I am a boy of almost 23 years old, who have been getting worse and worse for the last few months. Nothing goes as I want, I no longer have a desire for anything and I see no meaning in anything. The last thing that completes the picture is an injury in my left shoulder, which, in addition to most likely ending the sports I like, also makes daily activities a challenge. I am becoming more and more pessimistic about my future. For about 4 months now, I have been crying almost every day, contemplating suicide, and what depresses me even more is the feeling that no one will miss me. Maybe I'm stopped by knowing what I'm going to do to my parents. For a long time I haven't been able to find a girlfriend and the gossip about it from friends further depresses me. For those who will immediately tell a psychiatrist, I will answer that I do not want to because I do not want to drink antidepressants, which will most likely prescribe me.
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You are not small for these things. Get a grip. The more you complain to yourself, the worse it will get. Suicide is terribly pointless to even consider. Find a rehabilitator for the injury. Find a hobby or work alongside them you will have diversity and communicate with more people. I am a 24 year old girl. She went through all this nonsense, including the stupid psycho-doctors ...
I'll tell you - change friends! If they push you down mentally, then they are not your real friends. Heal your trauma and pursue your goals. I don't believe you have other dreams than sports. And a friend will always appear, now do not think of a friend, but treat your shoulder.
Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Think about what you want from life, what would make you happy. Dream. Then sit down, set a goal and make a plan on how to achieve it. Then act step by step. Stop thinking so much. Stop your inner dialogue. If you don't work, find a job. It will discipline you and you will not have time to think so much. And you will have money, which is important for a man's self-confidence.
It is clearly clear to you that you need to change something. The pain and horror of diseases and the fact that you are obviously not a superman cost you. I have some news for you - no supermen. Having a trauma, or making it harder in your personal life, happens to every 2nd person. It's time to show a little spirit - take measures to heal or at least alleviate the situation, change your sport with dancing with young, sweet ladies, and to those who tease you (and do not think they are your friends when they do so) ) - answer that you don't want to commit for now and it's good for you to be free;) Explain to them that at this age it's stupid to be tied to one, when there are so many :) But what you really have to do , is to get rid of human opinion. You live your life and don't let anyone give you a slant, cut and put them in their place. Fold their fins. Those are not strong, those who have no problems, strong are those who fall, roar, drag, but dig! If you do not rediscover life in a completely different light, if you do not gain faith in yourself, if you are not willing to try new things, then you give up the best in life! Problems are the salt of life, and who would want to have a tasteless meal. Do you imagine that you will not have any problems, how easy you will become and how you will end up in only 5-6 years (I know such people). With problems, destiny protects you from worse things, and by overcoming them, you move to a higher level. So, just accept that it's time for a change. Problems are the salt of life, and who would want to have a tasteless meal. Do you imagine that you will not have any problems, how easy you will become and how you will end up in only 5-6 years (I know such people). With problems, destiny protects you from worse things, and by overcoming them, you move to a higher level. So, just accept that it's time for a change. Problems are the salt of life, and who would want to have a tasteless meal. Can you imagine not having any problems, how easy you will become and how you will end up in only 5-6 years (I know such people). With problems, destiny protects you from worse things, and by overcoming them, you move to a higher level. So, just accept that it's time for a change.
Why a psychiatrist and not a psychologist / psychotherapist? The psychiatrist will prescribe you various things (which may help, I'm serious - I know people with very severe depression who came out of them with the help of TEMPORARY medication), but the psychologist / psychotherapist will look at the real reasons why you feel this way. .
From the author: I want to fight, but everything is against me. Instead of good coming after bad, worse comes, and it's always been with me. Looking at how life is flowers and roses for everyone around me, I am at the other extreme ... and the shoulder problem is serious, it is not known if I will be able to use my hand normally at all anymore ... For this reason I feel absolutely useless. I will be happy for the girl from the first comment to share how she overcame things
Do you read books? If not - start. Work on yourself. How long will shameless people prosper and sensitive ones will get depressed? Act, I was worse at your age, I was a drug addict. Pick your friends! Good books readable friends more courage. You know, no one cares about you but your parents. Respect them. You can pull young.
Dude, not having a girlfriend isn't that scary at all. I used to be bothered by this, but if a person is positive and calm, things get better. At the moment you are nervous and everything looks bad to you, but it's not. Give yourself some rest and don't take things so deep.