitudes only if he wants to. In this regard - you can try to improve your relationship, but if you see that you do not receive understanding and assistance from him, then you must accept that he is like that, he wants to be like that and has the right to be like that. Just as much as you have the right to bathe in the evening. You either accept it or you don't. However, if you, for your part, do not feel satisfied with your relationship, no one obliges you to tolerate it. The decision is yours! F31

   Hello! I was in the same situation, I was talking and guess what - again my opinion was wrong, again I was talking nonsense and I was almost weak-minded. The truth is that it will not change and will only harass you in this way. This is harassment. Personally, I got to a roar of nerves, I felt depressed and controlled and mostly helpless. This is no salvation, believe me. Get away while you can, it will get worse and worse! SUCCESS!

   This is very annoying. It's disgusting for a woman, let alone for a man. I would dump him in your place, but you can talk to him first. Julian

   Isn't your friend a Virgo? My father is the same. It's a character, it doesn't change.