Hello. I'm a girl of 18. I've been writing to a boy for a month, a few years older, we haven't met yet (he's not in my town at the moment). It all happened quite by accident on Facebook, but from the very beginning our conversation started and we entered even more personal topics. One thing confuses me. We write to each other a lot, sometimes for 1-2 hours without stopping, he teases me, compliments me, but at some point he disappears. When he's busy or can't write, he shines and leaves it for later (for example, in the evening for the next morning, which I do too, only I leave it delivered, not seen). But from time to time he leaves me to wait for a few days. For example, we had written to each other for more than two weeks every day and then he turned blue and answered me after 5 days. Then he wrote to me as if nothing had happened, we wrote to each other for several days in a row and he did it again. At one time, when I answered him after more hours, he had started answering me right away, but lately the more I do to him in vain (it's not intentional, I'm just out all day and I can't always write), I have the feeling that he answers me even more makes it interesting. I'm not sure, but I don't think he's that busy, because in the evening, when I'm in messenger and writing to friends, I see that he's active. I like the photos when I upload. I don't know what to do. I'm patient, but it annoys me a little. I am very pleased to write to you and I would like to get to know him, but I cannot and will not swallow my pride and write after the blue message. Even if he seemed to have finished the conversation (in the latter case it was not). Every time I wonder if I said something to offend him, if he will write to me at all. After all, it always says but after how long? Otherwise, on several occasions I did not answer him (delivered, not seen) and after 1-2 hours he sent me a new message asking if I was angry. I can't understand - so he may not answer for a few days, but if I'm a few hours late, it's a problem. Several times he hinted that when he came, we would see each other (it was approaching time already). I don't know, I'm very confused. I don't like such numbers, do I like it, or is it his character? If he wasn't interesting to me as a person, I wouldn't put up with his games. I behave in moderation, neither too withdrawn, nor too close, sometimes I answer soon after he has written, sometimes after hours (still within a day or in the evening for the next morning, if I go to bed). I'm sorry it took so long. Please, moderators, post it, because I need opinions,
1 trueme answered
Either he doesn't take you so seriously, or he just is. I often do that myself. I see the message, I come up with an answer and I forget to send it. Or he may not be writing at the moment. It's just that if you think he's not just spending time with you, he's probably not pretending to be interesting.