I've had a friend for about a year, and we're both about 30. But a little background. I have known this man for many years and I have always been in love with him, I love him even now. Our problem with him is another woman maybe. Let's call it his youthful love. I know her vaguely, we are by no means friends for obvious reasons. She doesn't like me, I don't like her either. This woman made him crazy years ago, and he was very much in love with her. There were no appointments she didn't come to and the next day she went out with someone else, there were no demonstrations, the two never went together. For about ten years he sobbed at her. And she got engaged and got engaged in 3 months for I don't know, 8-9 people already. My man is a quality man everywhere, I would even rank him at the highest level, but he is not one of the talkative and self-proclaimed ones. It often goes unnoticed, but whoever wanted to know him defines him as an amazing person and friend. He is like that in his work, the best without him saying it, the others say it. We are happy and thinking about the wedding.
But ... what happened. For about a month or so, that insolent sharing has been writing to him on Facebook and on the Viber phone. He hid this from me, I accidentally read the conversations to him. She explained herself to him out of love with outright lies and distortions of facts from the past. Although I suspected that she still had feelings for her, I was surprised by the fact that he showed a serious character and without being rude and vulgar sent her to hell. But ... she doesn't give up, on the contrary. And when he found out that I had read his correspondence, a scandal broke out, the first one we ever had ...
I don't know what to think ... He is a very stubborn man, and in general, I said, that he doesn't talk much, he doesn't share what he needs to get out of his mouth with a hook. He flatly refuses to have a conversation on this topic, which he calls my paranoia, and he wouldn't bother me with nonsense, the conversation was that I read his communications without permission, but he was busy with work and blah blah .... and confuses and infuriates me
1 jstrap6969 answered
I can't understand why you are harassing your friend who behaved like a real man. He loves you, don't you see and feel him? You will lose him in the end, not because he doesn't love you, but because you will become hysterical and harass him, as you do now. Don't you feel like you're pushing him to the other. And, no, he's very busy, and you're lost somewhere along the way. Find yourself soon and realize, the problem is in your head.