Do I Have A (moral) Reason To Leave Her?

   Well, I'm a woman, but I won't be in solidarity with your wife. You have a big guilt that you raised two parasites. It is likely that the child will not hate. However, what kind of life will you have if you stay with this wife !? She made fun of you. What you have decided is, in my opinion, the most correct. Separation and everyone along the way. It will be healthy for the child to understand where the sun rises from. Good luck with the new love!

   Dude, if your mother is alive she'll want you to be happy! This way you are obviously not ... If what you say is true - run away. Even if you have a lover, and you have a mistress - the impudence of the sun must prevail. He can have a lover and still respect you as the person and father of your child. However, they both shred. Maintenance of 1000 BGN and the ONLY apartment in the name of your daughter is enough! And you do it without the right to sell it for up to 25 years. Keep the other one for you. Don't give it to them. You are young - you work. However, one does not know how life will turn him. You must have a roof over your head! Woman, 26

   If you have nothing left for this woman, leave. So you will both start building a new life, little by little. I'm also always-For the family. But when the feelings go away, cohabitation becomes torture and I don't think it makes sense.

   You give them a lot, one apartment is enough for them. And if you are going to pay for education, ask for a full report, including your daughter's grades. You can also offer your daughter better conditions if she chooses to be under your care. You missed the end, that's clear. It's your fault you're overconfident. If for some reason you lie to gather, ask for a full report for every penny spent and without pampering. Grandpa Torbalan

   In my opinion, be happy with the other woman :) And the beds you raised, whether you wanted to or not, will be fine :)

   If you do not leave them, your wife and daughter will never learn responsibility in this life. And don't be so generous - keep one apartment to yourself. You would also advise - to move out immediately and go to live with the other woman. During the divorce, stop giving them money and ignore them. Let your wife find a job.

   No wonder - get a divorce without caring about your daughter. Is it OK that her mother sleeps with foreign men while her father trembles from work alone like a dog? Your wife is bloody and a user, it is very clear that she will not give up easily. He found a very good lawyer, left an apartment to his daughter (although he did not deserve it) and supported up to 18 and so. How are you going to leave these two to her? You should not let yourself be tormented by a sense of moral duty and guilt - you are obliged only to yourself to do what makes you happy. Don't let these lazy egotists use you and expose you - they owe you for all the years you've been afraid of them.

   You have every reason to dump her right away. Wait three years - do not divorce, your daughter to come of age, give her an apartment, and her mother to go to work. That's it. You won't deal with alimony or anything. You will give as much as you want for the child, only three years. Your mistake is that you let them get on your head, and you pampered your wife undeservedly. Stop the tap immediately and without any remorse. I would just get angry and drive her to the lover at the moment, and the child will keep living with me. Do not succumb to sentiments and manipulations. Otherwise you will be a rag, not a man.

   The decision to marry is made by two. Not so with divorce, and one is enough. You have no moral right to be angry at your wife's infidelities, because you both chose the material over the emotional, and you wanted another during those years. But it would be utterly foolish to tell you that you are to blame because it is not so. Everyone has a head on their shoulders. You were wrong to have a child not with the woman you wanted. You made the mistake of not being present at the important moments for your daughter, and now you are judging her ... she supports the parent who was around her while she was afraid, growing up and overcoming her personal puberty problems. And he is 15 years old, he doesn't realize the whole picture at all. But no one was your wife on the head. She could have worked, she could not have cheated on you, she could have appreciated that you were trying to set a higher standard for your family, she could not marry at all and not stay with a man to whom she would cheat and play a masquerade of a happy marriage. Well, it's not your fault that she cheated on you, she made that decision because it's easier than leaving you. You have the right to divorce peacefully and meekly, but I definitely don't think you should protest and throw dust and brimstone at your ex-wife. You are not completely pure and innocent, but you did not physically cheat, you did it emotionally.

   You have me of course! It is even a miracle that you tolerate these two, but there is nothing to lie that 50% of the blame is yours. After all, you are also the parent of this girl and you should have taken a more adequate approach to her upbringing. You have chosen your wife yourself for 23 years. Why? Some people approach it too naively, expecting sincere gratitude and appreciation after providing for and supporting the family. Alas, in many cases they just get on your head and you become a tap for money. And you are still too generous. My advice is to let them get better as they can. Just answer the questions if you like being made a monkey and used as a financial donor? Is it worth sacrificing your happiness for two mercantile and vicious women? How come? !! Just imagine what you look like in the eyes of her lovers - the fool she lays, and his wife went to crumple the sheets with this and that. She must have bought them with your money and gifts, and paid the bills. Terribly cool. If you like to be made an idiot - go the old way.

