Hello. I want to share with you just a small episode of the whole range of harassment applied to me by my husband, who has a truly narcissistic personality disorder. When we go out together, he constantly flirts in front of my eyes with others, he does it not verbally, but with body language, mostly with a look. It does it regularly when we're having coffee, when we're just out for a walk, it makes it so that I can see and feel neglected, I can feel down below the other women, I can feel a little bit of a woman, I can feel unimportant, underestimated, humiliated, disliked, I always feel insecure with him, I always have to feel threatened by other women, he does it on purpose.
He is not handsome, a slightly handsome ordinary man, even slightly bald. I am a well-groomed woman with a good physique and I dress well, I take great care of my appearance because in the beginning I was caught up in nonsense and I was very jealous, so the complexes push for progress, now I am a doll next to him. He doesn't stop harassing me in that nasty way. I have been divorced for a long time, we have a son of 16, I feel sorry for the child. And when I tell him, "It's a shame you don't respect me, look what a great son we already have, how stupid and mean your behavior is." "He starts to justify that I'm making it up.
I ask him, 'Are you an enemy or a lover?' From what I read about narcissists, I know that this is exactly what they do with the victims - they mentally confuse them and the woman does not know what it is. , but he spins mean tricks on me regularly with confusing phrases and behavior, making me feel nasty, humiliated, and insecure when we are together. I ask for advice and opinion from experienced, competent, and well-meaning people. I can't go out together, I've been hanging out with him for 17 years and we're used to each other, unfortunately, but I can't get used to the mean way he regularly humiliates me, he's very happy when he humiliates and upsets me in front of other ladies.
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