On the one hand, most people say that sex is not the most important thing in a relationship and I agree, but it is a fact that it is an essential part of it and many couples separate, quarrel or cheat precisely because something is lame in sex. And there are stories like "There's a tree in the bed, I can't take it anymore" or "He likes it ... but I don't." Mostly it all comes from the lack of communication - she wants or does not want this, he wants or does not want the same or different, but everyone is silent. And there are those who just want to. It's good when you come across someone with whom you are on the same wave. My husband is also my first intimate partner. We have been together with him for 10 years (since high school, I am now 27 and he is 26). I'm his second. It's just that things between us have always been sexual - we've talked about everything before, and our tastes are somehow the same. It was never awkward. I didn't miss the experience either. I even dare to say that now that we have more duties and responsibilities, our sex life is more turbulent than when we were 18-20. We have our limits, of course. We don't do the extreme and nasty (for us) things. I would not try anal sex because for me it is unpleasant, humiliating, painful and rude. For my part, I would never insist on messing with his anus or anything. I don't mind and I don't hate it, but he doesn't want to, so we're both happy and it's fair. We are also monogamous and group performances are eliminated. There are many other things we use to diversify - the setting, the role-plays and the foreplay, the poses. It's just that for both of them, not the act itself, but the awakening before it, the awakening of desire is in the foreground. This does not lead to watching porn to achieve arousal or infidelity to diversify our sex lives. I flinched a little, but my thought was - do you share your desires with your partner? Which ones could you get rid of and which ones not? Do you make any compromises and what kind? In general, what do you think about the variety in bed? And what would you describe as boring in sex?
1 teak4u answered
He doesn't share with me because he doesn't feel emotionally close to me, and I don't share because I feel out of place in this situation. Apart from my standard vaginal sex, I would not deprive myself of blowjobs. I've always wanted to be dominated, my partner doesn't want to, so I'll probably do that with someone else. I would deprive myself of anal sex. I'm not talking about licking, because he hasn't practiced it for a while, and as I said, I don't intend to talk about anything. My advice is to be open and honest, as the author describes. My partner withdrew, so did I later, and now nothing is going well. Dedication is required on both sides.