At the age of 40, for the first time, I regret a missed opportunity. But I rather regret the haste before and that my heart was not free when He appeared. He just didn't stand a chance at this point! I was "in love" with another and would not allow the intervention of a third person. :( The beauty, the shine and the custom car were there even then, but it rather demotivated me, because it gave the impression of a superficial person who prepared the bait for fishing. I met him 11 years ago and I obviously subconsciously let him down because he he tried to get closer to me and he already had some intentions before he realized I wasn't free. And he understood it in a slightly awkward way. I thought he knew until he invited me for coffee. I refused, but even then he didn't it occurred to me to explain to him why, he had invented some innocent legend (and whoever lies to me, does not win) to stay alone for a while and then have to take me, and I naively believed and did not even assume that it could be pre-planned and that he does it for me. When he found out, he showed respect for my relationship and was friendly with both me and my then-boyfriend. I met him a few more times because he didn't live in the same city and I haven't seen him (live) since. I don't know why, I wasn't in love with him, I didn't want anything, I just liked him visually (and in a short time he managed to change the initial impression), but over the years, in moments of weakness, when I'm sad, many times it occurred to me to think of him. Just like a flash, I can't even explain to myself why. 10 years later, these "flashes" became more frequent and I even tried to search for it on the web, but I knew almost nothing about him, except some specific details, I didn't even know his name. Then he found me and spoke to me. I still didn't know for sure that it was him, but I immediately thought about it. I felt it. Then I disregarded the idea and allowed him to remain anonymous. In a year in which he was always close with reactions and comments, he managed to show me that he has qualities that I always wanted to find in a man. They are not mass and would repel many women, but for me they are the right ones. And then this feeling of the futility of my existence in the last 10-11 years began to creep in, and somewhere in the half-time I managed to realize that he is no longer free, so even to be sorry there is no point, but it makes sense to at least realize the mistakes you are. :( So far I've always fallen in love first, then in the process of getting to know came the disappointment of that the person on the other side does not meet expectations. This time it was the other way around - as I got to know him, it was as if I gradually fell in love with him ... and decided ... it was high time I ran away! Well, №7, it is true that in most cases these are the reasons why a woman regrets a missed chance, but there are exceptions. Let's look at it purely mathematically - men with money as a% of the population may not be many, but as a number they are not small at all, ie. these chances never end and are not limited to one. But a man who has taken the trouble to get to know me, to understand me without explanation, when no one else succeeds, despite the explanations ... to accept me when I'm natural without making me feel guilty and self-limiting , to be able to contradict me, without making me angry and dealing with my difficult character, which scares everyone else ... there is only one and it is worth regretting. And to №8 - if someone's ego was hurt then, it wasn't mine. Maybe that's why he came back ... :( There was a kind of edification, but even that made him friendly.
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Personally, I do not regret and do not accept that things with a person did not turn out as a "drop". Apparently he wasn't my man, I'm moving on and that's it :)