Does He Have Anything To Do With Me?

   You better let things happen, if you press it can have the opposite effect and recede.

   "We've been writing to each other since we met, and I've initiated most of the conversations." That's all that makes me think you don't like it. What is this self-confident man standing and waiting to be taken down ... please. Be the biggest stranger, I know from experience that he will look for you if he likes you. The rest are your movies, you are one of those women who put themselves on men and want attention, which if they get a little of it, they cling like leeches.

   It looks like manipulation to me ... either he doesn't know what he wants or he manipulates you. both options are not ok. from your description, I don't like this man and I would stay away from him. I say it based on experience ... N.

   Author - do not get involved in such films. I agree with number 3. If a man likes you, he will look for you, and he will not ignore you and give you some mixed signals. At most he wants only sex and so much, but to be stopped by the fact that you work together. I couldn't quite understand your statement that "One day he told me he didn't want his family to suffer from writing to me." - What family - a woman and children? !? !! Because if it's about his mother and father, to interfere in his personal life to such an extent - you don't need such a mother's son !!! : D In principle, it is not bad for a woman to take the first step and show her interest in a man, but if he does not react or has some "dumb" excuses, as in this case - the options are: either bound and hiding it, or just not they like you enough! Men are "simple" creatures and we don't have the "complicated" thinking of women. With us, everything is black and white. :) Rather, orient yourself to another free man. Good luck. M. 32g.

   No. If he had, he would have tried to take you down, invite you to a meeting or other contact outside of office. Stop looking for him and move on. A man who has an interest in you will not wait two years to put his hand on your waist.

   I can't guess if this man is interested in you, but I will tell you my humble opinion on how it is normal to behave in such a situation. You will neither avoid it nor seek it. You used to write to each other more often and then he told you that he only wanted you to be friends. It sounds to me as if he suspected that you had feelings and made the decision that he did not want a more intimate development of your relationship. He said it completely directly, then for a month neither news nor bone. This is pure rejection, rejection, neon No. You say that after the holidays your relationship has started to warm up, but just before this warm-up you did not have any relationship, so this warm-up may turn out to be normal collegiality. You are now standing and analyzing the past as you think about possible future developments, but there is no logic in doing so. Doesn't mean no. Once you hear it, accept it and forget it. If he wants you to talk, he will come, greet you and ask for a conversation. If he wants to see you, he'll offer you a coffee. If he wants you to work on common projects, he will offer you participation in the team. If he is interested in you, he will find a way to show / express it and you will not ask questions. If you have a desire for the same things, you will accept. Once you tried to warm up your relationship, and he refused, live with that refusal and don't try to win it. Until you hear "yes" or receive direct invitations, his answer remains in the negative and there is no need to push. A woman in love is easy to spot, but a man in love is even more recognizable. They are hunters, they don't understand hints and they don't, in a man with feelings, everything is usually as clear and clear as daylight. We are the ones who hint, change the vision, make small gestures in order for the other to guess that we have an interest in him. Men in very rare cases rely on hints during a conversation and indirect actions for a hint, they usually have a completely direct, recognizable interest. If you are wondering and this bothers you somehow, just accept the last clear answer he gave you and do nothing, let him dictate your relationship.

   I think you need to start by analyzing your own desire about the direction and future of this situation and decide what to do with the outcome. Ask yourself what you want. If you want to get somewhere with this person and continue, even with small steps towards something serious, then stop guessing, but demonstrate how you feel and what you would like and watch the answer. If you're not good at it, you can just ask him how he feels, you're still an adult. Yes, the first time he answered you in the negative, but there are signs that this may be the case and facts in conflict with his statement, you can ask him what they are due to and whether he still wants nothing more than friendship. And if you think you don't want anything, either let things go and probably fade, or, if you think, that it can be painful for you show cooler behavior and back off. It all depends on what you want. Until you decide, you can't have a direction or a goal or be given advice on what to do. USA