   First, why did you ever break up. I dont understand this. You work there, you gather all the sowing and you live. As it is. There is no way or to whom to explain yourself. You stay your daughter's home, where she lives, you don't transfer anything to her, because that way you don't do her a favor and you don't give her the name for it. They hire a lawyer to sort things out and cut off communication with your wife, and with your daughter if she does the same, at least for a while. You give enough support to cover your basic things and your wife starts working and your daughter grows up and understands what life is. He will call you to ask you for money because he wants to study. I don't know what you're explaining and what she wanted. She may also want a rocket. Don't get on your nerves, it doesn't make sense. You no longer communicate with your wife just because of your daughter.

   Life is too short to spend it in misery and torment, so divorce and end. Get well! It is even very noble that you have decided to give them the apartments that most men will not do. It's just not worth ruining yourself for a doomed cause. Neither your wife will change, nor will your daughter suddenly become an exemplary child and begin to love and respect you, so that at most you endure more humiliation and continue to be laughed at while you are somewhere in the world and you are trying to provide them with a luxurious life. Sacrificing for people who deserve it, but these two don't seem to appreciate what you do for them, so just end it without remorse.

   That is why I will never get married.

   You have! Act!

   You live one life, I think divorce your wife and be with the other one you say you are in love with. Do what makes you happy, do not be enslaved to clichés, values, traditions, etc. I tell you this from personal experience. I think you will make a big mistake if you give them both apartments. Do not do it. Let them live in them, but do not copy them in any case, let them remain in your name. Anyway, one day they will become your daughter. As for alimony - let everything go legally. Let the court determine for you an alimony, which should go through a bank, so that there is black and white, that you give money to your daughter, and you are on hand separately and give as much as you decide, because after a while to "iztsotsa" can judge you for not paying alimony and make you pay her for past years, no matter that you gave her money on hand. And the girl will one day grow up and find out in the case whether you were right or her mother. Moreover, now that she rests her knife to the bone and it is not wide around their neck, the real relationship between the two will become apparent. Everyone.

   Man, with the plank across his face as they say. Is that what you deserve after shivering outside? !! There must be justice - both do not work, they are insured from everywhere, and as a reward you get horns? !! This is not a family. NOT in my understanding. In your place divorce in the usual way, child support up to 18 years and get better. You wanted - you gave life, from then on how it will develop and what kind of person your child will become are all things that do not depend entirely on you, especially when you tremble abroad. Chase love friend. She stays by the grave! For all of us, the maxim is - whatever you lie on, you will lie on!

   Man, you're the classic case where a woman finds a man to make her a child, to raise her, and the poor man to tremble at work while his wife blows poo ... around the neighborhood ... Not only in your place, that I would stop the luxury, but I will go to the barricades ... A penny will not see, I will stretch and procrastinate all sorts of things, I will not be there, I will be in Zanzibar, the property will be transferred to trusted people, of course, to war as in war. It is not stupid who eats the pie, but who gives it to him. Of course, your wife's lover is not stupid to take her to him, then he has to support her ... This one deserves to be rubbed on the street without a penny, and then let her have endless hopeless cases against you. An engineer has a blog that describes the same case with him and how he did it,

   Answer to the title - you have the full right to leave it! You were even late, but you didn't know ... And another thing - don't leave them both apartments. Leave them only one, in your daughter's name. Let your wife know what it's like to make money and make a living. You will provide them with a roof and a car. From there to be fine. As you describe yourself, your daughter is taking a bad road, don't spoil her any more. When I look at what example she took from her mother - the picture is complete. Try to tighten it a little, give some ultimatums. The support, in my opinion, is a lot. It is better for her to be smaller for educational purposes, and when there is some progress in her behavior, you can always give her money as a father. The other apartment left it to yourself, not because you can't afford to buy another, but because you will still give them the "soft of the pie" this way. Success! Woman 37g

   These two deserve nothing! Let the court order as much as necessary for maintenance, even the apartments, in your place, I would not leave them, let alone BGN 1,000 maintenance plus education afterwards. Get away from these scum, come on, at least leave one apartment to your daughter, she's still your child, and your wife to that viper - nothing. He deserves to sleep on the street and beg. Divorce, we no longer live in a patriarchal world, I understand your values, but man was created to adapt to conditions and circumstances. Success!

