Hello! I feel different and I've always felt that way ... I don't know why at 18 years old. I am from one of the big cities in Bulgaria. I don't have many friends, and those who do have a feeling that they don't care about me at all, and I don't have a girlfriend. In general, I am surrounded by many people, but I can't find a girlfriend .. I'm not ugly, fat or dumb .. I train martial arts. And my life in general is school, trainings and that ... And my friends go out, but I have to either call them to call me or just see them somewhere .. Sometimes I asked them why they didn't call me their next outing, and they told me "you're not leaving you" or something like that .. It's true that I rarely go out, but just after training believe me, it's not in most cases until I go out, and they smoke, they drink, and I don't ... I'm a good student at school,
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See you need environment and social contacts. If you feel sorry for yourself, go to a disco at least once every two weeks, try to talk to the girls. You need to relax and have fun. Don't smoke or drink when you don't want to, but if you don't have a ban from your parents, etc., don't miss the privilege of those years. Discos are not just a haunt of what is fashionable now - substandard girls, garbage, etc. You know how one knows another, the other another and so it becomes a big gang. you will always meet someone who suits your interests, views, etc. and deal with literature. And in old age you will find it increasingly difficult to get closer to people. Now friendships are formed and you learn who is literate, who is not, how to recognize who to admit to you. I don't know about a relationship started by a disco, but I know a lot of men,
The same story is with me ... Only where I'm a girl. And I train and try to consolidate my time with this. I'm trying to get used to it and so ...
Accept that you simply will not find your environment in this place. You say you're eighteen - you'll probably be able to move somewhere in no more than a year. But even if you stay at home, don't despair. At this age, it is extremely important to prioritize - and let one of the main ones be your personal cultivation. :) Always try to be the best in what you practice (in this case - martial arts), believe in yourself and put the problems in communication aside for a while. When you build your vision of things and learn to believe in yourself at all costs, the right people will come to you on their own. :) I have a similar attitude on the issue of discos and so on .. and I was also worried for a long time about my differences, but at one point I decided that in the first place I should be a person with a position, and only then to be a friend, partner and so on. I hope I have been helpful and I wish you success in every endeavor! :) М21