Hello, please from the "share" team to publish my story. :) I'm H. at 19, I'm Turkish, I fell in love with a Bulgarian. We had a happy relationship for 4 years. We loved each other a lot, generally from a young age until now I got used to him, he was my first love my "childish" love. My parents were against him and did not trust him, he tried in every way to gain their trust. My parents insulted him, what did they not tell him and he smiled, he never said anything bad about them and they tried to touch him every time they saw him. He had his name tattooed on his left breast, proving to me in many ways that he loved me. But that was the sweetest thing he did for me. We had quarrels in the relationship because there was no "sex", he told me that he would wait for me as long as necessary, but last year he pressed me a lot. I wasn't ready and I didn't want to, I wanted to have sex when we got married. He was very angry with me, even when I refused, he didn't pick up the phone and then apologized, saying it was a man's need. I was in a lot of pain and I lost my trust in him. I had paid a hacker to hack his password on "facebook", I am not happy with my action ... But there was a period in which I had an instinct that he was doing something behind my back. I saw that you wrote to a mutual friend of mine who I don't particularly like, and she briefly gave him her address. He had said he would come in an hour. I was crushed. So I went and caught a taxi, I was at the given address I couldn't call right away but finally I gathered my strength I called, he opened it for me .. I won't describe what I saw .. I told him that everything was over and much more .. For a month and In 2 weeks everything is over, he keeps calling me and looking for me. I wouldn't forgive him ... But do you think he loves me? After all, he endured the insults of my parents, he tattooed his name ... But if he loved me, he would be completely faithful to me, wouldn't he?
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I think the boy still loves you, but you are big people - you are 19 years old, he is probably older, and the love between adults and sexually mature individuals wants to be consumed. 4 years he was not without sex, unless he was sick or something abnormal, but whose fault is it? Traditions, parents, virginity were more important to you than your relationship and love, and at some point his body prevailed and he had sex with other women. Is it? Who is right and who is wrong? In my opinion, it depends entirely on you whether you will have a future together, but the sacrifice can be very big - to give up your nurtured "values" and live as a modern woman of the 21st century. You know very well why your parents don't like him and will never like him - not because of him as a person, but because of his origin and religion. Until you marry a person of their choice - another Turk, a cousin or at least another Muslim, they will not be at peace. I'm not just talking about this boy. Even if you decide not to forgive, you will have the same problem later, unless you marry the man your parents choose. Your friend would immediately marry you, but you know that this will not be enough for yours - if he is going to do a somersault, it will not be enough, because he cannot change his ethnicity or gender and will never become a real Muslim, because you can't grow up with modern values and go back to the Middle Ages even if you love a woman, and 4 years is not much - how long will he endure harassment? But yes - the man loves you. It depends on you what you will do with it and what is more important in your life - love or your parents. And I will not lie to you, that love gives some guarantee of eternity and life, because that is not the case. You will have a lot of cultural problems if you live with a Bulgarian, including for our men, virginity does not make you more valuable or less valuable, but is just a zipper. Yes, he will appreciate it, because he will be the first, but if he is not happy with you and things do not work out, it will not prevent him from parting with you, because he will not think that he owes you who knows what because of a zipper, with which every woman was born. Hey, this is your risk - if you have nothing but virginity to offer to a man, rather keep it for your parents' chosen one, but here you will say whether the ties between Muslims are for life or you are just practicing serial monogamy, but under marital attire and you break up just as often as other people ... you will say here ...