   Many things and assumptions can be written. The wife has had lovers, you have been in love with another woman for years. Before a failed marriage, you are both equal. Women always feel when they are not alone. In any case, you live far away from each other, engaged in extramarital activities and most of all you are aware of all this. What is a divorce for you anyway? What makes you think it will be different with the other woman?

   Dude, you answer the question yourself. I understand from your statement that you instinctively know for yourself what is right, and I generally suspect that you will do the right thing. :) What kind of morality is this? What "children"? !! What 5 leva? !! Give them one apartment only and some money for maintenance. You are too good to give them everything. You went to make money and provide them with a good life, and your wife decided she was polygamous ... Me. I honestly get angry and disgusted by such people, whether they are women or men ... I am literally disgusted by such people. Marriage is not just children, but a union between a man and a woman. An intimate, holy union - in which there is no place for something external and foreign ... A woman who is fragmented and can allow another person with such ease and so "naturally", deserves to be left immediately. Sex is not something to play with. It's not something you do just the way you like it. Ok. If he wants to "play sports" with other guys and perceives it as something normal, to take his own path and do it with whomever he wants. But don't bother with nonsense. There is nothing non-patriarchal about beating a jester on a whore. This is mandatory and useful for you and for her. You are not a cuckold fool, and she does what she knows, but without being offended, deceived and talkative. No man deserves to be humiliated, to be given horns. Especially when he is faithful, good, makes money and secures his home. Like fucking her, fucking whoever she wants. As long as he doesn't make a fool of you. There's no one. to be offended and angry if he says to you: “Dear, there is no more between us. nothing. Let's get a divorce and let everyone do what they like with the rest of their lives. ”Unfortunately, women don't do that. They flirt, fall in love, meet, they fuck with others and then go home, warmly to the hut, who is struggling to make money and provide comfort ... My life is very similar to your friend ... :) Divorce. Do not hesitate for a moment! Do not give in to tears or snot. The whores, cutting off their faucet, wake up and panic that they are cutting off the extras and money. I personally would give only one home. Excessive nobility, no one will. appreciate it, nor will it thank you. Money - only the amount of maintenance determined by the court. Think about it, it's not a small thing in 15-16 years that this "your wife" is a whole apartment. She's been on your head all along. Put it in place. Man, she betrayed you! What do you owe her? !! Get a divorce. When you make the decision to divorce and you are a free man again, start your relationship with the woman who values ​​you and in whom you are in love. Everyone has the right to love and happiness. We all get it. Sooner or later, everyone pays for everything. There are things that are forgiven, there are things that cannot and should not be forgiven. Betrayal - not forgiven. Never. Either way, you will do as you feel. I have a feeling you will do the right thing. What is natural is also right. Get rid of everyone who has betrayed you and betrays you. Don't let anyone cheat on you, make a fool of you and use you. Reunite with the woman you met. For something new to come, the old must go. Get together with the new woman. See how it goes. Take it easy. You have the right to defend yourself. You have the right to be happy. Do it sincerely, with dignity. No lies and hideouts. Open, clear and precise. The scoundrels and liars are hiding. I wish you happiness with the new girl. Don't hesitate when you're right. This is right. That's the right way. Head up and don't hesitate! Believe me - the whole morality of the world is on your side. There are no such movies, children, etc ... If she had prayed for children by lifting her legs while you were abroad ... Now it's your turn to be happy. She was fed up with her happiness. Now it's your turn. Just show her how to do it. Clear, open, honest. Life is short for nonsense. Garbage must be put in place. Reading people have the right to smile, to be happy ... To love and be loved ... Good luck dude! ;) She was fed up with her happiness. Now it's your turn. Just show her how to do it. Clear, open, honest. Life is short for nonsense. Garbage must be put in place. Reading people have the right to smile, to be happy ... To love and be loved ... Good luck dude! ;) She was fed up with her happiness. Now it's your turn. Just show her how to do it. Clear, open, honest. Life is short for nonsense. Garbage must be put in place. Reading people have the right to smile, to be happy ... To love and be loved ... Good luck dude! ;)

   Divorce by statute, whatever and how much the court orders. Both do not deserve your respect and responsibility. (woman, 42)

