Hello! My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years and have been having sex for 2 years. The problem is that I don't feel much pleasure and it never makes me cum. I don't like how he licks me and very quickly to the essential part. In the beginning he told you that a longer love game is not possible because it either falls to him or it will end before the real part. We have talked several times on the subject, but unfortunately there is no change. Is the problem in me because I am used to it after so long and I expect to be dissatisfied or in it that I do not change my way Help !!! Bad sex leads to other problems between us.
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The problem is that you don't fit in with sex, but you obviously don't work on it. Tell him you need more caresses. In general, it is not a problem that he falls while arousing you, because he can start with the stimuli first, and you can do it for him later, before the act. So he will have time to get aroused again. And people have come up with options like pose 69, where the pleasure is for both at the same time. Give yourself a short break, something like a week and prepare mentally, improve your attitude, this is very important. Talk to each other all week, you can touch and hang, but do not go to the real part. Let's accumulate some sexual energy and figure out how best to manifest it. Think about your everyday life, make it a little more interesting. Now the weather is warming up, go on a short trip. If you do not have the funds, at least go around the more interesting places in your city. Diversify, try to remember what you liked in the other. Sex is not just getting in and out, you have to have some thrill, you have to be positive and want to satisfy the other as much as you want to satisfy yourself.
Wow, word for word, as if I wrote ... Thousands of conversations and the situation with us is still the same. I will follow with interest!
Believe me, you are not the only one in this situation. In general, men do not know how to give pleasure to a woman. And we are to blame for this, because we are silent and say "how nice" Explain to him about the g-spot let him try to stimulate it and vibrating toys, there is nothing shameful about it. If things don't work out, it can lead to infidelity, and that's the worst thing for me personally. Don't get there.
Try to seduce him, make some kind of sexy game, candles, sexy lingerie, this and that .... but if you still drive him through the millet again, from the door for the feet to know that there are just this type of men who do not change and do not want to change their temperament and habits, in short rural backs. Drop it, it's just not worth it and look for something better.
Number 3 - we can't agree with that! :) Many men know how to satisfy a woman and more :) But it depends who she is! There are men who are not so good, and there are women. There are many reasons, but you are right that when there is a problem, the most important thing is to talk about it. But without thrill, desire and trust - nothing will happen. Many couples are together without true and strong love and therefore sex is lame. Talk to him. Good luck.
the problems between the partners are bilateral, almost always when sex is not going (unless it is a disease) "guilty" are both .... often they are not for each other at all ... there is no movie that says .... "No I like how he licks me ".... or" He never makes me cum "... Many couples never find the joy of sex .... many other couples adjust to each other to do the" job ". or because of children ... others find themselves and the other after 10 years and after many conversations and completely accidental discoveries ... and there are some ---- from the first time they are intoxicated .. what a passion .... what an ending ... there are no universal recipes --- talk to each other, love each other and if the end comes --- OK, if it doesn't come ---- Happiness is not a one-time act but a journey ....
- by the Author Thank you for the advice! I feel bad just thinking that this is the reason for our separation, we have been together for a long time. We do a lot of things, I fulfill all his fantasies, we try new poses. The problem is that he doesn't feel the rhythm (he just inserts and exits as he pleases ... he's just starting to get nice and he starts very fast) or while he licks me, he presses too much with his tongue (sometimes he doesn't do it in the right place at all) ???)) and I don't like it, it starts to hurt. I've already told him about these things, but unfortunately he continues in the same spirit ... he doesn't touch me anywhere but between his legs ... we do it less and less now, because the feeling for me is very unpleasant, and maybe already and he doesn't feel desire ... seeing that it doesn't work ... Is there any hope for our relationship? We are both 20 and live together. I'm starting to think about others and I'm very upset! Our separation would be very difficult for both of us.
Will you ever brag about your friends or will you always mutter that they are not good for sex and you continue to stay with them. He who doesn't like it doesn't wait two years, but leaves in 2-3 months. The fact that you can't experience pleasure-orgasm is the problem in you, not in it. And did you have fun with other men and did you give them blowjobs. Not to mention that you haven't been with other men. Don't pretend to be a saint now.
- from the Author to number 8 He is second to me, and I am his first, so it was completely normal at the beginning not to know what to do.
Girls I solved my problem myself. For years, we can't talk about foreplay together, of course, but I deliver my orgasms alone during sex. So we are all happy and there are no scandals. Men are selfish and impatient, do not waste time
Well, it's normal for him not to satisfy you, since you are his only sexual partner, and I, like him, used to think that sex is inside and out. Look, I judge for myself, he thinks he's good at sex and that you you're crooked, believe me I'm telling you from experience. I advise you to correct it while doing it. If I'm right with conversations, it won't work, just because he can't accept that he's just bad at sex. His libido will increase. But he won't realize it until you dump him for it. With bad sex, relationships don't work, if he starts to limp or you forget him and accept an asexual relationship or you run away, there is no middle ground.
