So, this is a very sick topic for many people around the world and in Bulgaria! I've always wondered why there is mental harassment, and sometimes there is physical harassment between people !? So at the moment I'm cold and I'm under attack from a group of "cool" colleagues, at school I'm also a target of such things, but that's not the problem, I don't put it to heart and I retaliate! But I've always wondered why they should do it, given that I've never started insulting them first or any provocation on my part. Personally, I have reached the following conclusion and I have made some conclusions, I feel almost like a psychologist: D! So the so-called "cool", "walking" boys (the girls have the same scheme) act like a pack, at first they do not offend you and do not cause you any problems, but this period lasts about 1-2 months, during this period they observe everyone and test their reactions by making some jokes or watching him in different situations (for example, he is anxious and has to talk to the class about something) and the one who blows out of the tests is targeted by the group!
Gradually, the jokes are addressed only to the specific person who has noticed that he is not so sociable or something that distinguishes him in a negative aspect! Here, even if the person is physically healthier than them, this will not stop them if he does not transfer the tiles to them: D! The first job is to discredit him in front of the others, the most used way is by inventing a ridiculous nickname and start repeating it constantly in front of others outside their group, they also start inventing mocking stories related to the nickname! In this way they isolate the person from the others and in this way he becomes defenseless against insults, because no matter what he says, no one will stand up for him, while with them the opposite is true, no matter what they say, they will always laugh and have supporters. !! The main problem here is that no one wants to support the person when he responds to the insults, because he is afraid of falling into his situation. And de facto they apply the old saying: "Divide and rule." They isolate the person and turn him into an outsider, so others who are outside the "cool" group also start using the offensive nickname to prove that they are also cool and not like the outsider. With this, the group of "cool" gains a reputation and respect and everyone wants to join their group or at least not to be teased. Generally "outsider" has become a guarantor that others do not fall into his position and be excommunicated from others, they also attack the outsider, not so directly and rudely, but his very naming with the offensive nickname is enough! In this situation, the "outsider" does not have many options left except to physically solve the problem, that is, to throw them a fight!
Even if he can't beat them, the physical resistance itself will make the group tired of fighting him every time and they will find another one! But most "outsiders" break down mentally and they really start to believe in the insults and nicknames with which they insult them and do not dare to defend themselves. The biggest problem here is not to retaliate, if the attacks are only with ridiculous jokes and nicknames, then even if you retaliate against them, it won't matter, because no one will support you, but if things escalate into physical harassment, as is most often the case, then you must resist them, of course! Unfortunately, the others cannot realize that if the group of "cool people" unite, they will become powerless on their own, as they will already be a minority and, in general, they will become outsiders themselves. In most cases, the "outsiders" attack them when her group gets bored or their conversation gets stuck and they make a show on his back! Also, the "outsider" was removed as a threat to the group regarding the girls, that is, he is already discredited and his reputation is below 0, which is a HUGE minus for the intimate life of the "outsider". In general, this is very similar to the relationship with animals, the weaker ones are separated from the group and eaten! The most important thing is the "outsiders" not to break mentally if they insult you and you insult or you also hit, then this will refuse the group and it will change the target, but you have to fight your inner fear and find out what made you weak in their eyes and remove it, because in the future you will meet other groups !!! But to this day I can't understand why they do it?
What makes them so happy? Did they have a troubled childhood, powerful parents, or were they bullied at home? Envy? But to this day I can't understand why they do it? What makes them so happy? Did they have a troubled childhood, powerful parents, or were they bullied at home? Envy? But to this day I can't understand why they do it? What makes them so happy? Did they have a troubled childhood, powerful parents, or were they bullied at home? Envy?
1 winhunter777 answered
I can't read your analysis carefully, but what you describe in English is known as bully. They are everywhere at school, at work, etc. Search and you will find a lot written on this topic.