   And you are still wondering and hesitating! Listen, men, tighten up and swear that you will no longer be merciful to people who only use you. This means - on the stupid shunda absolutely nothing, no apartments, nothing! Also offer to pay her rent until your daughter becomes an adult, ie another 3 years and then both will be fine. You can help your daughter if she sees so much trouble and begs you, but first learn to not be so selfish. She felt that a new child could appear with the new woman, and she was afraid that there would be no competition for resources. How much you earn is your job. This money does not fall from the sky and only you know what you have invested in your life to make it. It is best to leave them without anything first, to learn to respect you and appreciate what they had. Then if you decide you can always give them something, but there must be gratitude,

   Your mother is of another generation. Before, they were not allowed to choose who to marry and what was left for divorce. They lived what people would say, not how I would feel. This is very wrong. If you are not happy with someone, this is a reason for divorce. Your wife uses and humiliates you, you have no moral duty to tolerate her. It seems very rude to me that not only does she sleep with foreign men, but she wants to get her money on your back. Even her lover is not so stupid as to take her home. Why should you do it? In your place, I would rewrite an apartment for my daughter, alimony up to 18 as the court rules, and that's it. Just because she's your daughter doesn't mean you have to put up with her treatment and that she deserves to use you at birth. You look very decent, I'm sorry you didn't meet a woman, but you're still super young and you have time to make a new nest with the new woman. Leave your other apartment for the second child :), give the car to a woman who really loves and respects you. You deserve it, and it's definitely not wrong to be caught in infidelity and obviously use them to put an end to it and start a new family. Go ahead, if you find the right woman, you'll wonder how you've put up with these two for so long.

   See, what does "patriarchal" mean when there is no longer a family, and when there is outright betrayal? Everything is very clear - you act more than honestly, and you have the full moral right to rebuild your life. I am a believer, and I believe (already REALLY patriarchal) that marriage should be concluded with the utmost clarity about the consequences and the cross that lies ahead; otherwise it may turn out that he simply changed one hell with another, regardless of the still living student feelings. Go to marriage with openness, but also with patience. And as for your current situation - it is clear, and the solution is only one, but obviously from the typical confusion in such cases, you can not see it clearly. I understand you.

   Another proof that money is not the most important thing in life. What can I tell you - you completely missed the end of your daughter, which is very sad. She is on her mother's side because your wife has influenced her way of thinking all the time you have been away. It will be difficult to compete with this. And taking her under your care will interfere with your relationship with the other woman, you know. On the other hand, as a parent you have a duty to show your child that you will always support him. Your daughter thinks you're just an uncle-money, she must look at you just as a means ... Your family is already broken. As for your wife, don't think of her at all, she will find another to come. Leave and do not look back. I hope you go with the other woman and be happy.

   First, talk to a lawyer right away. One home - with the right to use only, by her daughter and mother up to 18. That is, after coming of age, you can kick the hurricane out of there. They have relatives to go to them. You will owe about three years of minimum maintenance / if you have no income here /, at your request you will give the child more. You have given them three lives so far. It's time to pay the bill.

   You are a good person, your mother would like you to be happy, would she approve of how your wife treats you? Make the decision yourself, consider everything well, you want to provide them and have a clear conscience, but no matter how much you give your wife, she will want more, she will cause you problems, she will set your daughter against you, is that so - think and consult a good DIVORCE lawyer. Your daughter can say harsh words to you, get ready for that too. Do not rush into a serious relationship with the other woman, first decide what you will do with your marriage. But be sure to consult a lawyer, even 2

   Tongue that you have made so many things, and they want to steal them from you. Because your wife and your daughter are betraying you at the moment, and they have become ungrateful and blackmailing scoundrels. But that's how you let things go over the years. The most moral thing you can do is give them a cruel lesson, because wealth does not teach, but poverty does. Don't give away your property and bills, think of a way to divorce while keeping everything to yourself, and when they are left with nothing, little by little give it to them so that they respect you. And remind them that you can bequeath these properties to nephews / cousins ​​if you want. You have to worry about not having anything for you. You can fix your daughter, but if your wife wants 2/3 of your other money to have fun with lovers, you can't have any forgiveness for that.

