Do I Owe Anything More To My Ex-wife After The Divorce Than Taking Care Of The Children?

   You have taken a simple, selfish and terribly ugly woman. Using children against you is disgusting. So she doesn't think a gram about them. I am sorry that you came across such a woman, because it is obvious that you are a responsible and good person. And if you had a mistress, I would justify you. You do not have to cover household expenses. But this blackmailer, as you can see, is not merciful, even to your children. A very complicated situation. You could hardly do anything without the children suffering. I sincerely regret you.

   Unfortunately, the only way to have no problems is to file a lawsuit. The court has ruled on what is required of you - alimony has been awarded. Decided when you can see the children, etc. In short, your wife has no reason to cause you misery once you fulfill your duties. If this continues, try to talk to each other in a human way, to understand each other without quarrels. However, there is a human side. I have no idea what salary he receives. You understand that it is difficult to maintain a whole house with one salary / unless a person receives 2000 per month /.

   In plain text and without apology, I declare to you that you are a stupid and naive man, and women do not like such naive people. Of course, she will continue to blackmail you and force you to give her money, because she knows you very well and knows how to pluck you. I won't be surprised if the money you give her for the children is not shared with the fucker, because that's the only way she can keep it. This is not their love on his part, but a benefit, and if it is not repaid, it will be changed. Here I will apologize in advance for what was written, but it is not bad to do a DNA test with children to find out if you can support your own children, because such women, even from such naive people, avoid giving birth.

   You will not injure children if you file a lawsuit. It is with this inaction of yours that you will traumatize them, because it will be difficult and rare for them to see you. Do not allow her to twist your arms, but let you know a direct case and let her know which day, at what time and if the fines are not small (personally my ex burned her with BGN 1,000, where she hid my son) Your children, especially the eldest daughter, already understand everything and must see that you are fighting for them, and not allowing arbitrariness. And very, very careful not to relax with the money, because he will eat and drink it with his lover. Good luck and fight for your children, the former is already EX !!!

   You give more than enough, your wife is just a user and a lover and has run away. You don't owe her anything. My advice is to take the children with you, by fighting if you can prove that she wanted that money, and that you are paying enough without it.

   So how are you going to pay her bills? !? What you do for children is enough. It is normal for him to start manipulating you with children. I was in the same situation a few years ago. Take care of the children, love them ... they are yours, but with her there!

   I think that the only thing you should do the next time she asks you for money outside of maintenance is to offer her, after she encounters so many difficulties and finances are wrong, to give her your children to look after them and support them completely and she should be the one who takes them for the weekend. If he really wants the best for the children and given the circumstances surrounding the divorce, he should agree, especially if he is not able to deal with basic necessities. A woman also 37 years old.

   Blackmail her that if she continues like this, you will tell her lover's wife. Otherwise, my mother is the same, but the difference is that my father cheated on her. And now, even at home, he screams like crazy what a drummer he is and rarely lets me go to him. And he pays her.

   Well, tell everything to her lover's wife. Let's see if he dumps his wife? Most likely he will want to end the relationship with your ex, then let's see what song yours will sing.

   Oh! another uncle's uncle, invariably with the same plot - an ideal father and husband, an unfaithful, mean and greedy wife, and a selfish lover! Uncle, we are tired of reading, and you just don't get tired of writing such gods, I just don't know! Hasn't it already become clear to you that you are recognizable in each of your stories! Even the comments you write on behalf of others betray you immediately! You are just compromising the good idea of ​​the site to share suffering people with real problems, and not boring retirees with a lot of free time!

   He is a good friend of mine in the same situation. His ex went so far as to sue him for assault and harassment, and issued a restraining order because he stopped paying her expenses, only child support. He saw himself in a miracle, sitting in jail. After catching one of the best lawyers in town, he managed to recover but still can't see the children. For now, the laws are not in your favor, and the former will manipulate you as he pleases.

   My advice is to talk to a lawyer about how to act. As far as I know, at least since my divorce, if the mother does not give the children at the time specified in the agreement, she is criminally liable in court. That is, she has no right to restrict your contacts, because I do not know what she has in mind. And also the children must be ready to take home from the appointed days, regardless of whether you come or not. This was explained to me by my lawyer. The lover is not crazy enough to take on someone else's family. Because it's no longer just about fun, it's about responsibilities he obviously doesn't want to take on. He won't divorce at all unless his wife finds out.

   Failure to comply with a court decision is a crime, there is at least one convicted ex-wife.

   You want to have children, but someone else to take care of them and the financial burden for them, right?

   H.14. Your question is pointless. Apparently you haven't read what was written on the topic. There the children are watching us from the father, the problem is different, but you can't understand it clearly ..