In order not to be disturbed by sex in a relationship, try to diversify something, for example, take a vibrator http://www.sex-erotika.com/vibratori and try to masturbate in front of him. This will excite him further and will help you to finish and unload mentally and physically and to experience the pleasure you need so that you do not have problems and fight over other everyday things.
And I'm dissatisfied, I'm a 41-year-old woman. I met and got married in a Christian church. religion does not allow us to have sex before marriage. it turned out that we were both chaste on our first wedding night. it turned out that he had a problem with premature emptying and it ended very quickly and I was wrong. I don't feel any pleasure and he got his. so I started begging him to go to a family therapist and a counselor so he could help him but he didn't want to hear either. so things got worse between us and I started pushing him away sexually. this worsened our relationship even more and we broke up and divorced. Do any of the ladies have a similar situation. share what you think about my case ...
No one knows exactly where the problem is in such cases as the author's. The most accurate comment is on number 6. It has generally explained the various variations that exist in sexual relationships. Maybe you haven't met the man of your life yet, and that's the problem. But if you still want to stay with this person, you have to try to change not only him, but yourself. You need to get to know all your erogenous zones, and unleash the dormant sexual energy inside you. Unleash your fantasies, and learn to relax as much as possible during sex. You don't have to talk to your friend about this at all to explain how bad he is. Just show him during sex what you like and where you want him to focus. The potential for positive development for both of you is huge, believe me! Number 13, your story intrigued me! I didn't understand, what exactly is the religion you profess? Are you an Orthodox Christian, a Catholic or some other current in Christianity? Because I know about Catholics that they are not allowed to divorce. Or at least, divorced women are not looked upon favorably ... And I didn't understand anything else. After it ended so prematurely, didn't he repeat it? Be sure that if it ends prematurely (depending on what you mean by that), then he did not get much pleasure from sex. He needed training to exercise his ability to control his arousal. Of course, this took time, and there had to be desire and will on both sides. It turns out that you did not find the right man. Maybe he didn't come across the woman, for which it is worth the effort, even without her asking for it. And maybe after you he will come across a woman who will not be interested in his quick ejaculation at all ....
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I agree with number 15!
One thing I can't understand. This woman, the man must take care of her, love her, be faithful to her, treat her like a princess, be smart, tactful, good, if he can have a nice body and be beautiful, if he can to be gifted like a horse, to be good in sex, isn't that too much for me ...
A 26-year-old woman is nice, but also unlucky. Girls I had the same problem as the author, 3 serious boyfriends and they were all men with little experience in sex, and with little ones. I was the first of the two of them, but they remained inexperienced and after 2 years of having sex, they couldn't give me what I wanted. I tried vibrators secretly, but I was obviously jealous of my girlfriends, who described sex with their boyfriends as the greatest thing in their relationship. In the end, I decided to turn my back on everything and look for a boyfriend who would meet my sexual needs, I tried it in several places and finally found it on Tinder, very gifted, appreciating a healthy life and very fond of sex. From his description, it was clear that he was scaring me if it wasn't a lie. After the first meeting with him, my legs trembled from the orgasms I experienced and I sat on a bench for 15 minutes, because I wasn't sure I would have the strength to drive. We saw each other several times and it definitely had a positive effect on my love life.
Girls, do you realize that while looking for only sex in a man you will never find a decent one! Explain to me, are you looking for a sex machine in two words "dick with legs" I apologize for the expression. Or a person who cares for you and will always be by your side and supports and respects you. From your way of thinking I understand the following. "It's simple to a worm, but we have very good sex with it." A self-respecting, smart man with a conscience and dignity will never look at you if he sees your way of thinking. Number 17, he told you very accurately. From this forum and anonymous opinions of many women in various topics, I understand that it is NOT the man who uses May for sex.
Egati selfish women - this woman must take care of them, clean them, cook, give birth to children, work and pay equally in them, be beautiful, eternally young and supported and not want anything and not want and experience pleasure in bed ... Well, aren't you overdoing it? !!
Dear girls (women), do not worry about yourself. Seek and achieve what you want. Everyone (and men) can change as long as they want to. If he does not want to and you will not be able to compromise with something important to you, then there is no choice but to separate. Otherwise, many cloudy days and wasted life are set. And children suffer the most from these things. Sex is not in the first place, but it is not in the second. Mental and physical harassment and a bunch of other things you shouldn't compromise on. Everyone deserves a second chance, even the bully, but only second, not third or lifelong compromises. If he wants - he will change. If not - alive and well, and goodbye! Author: don't stop looking for ways to change things. It is possible to get better (if he sticks to you). But if they don't get better, don't despair :) Know that there are many men in the same situation as with you. What an irony, huh? There are many suitable partners for you! You deserve a partner (like all people) with whom to get along without words. It is absurd to compromise on sex and be dissatisfied. There is no way a man can fulfill all desires, but there is no excuse for not trying, right? I wish you and all people very nice and dedicated sex :) Male 46 years old.