   They have no legal basis to have such large claims. A slight explanation for the divorce - if the divorce is by mutual consent - you must have reached an agreement under Article 51C. The agreement is made by the lawyer - easy job. If no agreement is reached, move on to the second option, which is a bit more difficult - divorce due to a deep and irreparable breakdown of the marriage. Thus ..... according to the first option - it is not SIO movable / immovable property acquired before marriage, also acquired by inheritance. 3a to have a family property community / SIO / must have a JOINT CONTRIBUTION. Upon the dissolution of the marriage, the SIO shares of the spouses cease to exist, BUT a GREATER SHARE of one of the spouses may be determined if his contribution 'exceeds the contribution of the other spouse'. However, the claim under Article 29 of the Civil Code is constitutive and has a one-year term for filing for termination of marriage. - you will discuss all the details with your lawyer - THE SUPPORT - BGN 1,000 alimony, hah, a serious amount, at least for Bulgaria The minimum is most often assigned. The maintenance is regulated again in the Family Code - Article 142. The minimum maintenance is a quarter of the minimum wage for the country - for 2018 the minimum wage is BGN 510, and the annual change of 3BDOO may change. Speech is determined by the needs of the child and your financial capabilities. However, there should be money left to cover your needs. - If you want to hide income - lawyers are kings in this regard and can always think of an option to pay less. - GOOD LUCK. And don't let them use you in such a disgusting way. - you will discuss all the details with your lawyer - THE SUPPORT - BGN 1,000 alimony, hah, a serious amount, at least for Bulgaria. The minimum is most often assigned. The maintenance is regulated again in the Family Code - Article 142. The minimum maintenance is a quarter of the minimum wage for the country - for 2018 the minimum wage is BGN 510, and the annual change of 3BDOO may change. Speech is determined by the needs of the child and your financial capabilities. However, there should be money left to cover your needs. - If you want to hide income - lawyers are kings in this regard and can always come up with an option to pay less. - GOOD LUCK. And don't let them use you in such a disgusting way. - You will discuss all the details with your lawyer - THE SUPPORT - BGN 1,000 alimony, hah, a serious amount, at least for Bulgaria. The minimum is most often assigned. The maintenance is regulated again in the Family Code - Article 142. The minimum maintenance is a quarter of the minimum wage for the country - for 2018 the minimum wage is BGN 510, and the annual change of 3BDOO may change. Speech is determined by the needs of the child and your financial capabilities. However, there should be money left to cover your needs. - If you want to hide income - lawyers are kings in this regard and can always think of an option to pay less. - GOOD LUCK. And don't let them use you in such a disgusting way. The minimum is most often assigned. The maintenance is regulated again in the Family Code - Article 142. The minimum maintenance is a quarter of the minimum wage for the country - for 2018 the minimum wage is BGN 510, and the annual change of 3BDOO may change. Speech is determined by the needs of the child and your financial capabilities. However, there should be money left to cover your needs. - If you want to hide income - lawyers are kings in this regard and can always think of an option to pay less. - GOOD LUCK. And don't let them use you in such a disgusting way. The minimum is most often assigned. The maintenance is regulated again in the Family Code - Article 142. The minimum maintenance is a quarter of the minimum wage for the country - for 2018 the minimum wage is BGN 510, and the annual change of 3BDOO may change. Speech is determined by the needs of the child and your financial capabilities. However, there should be money left to cover your needs. - If you want to hide income - lawyers are kings in this regard and can always come up with an option to pay less. - GOOD LUCK. And don't let them use you in such a disgusting way. Speech is determined by the needs of the child and your financial capabilities. However, there should be money left to cover your needs. - If you want to hide income - lawyers are kings in this regard and can always think of an option to pay less. - GOOD LUCK. And don't let them use you in such a disgusting way. Speech is determined by the needs of the child and your financial capabilities. However, there should be money left to cover your needs. - If you want to hide income - lawyers are kings in this regard and can always come up with an option to pay less. - GOOD LUCK. And don't let them use you in such a disgusting way.

