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Divorced Parents

By shy_boy262 July 01, 2020 8 answers Last updated July 01, 2020

I'm writing here for the first time, I don't even know if it's the right place to write. For as long as I can remember, my parents have been arguing. It has always been like this. My father is a man who is stuck in casinos and very lazy. It works, but it doesn't show. He is a taxi driver and all his money goes, you know where ...

 

For years my mother has been planning to move out, she always convinced me that this time we were really moving out, but that never happened. Until today, when she told me she took the key to our new apartment. I am terribly scared of what is to come.

 

I am 18 years old, my sister is 12 and my grandmother, my mother's mother, also lives with us. The four of us have to move out together. My father is, to put it mildly, an unstable man. He is constantly screaming, slamming doors, hitting his mother more than once. It is impossible to talk to him calmly. He doesn't know about our plans to move out, and I'm afraid that when he finds out, something very bad will happen. I want to move out, it will be better for all of us, but I am afraid for my future relationship with Dad.

 

I'm sure he won't talk to me for a long time, which I'm terribly afraid of. At the same time, I am afraid of him. It will fail completely, my mother has endured it all her life. I'm afraid that after we move out, he won't have the money to pay his bills, to eat. At the same time, I do not want to feel sorry for him. He humiliated me countless times, threatened me that I would not have a ball, he would not pay for it. He left us hungry.

 

I remember that night when there were margarine and jam in the fridge, there was not even bread to spread on it. He could have gone out to work in the taxi, but he didn't, just in defiance of my mother. We were forced to starve, we didn't have a penny.

 

I really don't want to feel sorry for him, but I can't. Whatever he did, he remains my father and I love him. I am not strong, I am weak, I am afraid of the future and how we will endure it. I'm afraid of my father and what he can do. I need help! How to calm down? What to do?

Answers 8

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pevecupv63 answered · July 01, 2020
Father? This is your biological father, he deserves nothing, no pity for him, and no mercy. The father takes care of his children, loves them, and does not beat or harass them.
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seppukuwu answered · July 01, 2020
It was good, damn it, how such men find women and start a family, and I haven't touched a woman in a year and a half ... Dear girl, accept this as a difficult ordeal. The difficult is yet to come, but don't go back to your father and give him some time, I hope he realizes! No matter how stupid he behaves, he is still your father and loves you, but he must realize how he treats you! You are now in the 12th grade and you are about to pass exams, but try to help your mother as much as possible, even if it is not financial. For example, your grandmother can cook, and you clean, wash the dishes, run the washing machine, do the laundry, try to help her as much as possible, teach your little sister to help. I believe that you will manage but be prepared for difficult moments, scandals, etc ... The important thing is not to give up!
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dude_horsecock answered · July 01, 2020
Your mother is even very late. He will remain their father's fact. Think soberly, this is a new beginning of peace and security, support your mother, and do not fall into unnecessary philosophical dramas. Watch your life, it's not your job to think about how and what it will pay. This is HIS choice. He earns enough for bills and food.
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nevest answered · July 01, 2020
I understand your sadness, I understand your sister. she is 12 and you are 18. Now that it's a period of coronavirus, how do you deal with learning
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nikhil19cm answered · July 01, 2020
Well, maybe he'll finally sit on his ass and go to work instead of spending money and being lazy. Support your mother at this time and don't worry about what will happen to your father. He is 18 years old. had a chance to take matters into his own hands and could not. Thank your mother that she has finally decided to escape this hell. While you're away, pack your bags as quickly as possible, and if it shows up suddenly, don't hesitate. You are four women, you will not tolerate an impudent, lazy, and irresponsible type, even if you have a father. Safe from drones and parasites.
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rogerandout answered · July 01, 2020
It is not right for a child to take the place of the parent and worry about him. He is an adult, you a child, though an adult. Watch your life more. You have a little more left with these people.
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bellydanca88 answered · July 02, 2020
It is sad when a parent treats their own children this way. Unfortunately, the situation you are describing is common. In general, society must stop attaching importance to blood ties, precisely because they confuse children and make them tolerate the horrible behavior of their parents.
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christymilkk answered · July 02, 2020
What do you pity him so much he is a healthy straight man why stay hungry he will be fine he will not stand like that ... Instead of feeling sorry for your mother that she ate a fight from him ... Is it better for your mother to support him all my life? So they are a casino, and for whores there is money but not for you and make a living?
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