Hello. I like my job, but there is one problem that makes me reluctant to go to work every day. And this is my boss. But not only with the current one. In previous places where I worked, it was the same. They just don't like me and treat me badly and avoid me. Is it possible that this is due to the fact that I never have anything to say because I lead a monotonous life. By monotonous I mean that I don't travel anywhere, I just go to the village with my parents sometimes and that's it, I don't buy expensive things to brag about, ie when the boss or anyone sees that I'm not "from his rug" starts behaving badly with me and avoiding my company. Could this be the reason, or is it absurd that I should look for it in my character
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I think it's absurd. But still, you have to communicate with these people in some way, to talk about some things. This should be done naturally, not expecting someone to walk around you like a small child. If you are just silent, how should others treat you?
From the author: In the beginning, when they haven't met me yet, we talk and there is no problem. The problem starts after they get to know me, after they find out more about me. This leads me to think that this may be the reason.
It is possible to.
From what has been written, I judge that you are a person with a more traditional and limited outlook, which is not necessarily bad, but in today's modern urban culture such people are considered representatives of the "old culture". That is, the fact that you are more traditionally oriented can lead to such sentiments. You probably show this not only through your clothes, but also through your speech, behavior, etc. And why don't you try to travel somewhere? For 3-4 days. There are cheap flights to many places in Europe. You catch up with a girlfriend, boyfriend or boyfriend, and you go. You will see a little world, you will feel what the mass of other city people are doing.
It sounds strange to me that this is the reason. I also live modestly, everything I own is gathered in two bags and I spend my free time on books or in the gym. But I get along well with people, we talk to each other and I get a normal attitude. I don't know you, I don't know what the reason might be, but it's hardly that. I know people like you and treat them with respect, as well as others. Either you imagine, or you make some other mistake to repel others. But really, not everyone can like us. Some people can't stand me either, but I don't care
You say that they avoided your company, but in practice you do not keep them company except your physical presence. You're not interesting to them, you probably don't gossip. It's harder for you women to engage in quiet friendships, although there are men you can't shut their mouths to. What is the bad attitude towards you? If it's just that you're not funny, then these are absolute ducks and not worth reflecting on. However, if it is due to poor communication related to the work process, which interferes with the work, then you need to activate and be more sociable to get the job going.
From the author number 6, never interfered with the work process. I don't gossip, but for example I used to ask the boss about something for someone and she reluctantly answered me. Bad behavior is expressed in the fact that she often scolds me for insignificant things, sometimes she literally sucks "problems" from her fingers, remarks, especially when she is angry about something. Also, on every vacation or opportunity, he runs to other colleagues and does not stay with me. In the beginning she told me where she went (on guests, on holidays, on excursions), what you bought, etc., but she saw that I did not tell such things (because I have to invent) and stopped. Well, I tried not to just nod, and I said - what I think, what I heard, things like that, but it annoys her that I'm not like her. Number 4, I don't think if I go somewhere, it will change anything. A holistic lifestyle is important. And my horizons are not limited. Number 5, I don't want everyone to like me, only those with whom I spend 8 hours a day, and if they don't like me, at least not to show it so demonstratively. Otherwise, my previous boss had shared on FB a cliché like "better poor but honest", and at work she broke down to demonstrate in a delicate way how "modern" she is. Even more than the current one.