   They have no legal basis to have such large claims. A slight explanation for the divorce - if the divorce is by mutual consent - you must have reached an agreement under Article 51C. The agreement is made by the lawyer - easy job. If no agreement is reached, move on to the second option, which is a bit more difficult - divorce due to a deep and irreparable breakdown of the marriage. Thus ..... according to the first option - it is not SIO movable / immovable property acquired before marriage, also acquired by inheritance. 3a to have a family property community / SIO / must have a JOINT CONTRIBUTION. Upon the dissolution of the marriage, the SIO shares of the spouses cease to exist, BUT a GREATER SHARE of one of the spouses may be determined if his contribution 'exceeds the contribution of the other spouse'. However, the claim under Article 29 of the Civil Code is constitutive and has a one-year term for filing for termination of marriage. - you will discuss all the details with your lawyer - THE SUPPORT - BGN 1,000 alimony, hah, a serious amount, at least for Bulgaria The minimum is most often assigned. The maintenance is regulated again in the Family Code - Article 142. The minimum maintenance is a quarter of the minimum wage for the country - for 2018 the minimum wage is BGN 510, and the annual change of 3BDOO may change. Speech is determined by the needs of the child and your financial capabilities. However, there should be money left to cover your needs. - If you want to hide income - lawyers are kings in this regard and can always think of an option to pay less. - GOOD LUCK. And don't let them use you in such a disgusting way. - you will discuss all the details with your lawyer - THE SUPPORT - BGN 1,000 alimony, hah, a serious amount, at least for Bulgaria. The minimum is most often assigned. The maintenance is regulated again in the Family Code - Article 142. The minimum maintenance is a quarter of the minimum wage for the country - for 2018 the minimum wage is BGN 510, and the annual change of 3BDOO may change. Speech is determined by the needs of the child and your financial capabilities. However, there should be money left to cover your needs. - If you want to hide income - lawyers are kings in this regard and can always come up with an option to pay less. - GOOD LUCK. And don't let them use you in such a disgusting way. - You will discuss all the details with your lawyer - THE SUPPORT - BGN 1,000 alimony, hah, a serious amount, at least for Bulgaria. The minimum is most often assigned. The maintenance is regulated again in the Family Code - Article 142. The minimum maintenance is a quarter of the minimum wage for the country - for 2018 the minimum wage is BGN 510, and the annual change of 3BDOO may change. Speech is determined by the needs of the child and your financial capabilities. However, there should be money left to cover your needs. - If you want to hide income - lawyers are kings in this regard and can always think of an option to pay less. - GOOD LUCK. And don't let them use you in such a disgusting way. The minimum is most often assigned. The maintenance is regulated again in the Family Code - Article 142. The minimum maintenance is a quarter of the minimum wage for the country - for 2018 the minimum wage is BGN 510, and the annual change of 3BDOO may change. Speech is determined by the needs of the child and your financial capabilities. However, there should be money left to cover your needs. - If you want to hide income - lawyers are kings in this regard and can always think of an option to pay less. - GOOD LUCK. And don't let them use you in such a disgusting way. The minimum is most often assigned. The maintenance is regulated again in the Family Code - Article 142. The minimum maintenance is a quarter of the minimum wage for the country - for 2018 the minimum wage is BGN 510, and the annual change of 3BDOO may change. Speech is determined by the needs of the child and your financial capabilities. However, there should be money left to cover your needs. - If you want to hide income - lawyers are kings in this regard and can always come up with an option to pay less. - GOOD LUCK. And don't let them use you in such a disgusting way. Speech is determined by the needs of the child and your financial capabilities. However, there should be money left to cover your needs. - If you want to hide income - lawyers are kings in this regard and can always think of an option to pay less. - GOOD LUCK. And don't let them use you in such a disgusting way. Speech is determined by the needs of the child and your financial capabilities. However, there should be money left to cover your needs. - If you want to hide income - lawyers are kings in this regard and can always come up with an option to pay less. - GOOD LUCK. And don't let them use you in such a disgusting way.

   I have a different opinion, although now you will probably spit on me :)) I can not give advice to the author, there are many unknowns that I can afford a comment! Get well! However, I am against many of the written comments! Because only the woman takes the negative, and in fact they are both guilty! First, when your feelings for a person have cooled down, you part with him and if you have children you take care of it, there is no dispute about that !!! Then I do not justify the woman in any way! Make it clear! She found it easy and took advantage, not right, of course, but such are the facts! However, do you seriously think that the man did not have a mistress during this time, even if only for sex! Come on, you're not so naive! I have heard many. stories about the other option - the woman here is looking after her child, and the man works abroad, sends money, but fucks something foreign while his wife put on her iron pants! On the contrary, however, I have not heard and I do not believe it! Moreover, the hero of the story does not know exactly how he makes his money and what business he does! However, it is definitely not picking strawberries, for example! He himself says that he does not want his wife to be there and that he did not miss her! So his responsibility is not small! The only victim here is the child! There is no normal role model for either your mother or your father! It is not her fault that this happened and both parents are responsible for that !!! Not just the mother! The father, if he was so concerned about his family, why didn't they get together in the country where he works !!! It's not as if he had no income to support them there! So, my dear commentators, before you pass sentences and write who deserved how much or not, think logically! Otherwise, yes, life is short and there is no point in being with people we don't love, no matter whose fault it is! At least we have no right to waste their time, but to give them the opportunity to meet love!