Hello, I have a relationship with a boy, the problem is that I do not know if we have a future together. I am studying a serious and difficult specialty that requires reading and deprivation, and he has long since completed something completely different from what I am studying. Now he works, but not in his specialty, and his work is paid, but it is difficult, in a very risky environment and does not require any special education. The problem is that there are intelligent people around me, my environment is like that, while he and the people around him are on another level - they do not have high expectations from life, they have enough apartment and family, so I can drive to old age, but for example, to go abroad, to take risks, to develop or at least to manage on their own to go on a trip abroad - absurd. The boy just makes a living, he has enough money, he loves me, but I have the feeling that he is pulling me down.
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There is always a future when the two love and understand each other. We are different people, each with his own goals and fears. That he doesn't want to take risks doesn't make him stupid, nor does it take him to a lower level. The person prefers security and the little things in life, he should not be in a high position, as long as he has money for his family and buys an apartment. But you hardly have a future because you feel that you are not on the same level, you want different things in life. You will finish and start aiming higher than he wants. In your eyes he will bring you down, and according to him you will be too ambitious and eternally dissatisfied. Anything is possible if you agree to live under one roof, understand each other and do not criticize each other, but otherwise it is torture for both of you.